yinkslinks:
Sweetie are u married? You sounded so reasonable

adorablepepple:

Not married ,thank you

CellTabRepairs:


You understood the root cause of the story. She had no realistic reasons as far as marriage is concerned. God who created us does not tolerate disobedience. He instituted marriage and established order that the woman should submit to authority, not giving reasons for disobeying a man's rule. What crap is she saying about finance being her reasons when the man was still in active service? We agree money can never be enough but if his order is not to work it should be obeyed. Moreover aside God's marital order, with your eyes open you married a man in an institution where only "yes sir!" is the norm from those below your level and you are flexing muscles with him. Se ori e correct so?

philGeo:
I know you are among the few good women left, i love the way you see it form another angle.

tartarus:
It's either most Men on nairaland are daft or its just a common thing with Nigerian men! What rubbish! She decided to work and her husband disagreed and now it's her fault for disobeying her husband and going ahead to work!. My daughter can never marry a typical Nigerian man.
Marriage to a typical Nigerian man is slavery & bondage!. I'll send my daughter to school and one egoistic bastard will forbid her from working. Never!
Really what do we men want?? If she's not working; she's a liability, if she starts working; she's not submissive

Because we have dicks doesn't mean we can override people's lives! Stupidity!

ola808:


How do you know she's greedy?
Will a greedy woman get a house in a cheaper environment and pay the rent for years when the husband couldn't afford the high cost of their lekki home or pay the children's fees?

Please try to be objective when commenting on issues.

eleko1:
she doesn't deserve this barbaric act.She want to work to free u from burden, u nor gree. Give her money?mbah! u instead flogged her.

adontcare:
The only reasonable comment so far. Some men are just plainly wicked. They derive joy seeing their wives in rags,suffering and facing hardships. They don't want their wives growth. They go to any length to ensure that. If Mr navy man dnt want the wife to work he should have start her up with business. She endured for 21 years scambling after him. Most wise men for example the IBO men encourages and assist their women to either work or do businesses. A virtuous woman should not fold her hands and sit at home. Even bible exalted a virtuous woman. Disobedience my foot.

tartarus:

Please bro it's not about being disrespectful, she wants to work cos it's beneficial to her life and as a man if my woman wants to work I should support her insteadof bringing her down. Come on, so her husband expected her to just seat at home and become a baby making factory. We as men have to support our women, give me reasons why the woman's decision to work is a bad one??. I'm sure you'd say it's cos she won't be "submissive". We Nigerian men should stop being threatened over irrelevant things.

eleko1:
she doesn't deserve this barbaric act.She want to work to free u from burden, u nor gree. Give her money?mbah! u instead flogged her.

adorablepepple:
Disobedience is the root of all these problem, and madam couldn't manage with Oga since he is retired....... women these days everything is domestic violence mtceeew

neocortex:


It is not your fault that you reason this way, I only blame those
who convinced you that suffering is normal.

Ashleydolls:
As expected y"all are still gonna blame the woman. Typical robots made and programmed by the society

adorablepepple:
Disobedience is the root of all these problem, and madam couldn't manage with Oga since he is retired....... women these days everything is domestic violence mtceeew

northvietnam:
wicked woman

victorazy:

Man is the head of family. If he refused the woman work she shouldn't have dishonored him.

samtol4:
A wife is not housemaid or school pupil ,a woman is a co pilot i n a marriage .The man is wicked

victorjoe:



The head of the family stated that he does not want you to work. Even of na garri we de drink, don't work.

The best she should have done is to cajole him to agree before she started work.

Some people ehn! Imagine you telling your wife bit to do something and she goes ahead.

Culin:


Really shameful coming from a woman. I pray your present or future husband beats you up till his hands bleed and his iron rod bends. Mtchew.

INTROVERT:
This is one side of the story.... We need to hear the husbands side and the schools side before we conclude.

adorablepepple:
Disobedience is the root of all these problem, and madam couldn't manage with Oga since he is retired....... women these days everything is domestic violence mtceeew




To all of you trolling me and quoting my comment, it's my opinion and i thought about the whole scenario up there before airing my view........ my brain is not programmed to believe every domestic violence story because nowadays women use domestic violence as a weapon....

INTROVERT:
This is one side of the story.... We need to hear the husbands side and the schools side before we conclude.

tartarus:
It's either most Men on nairaland are daft or its just a common thing with Nigerian men! What rubbish! She decided to work and her husband disagreed and now it's her fault for disobeying her husband and going ahead to work!. My daughter can never marry a typical Nigerian man.
Marriage to a typical Nigerian man is slavery & bondage!. I'll send my daughter to school and one egoistic bastard will forbid her from working. Never!
Really what do we men want?? If she's not working; she's a liability, if she starts working; she's not submissive

Because we have dicks doesn't mean we can override people's lives! Stupidity!

Apina:

Sorry to say but your comment is somewhat absurd. The money she's gonna earn, isn't it gonna be used within the family? So why should the husband be threatened in anyway. What amount of money or going by ur logic, success is worth more than family unity? Its not the case that the husband couldn't feed, cloth or put a roof over her head, so what more does she want after 21 years? Contentment is a virtue, greed its opposite.

coolviv:
But wait first...
All these argument..
Do you all realise that 21 years is not 21 days?
And a woman born and bred in Nigeria, knowing all the ramifications still ran away from the marriage?
Think am for a minute...who does that? A happy well taken care of wife? Or a serially abused wife who finally received the beating and humiliation that broke the camel''s back. He beat and disgraced her in public?
Let's think about that for a minute..beating a matured at least 40 year old woman in public? Beating her at all..does that seem right at all? Does that picture in ur mind look good? Acceptable?

What does marriage mean to an average Nigerian woman? You have no right to a successful life without your husband's approval? She got a job...so what? Financial needs were not being met and she decided to help out....Kill her and crucify her...she has disobeyed her husband. As a good Nigerian wife, she should have quietly folded her hands and watched herself and her children lack. That is what a good wife does.
So when is she going to be a good mother? Who here has ever felt the pain of your child needing or asking for something you are unable to provide?

We all need to be careful in this country..in our stance, our comments, the things we support and condone. You might take a stance because you are a man today but always remember that you ll have daughters, grand daughters , great grand daughters....and you won't always be in the world to help or protect them.

The least any decent and reasonable man can do is to leave a decent society behind that ll keep both his male and female children in good health and well being.

Apina:

Do u know how much a naval captain earns as basic salary?Not including allowance. If he's able to afford a driver based on her story, why can't he be able to fend for his family of just 3 persons? She said things weren't going so well for the family and that's the reason for her choosing to work, if I may ask, @ what point in time did you get to hear that the armed forces were deprived of their wage or wages? There are still more questions I would have loved to ask but let me leave it at this.

Nota bene: There was no mention of a lekki home in the story, she said the husband sold their house without mentioning its location. Always read through carefully so as not to get things mixed up and always apply logic and reason not sentiments when analysing issues that's only when u can attain the truth and in turn objectivity.

Ashleydolls:
As expected y"all are still gonna blame the woman. Typical robots made and programmed by the society