MASTURBATION IN MARRIAGE

A married woman sent me this:

"Hello @seun, there is a question I want to ask you concerning the topic you just treated on masturbation. l came here due to the need for privacy. Assuming someone that her husband is not always around for like 2or 3 months, and always have sex urge, instead of having extra marital affairs, she decide to do the solo sex by herself, by using intimacy gadgets or masturbate, please what's your take on this, kindly advise, but remember body no be fire wood ooo, thanks ma'am."

Someone also asked me a similar question. That what should a married man who is not always around do to his sex urge? Should he masturbate? Is it allowed in marriage? At least that is better than adultery!

Sex in marriage is a very serious issue that should not be taken with levity. Couples must do all they can to stay sexually intimate as often as they can, it's one of the reasons we get married.

Regardless of what any body says, quoting the scripture from Genesis to revelation, it's not easy for a married person to stay off sex for a week talkless of months, that is the truth, it's not even good for the health of a marriage!

Now that a partner is not always around, what should you do to your sexual urge, masturbate? No! Masturbation is a SIN for anybody whether single or married. The best thing to do to deal with your sexual urge if it is getting out of hand is to stay close to your spouse. Either relocate to where they are transfered or quit the job and find something else to do if you do not want to lose your sanity on the altar of adultery. If relocating or changing job is not possible then you need to do something to TAME your sexual desire, you just can't masturbate. It is dangerous!

The truth is, in marriage, masturbation alone doesn't satisfy. Eventually, you get tired and look for someone to really have sex with. So what should you do?

1. Take your mind off sex. Your most powerful sexual organ is the brain. If you don't think about it, you won't do it.

2. Get busy: sexual desire comes with energy. Channel that energy towards your job, kingdom service and children. Don't be idle. An idle hand is the devil's workshop.

3. Study your Bible a lot. The more of God you have in you, the less desire you have for sin and it's allures.

4. Pray and speak in tongues always, it sanctifies you.

5. Make friends with godly people not satanic agents who believe it is not possible to stay faithful to one's spouse in the absence of regular sex.

6. Avoid x-rated movies, pornograghy, romantic movies and nude pictures.

7. Do not make friends with any member of the opposite sex.

8. Stay off alcohol and sex triggering drugs.

9. See masturbation as it is: destructive and sinful!

10. Excercise a lot and keep fit. It helps keep your mind active and off negative and idle thoughts.

Couples once again should try all they can to stay sexually close and if that is not possible for obvious reasons then keep your mind completely off sex till your partner returns.

Masturbation is demonic, sinful and destructive, you won't fall for it in Jesus name. God bless you. Cheers!
© Seun Oladele, 2017.
www.askseunoladele..com

Nice one Seun,the part I like so much is to take the mind off sex,it works and its possible

Many pple are of the opinion that they can masturbate before marriage, and that once they get married, they'll stop, since they can have sex at anytime.

It doesn't work that way. If you can't stop now, you wouldn't stop then... Trust me

Masturbation is like weed. Once you taste it, it is hard to stop. Addiction or destruction

Masturbation over Cheating tho

when d urge comes and u find itself in a secluded area, take ur bible and read or look for something to do.

Alright

If you can't take your mind of it then I think masturbation should work. Just make sure you think about your partner while doing it.

Jay542:
If you can't take your mind of it then I think masturbation should work. Just make sure you think about your partner while doing it.

I don't think that's enough justification. Look at it this way, you got to know she did it but she said she was thinking about you all the time. What would you think/say/do?

Hhhhhmmmmm

... But if the Brian is the most powerful sex organ, and thought is real, having mental sex with your spouse while masturbating cannot be that bad.

After all, the Bible say if one looks/thinks lustfully about a person, one has already committed, so why not make that person your spouse?

It would be doubly wrong for my spouse to be physically away and mentally away from me.

But wait Oooooh, while single one is told not to indulge sexual pleasures and now that one is finally married same still applies?

askseunoladele:
MASTURBATION IN MARRIAGE

A married woman sent me this:

"Hello @seun, there is a question I want to ask you concerning the topic you just treated on masturbation. l came here due to the need for privacy. Assuming someone that her husband is not always around for like 2or 3 months, and always have sex urge, instead of having extra marital affairs, she decide to do the solo sex by herself, by using intimacy gadgets or masturbate, please what's your take on this, kindly advise, but remember body no be fire wood ooo, thanks ma'am."

Someone also asked me a similar question. That what should a married man who is not always around do to his sex urge? Should he masturbate? Is it allowed in marriage? At least that is better than adultery!

Sex in marriage is a very serious issue that should not be taken with levity. Couples must do all they can to stay sexually intimate as often as they can, it's one of the reasons we get married.

Regardless of what any body says, quoting the scripture from Genesis to revelation, it's not easy for a married person to stay off sex for a week talkless of months, that is the truth, it's not even good for the health of a marriage!

Now that a partner is not always around, what should you do to your sexual urge, masturbate? No! Masturbation is a SIN for anybody whether single or married. The best thing to do to deal with your sexual urge if it is getting out of hand is to stay close to your spouse. Either relocate to where they are transfered or quit the job and find something else to do if you do not want to lose your sanity on the altar of adultery. If relocating or changing job is not possible then you need to do something to TAME your sexual desire, you just can't masturbate. It is dangerous!

The truth is, in marriage, masturbation alone doesn't satisfy. Eventually, you get tired and look for someone to really have sex with. So what should you do?

