Nigerians make life uneasy for them. How on earth did it become a norm for girls to depend on their boyfriends for financial help? You need your hair made and you called your boyfriend? What nonsense! The silly idiot on the other hand won't just send the money to you, he might even come down to your house just to pick you up for the hairdressing. What are we thinking?
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He hasn't proposed to you yet but he's already treating you like a wife and as the fool that you're, you cook and wash his clothes! Do you really have brains? Don't you watch foreign movies? Don't you care to learn?
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A typical American girl won't ask his boyfriend for money to make her hair. She will just do it! If she needs money, she gets a job or ask her parents! A boyfriend is just a friend, not a caretaker, not a husband, not an employer. Don't you see it in American, Indian, Philippines movies? Boys are only responsible for your safety while on a date! In Nigeria, we do everything wrongly. Gosh!

Modified

So you want to tell me now You ain't doing all the things you listed for your bae .....

Another one.......DJ OP!!!!

Divay22:

Modified

So you want to tell me now You ain't doing all the things you listed for your bae .....

Don't you notice he's fed up ni? He's right tho

BS

Divay22:

Modified

So you want to tell me now You ain't doing all the things you listed for your bae .....

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I won't dare to try it.

LarryBeryl:


Don't you notice he's fed up ni? He's right tho

;DHe is
He might be right though But that's why we call it LOVE.....

Make all the brothers come defend themselves abeg

abeg..i dey Gambia....

MasterJoe:

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I won't dare to try it.

you never see girl way you like na make am,because the one way you go do na go plenty pass

Divay22:

;DHe is
He might be right though But that's why we call it LOVE.....

Make all the brothers come defend themselves abeg

Love.. Love is not when the girl take hair making the responsibility of the guy.

peter0071:
abeg..i dey Gambia....

No vex. Do dey come back...

LarryBeryl:


Love.. Love is not when the girl take hair making the responsibility of the guy.

You're thinking straight friend!

hmmm. h..mm

MasterJoe:


You're thinking straight friend!

I'm a guy with dick and role to play as a boyfriend... Their altitude is the reason why I do less..... If they are too happy na wahala, if they are a bit sad na problem but sha, Nigerian babes in relationship take relationships more seriously than life itself.

Its obvious Op hasnt fallen in love.
If you eventually do, You would do anything to keep her by your side.
Relationship is give and take. nothing wrong in giving your woman a good treat.
Its just poverty mentality thats some guy's problem.
Rich guys dont bother about all this.

LarryBeryl:


Love.. Love is not when the girl take hair making the responsibility of the guy.

You don't start what you can't bring to a good end or smell what you can't eat......

You tell her right from the start of the relationship Her hair making is not your responsibility But you'll assist her sometimes,it is not an obligation but optional same for other things...

So you started it and continue you will.

Maychang:
Its obvious Op hasnt fallen in love.

If you eventually do, You would do anything to keep her by your side.

Relationship is give and take. nothing wrong in giving your woman a good treat.

Its just poverty mentality thats some guy's problem.

Rich guys dont bother about all this.

do the rich girls wait on guys to make their hair?so its a two way thing then...lolz

You are quite not so right about this.

We live in different societies from those you are here comparing our girls with and our norms and culture are not that convergent when it comes to things like who plays what role in a relationship. So, if you're broke , know within you your not yet matured enough for commitment. Just mess around if you must and dont catch feelings and you wont have anything up ur medulla to worry about

Divay22:
You don't start what you can't bring to a good end or smell what you can't eat......

You tell her right from the start of the relationship Her hair making is not your responsibility But you'll assist her sometimes,it is not an obligation but optional same for other things...

So you started it and continue you will.

Boyfriends are meant for assistance... Like Fabregas assist Costa!!

uzoclinton:
hmmm. h..mm

Hmmm for good or Hmmm for bad?

Maychang:
Its obvious Op hasnt fallen in love.

If you eventually do, You would do anything to keep her by your side.

Relationship is give and take. nothing wrong in giving your woman a good treat.

Its just poverty mentality thats some guy's problem.

Rich guys dont bother about all this.

Asking women to stop being so damn dependent on men and actually show some financial intelligence is poverty mentality






This is why Femnism is still a dream in Nigeria

LarryBeryl:


Boyfriends are meant for assistance... Like Fabregas assist Costa!!

;DYes She's your bae na,so you can assist

Frolic:
You are quite not so right about this.