1. Take your mind off sex. Your most powerful sexual organ is the brain. If you don't think about it, you won't do it.

2. Get busy: sexual desire comes with energy. Channel that energy towards your job, kingdom service and children. Don't be idle. An idle hand is the devil's workshop.

3. Study your Bible a lot. The more of God you have in you, the less desire you have for sin and it's allures.

4. Pray and speak in tongues always, it sanctifies you.

5. Make friends with godly people not satanic agents who believe it is not possible to stay faithful to one's spouse in the absence of regular sex.

6. Avoid x-rated movies, pornograghy, romantic movies and nude pictures.

7. Do not make friends with any member of the opposite sex.

8. Stay off alcohol and sex triggering drugs.

9. See masturbation as it is: destructive and sinful!

10. Excercise a lot and keep fit. It helps keep your mind active and off negative and idle thoughts.

Couples once again should try all they can to stay sexually close and if that is not possible for obvious reasons then keep your mind completely off sex till your partner returns.

Masturbation is demonic, sinful and destructive, you won't fall for it in Jesus name. God bless you. Cheers!
© Seun Oladele, 2017.
www.askseunoladele..com

Quote where masturbation is a sin and I ll give you more reason as to y it can't be a sin for married people

deekseen:

I don't think that's enough justification. Look at it this way, you got to know she did it but she said she was thinking about you all the time. What would you think/say/do?

I must not know everything. So she shouldn't even tell me.
Before a married person should even think of that, he/she must really have been sex starved. Say months without seeing your partner.

Back to your question, I'll be like "Oh really..." and I'll definitely bang her there and then. I'll make sure she have a nice time. Then we can review the matter again.

What kind of quack advice is this? Lol!

askseunoladele:


Sex in marriage is a very serious issue that should not be taken with levity. Couples must do all they can to stay sexually intimate as often as they can, it's one of the reasons we get married.

ARRANT NONSENSE #1
Being sexually intimate is NOT the reason why people get married... Wanting to spend the rest of your life with someone, and committing to one another is the reason why people get married (as well as peer/social/religious/family pressure).

Regardless of what any body says, quoting the scripture from Genesis to revelation, it's not easy for a married person to stay off sex for a week talkless of months, that is the truth, it's not even good for the health of a marriage!

Now that a partner is not always around, what should you do to your sexual urge, masturbate? No! Masturbation is a SIN for anybody whether single or married. The best thing to do to deal with your sexual urge if it is getting out of hand is to stay close to your spouse. Either relocate to where they are transfered or quit the job and find something else to do if you do not want to lose your sanity on the altar of adultery. If relocating or changing job is not possible then you need to do something to TAME your sexual desire, you just can't masturbate. It is dangerous!!

ARRANT NONSENSE #2
Masturbation is not dangerous nor a sin (unless you are a religious sheep).
Although its best to be sexually satisfied by your partner, if they are not around then you can/should find ways to tame the sexual urges. Masturbation is just a healthy way to lower the urges until real sex. Some spouse sometimes stay years apart, and expecting them to not masturbate is a sure recipe for disaster.

The truth is, in marriage, masturbation alone doesn't satisfy. Eventually, you get tired and look for someone to really have sex with. So what should you do?

ARRANT NONSENSE #3
Masturbation does satisfy, although it is a different type of satisfaction, that should NOT be compared with real sex. If the person decide to cheat then the problem is NOT masturbation, but instead it is the spouse's brain who gladly cheat.

1. Take your mind off sex. Your most powerful sexual organ is the brain. If you don't think about it, you won't do it.
2. Get busy: sexual desire comes with energy. Channel that energy towards your job, kingdom service and children. Don't be idle. An idle hand is the devil's workshop.

ARRANT NONSENSE #4
As if being ho.rny can be tamed by not thinking of sex or being busy, lol! Here is a clue: if that person doesn't masturbate (and get rid of the urge) then they won't be able to function right, because sex will be the ONLY thing in their mind.

3. Study your Bible a lot. The more of God you have in you, the less desire you have for sin and it's allures.

4. Pray and speak in tongues always, it sanctifies you.

ARRANT NONSENSE #5
The bible/religion is powerless against sexual urges, that's why so many priest are pedos and gladly rape kids.

5. Make friends with godly people not satanic agents who believe it is not possible to stay faithful to one's spouse in the absence of regular sex.

ARRANT NONSENSE #6
Who might be that "Satanic agent" when a spouse is home alone and decide to masturbate?!
Are you claiming that masturbation is cheating?!

6. Avoid x-rated movies, pornograghy, romantic movies and nude pictures.

Duh!

7. Do not make friends with any member of the opposite sex.

ARRANT NONSENSE #7
Again, whether around the opposite sex or not, a person will still have urges... Urges comes naturally with time.

9. See masturbation as it is: destructive and sinful!

ARRANT NONSENSE #8
It is only destructive and sinful to follow-follow religious sheep who can't think for themselves.

10. Excercise a lot and keep fit. It helps keep your mind active and off negative and idle thoughts.

Couples once again should try all they can to stay sexually close and if that is not possible for obvious reasons then keep your mind completely off sex till your partner returns.

ARRANT NONSENSE #9
Sexual thoughts can be triggered by anything.... For example: Thinking about your partner, etc

Masturbation is demonic, sinful and destructive, you won't fall for it in Jesus name. God bless you. Cheers!

There is nothing demonic about a hor.ny spouse pleasuring themselves, in the absence of their partner, in order to tame their sexual urges.
You should have taken a clue from what the lady wrote:"body no be firewood"

Omo, see analysis of Arrant Nonsense 1- 5

Guy gat no chills

It's better to masturbate than to end up fvcking the wrong person