We live in different societies from those you are here comparing our girls with and our norms and culture are not that convergent when it comes to things like who plays what role in a relationship. So, if you're broke , know within you your not yet matured enough for commitment. Just mess around if you must and dont catch feelings and you wont have anything up ur medulla to worry about

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Read the post keenly and filter the central theme. You see, the apple of discord here is on 'dependency'. if you observe keenly, you will see that I never did generalized anything. The apple of discord was leveled on the degree in which Nigerian girls lay bare their responsibilities and obligations to a guy who opted to befriend them. I mean, it's on the high side. I'm sure you know what I mean.
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As much as our girls can learn a thing or two from the whites, they too can admire and follow a standard we've established. It's all about striking the balance. But I think, our girls having some level of independence joined with their cultural and religious premises, will make them feel more better.

Divay22:
;DYes She's your bae na,so you can assist

Yap, but do you know why most relationship fail? Too much expectation from the side of the ladies. Stop watching telemundo and Indian movies.

LarryBeryl:


Yap, but do you know why most relationship fail? Too much expectation from the side of the ladies. Stop watching telemundo and Indian movies.

Lol....I'm really not a movie freak and even if i do watch sometimes when i come across it I realize they are just acting and i don't take it serious......

Just treat her the way you want someone else to treat your sister or your daughter

LordZero:
Movies huh?

I don't buy the idea of boyfriends turning into caretaker/parents or using money to impress/hold down a girl and those movies you cited are doing more harm than good by trying to give us the "ideal/standard relationship".
Is it not in the same movies that a boy will be chasing a girl around with flowers and dates without the girl reciprocating his love?
Is it not in the same movies that dudes worship their crush?
Is it not in those movies that the sole purpose of some of the male characters on this planet is to gain the love of one girl somewhere?
Is it not movies that are promoting the idea of special someone waiting somewhere? e.t.c

If a girl is turning you to a provider without anything to offer apart from her body, use your brain and do tge needful..

Your first observation and submission depicts that you have a better grasp of the subject.
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Now, telling me if those movies I highlighted are more bad than good is not really the bone of contention. Of course, virtually everything has it pros and cons. Mind you, we're not out for a debate competition or else it will be an endless ding dong battle between the positive and negative effects of those movies.
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Sir, If you watch closely, you would noticed that I did not generalized or make those movies a standard or yardstick to follow intoto. I was only concerned and enthralled by the dependency nature the female whites depicts in their movies. At least, in this aspect, we can learn one or two thing. There's no big deal in this.

Divay22:
Lol....I'm really not a movie freak and even if i do watch sometimes when i come across it I realize they are just acting and i don't take it serious......

Just treat her the way you want someone else to treat your sister or your daughter

Lol, that's why I don't start what I can't finish

MasterJoe:


No vex. Do dey come back...

I must come back ooo.... lols

Maychang:
Its obvious Op hasnt fallen in love.

If you eventually do, You would do anything to keep her by your side.

Relationship is give and take. nothing wrong in giving your woman a good treat.

Its just poverty mentality thats some guy's problem.

Rich guys dont bother about all this.

Sorry bro. You missed it bro. Have you ever imagined a situation where every guy wants to marry a girl that is self-independent and empowered. You know what that means right.

Look, no one is saying that a guy should not take adequate care of his girl. Hell no. But doesn't it ring a bell in your ears, when ladies lay bare their every problems to a boyfriend who isn't even their husband? Come on man!

MasterJoe:


Sorry bro. You missed it bro. Have you ever imagined a situation where every guy wants to marry a girl that is self-independent and empowered. You know what that means right.

Look, no one is saying that a guy should not take adequate care of his girl. Hell no. But doesn't it ring a bell in your ears, when ladies lay bare their every problems to a boyfriend who isn't even their husband? Come on man!

I aint no bro..dude! Dont y'all see the "f" icon?

Did you miss the part i mentioned that Relationship is mutual?

Maychang:
Its obvious Op hasnt fallen in love.

If you eventually do, You would do anything to keep her by your side.

Relationship is give and take. nothing wrong in giving your woman a good treat.

Its just poverty mentality thats some guy's problem.

Rich guys dont bother about all this.

Sorry bro. You missed it bro. Have you ever imagined a situation where every guy wants to marry a girl that is self-independent and empowered. You know what that means right.

Look, no one is saying that a guy should not take adequate care of his girl. Hell no. But doesn't it ring a bell in your ears, when ladies lay bare their every problems to a boyfriend who isn't even their husband? Come on man! Or do you want it to become an issue similar to the Bible where ladies have to cast all their burdens upon their boyfriends because he cares for them. Hehe!