I am a lady of 27years old, a virgin,weird?i know.
I have been having problems with relationships,probably because all the guys I dated requested for sex and I walked out several times when it became unbearable for me.
I dated a doctor last year but he walked out on me cos I refused him sex. The guys that keep approaching me are the guys I don't like, including the doctor.
Now, I am involved with three guys, the first one is one of my classmates in university. He loves me the most out of the three guys and he is very caring but the problem is that I don't have feelings for him at all. Don't get me wrong, I tried but no feelings whatsoever.
The second one is nice too but the problem is that he told me that his dad married two wives and that he is not in good terms with the dad. Another thing is that he is too religious, he says he doesn't like girls that wear makeup, he hates weavon, hair relaxers and so on. I am scared,i feel like he would control me too much if I marry him. He told me one time to plait weavon with my natural hair so he can check whether I look beautiful with it. I refused anyway. He scrutinises every little thing I do or the way I dress. He doesn't like trousers on women too(i don't wear trousers) .He even noticed when I carved my eyebrow and asked me not to do so again.
And lastly, the third guy is the one I have feelings for. He was my sister's classmate in school. He made it clear he won't marry me (maybe because of my sister) but I keep going back to him. I love him so much and I really feel bad about it. but havent had sex.i told him I'm a virgin
Now, I don't really know what to do. I feel like I will say yes to either the first guy or second guy because they have started discussing marriage issues with me.
I pray I forget the last guy.
Please I need advice. Time is not on my side anymore

Don't marry someone because time is running out. You'll be divorced in the next few years. It's funny how we always want what we can't have. . Thats all i have to say

A guy made it clear he doesn't want anything serious with you yet you keep allowing the thought of him dominate your mind knowing fully well time isn't on your side.

I am the fourth guy.... .. ... come let's do the thing

you can't run, you can't hide, you can't say no when the WRONG one Loves you RIGHT....

so think about the first Guy..

Sometimes it's better we don't take some steps because we are running out of time....
I'll advice you don't settle for were your heart doesn't belong, it might lead to frustration....
Don't rush in so you don't rush out.....

Do you believe only God guide aright? If so, Pray!!!

savvy12:
I am a lady of 27years old, a virgin,weird?i know.
I have been having problems with relationships,probably because all the guys I dated requested for sex and I walked out several times when it became unbearable for me.
I dated a doctor last year but he walked out on me cos I refused him sex. The guys that keep approaching me are the guys I don't like, including the doctor.
Now, I am involved with three guys, the first one is one of my classmates in university. He loves me the most out of the three guys and he is very caring but the problem is that I don't have feelings for him at all. Don't get me wrong, I tried but no feelings whatsoever.
The second one is nice too but the problem is that he told me that his dad married two wives and that he is not in good terms with the dad. Another thing is that he is too religious, he says he doesn't like girls that wear makeup, he hates weavon, hair relaxers and so on. I am scared,i feel like he would control me too much if I marry him. He told me one time to plait weavon with my natural hair so he can check whether I look beautiful with it. I refused anyway. He scrutinises every little thing I do or the way I dress. He doesn't like trousers on women too(i don't wear trousers) .He even noticed when I carved my eyebrow and asked me not to do so again.
And lastly, the third guy is the one I have feelings for. He was my sister's classmate in school. He made it clear he won't marry me (maybe because of my sister) but I keep going back to him. I love him so much and I really feel bad about it. We kissed several times but havent had sex.i told him I'm a virgin.
Now, I don't really know what to do. I feel like I will say yes to either the first guy or second guy because they have started discussing marriage issues with me.
I pray I forget the last guy.
Please I need advice. Time is not on my side anymore

savvy12:
I am a lady of 27years old, a virgin,weird?i know.
I have been having problems with relationships,probably because all the guys I dated requested for sex and I walked out several times when it became unbearable for me.
I dated a doctor last year but he walked out on me cos I refused him sex. The guys that keep approaching me are the guys I don't like, including the doctor.
Now, I am involved with three guys, the first one is one of my classmates in university. He loves me the most out of the three guys and he is very caring but the problem is that I don't have feelings for him at all. Don't get me wrong, I tried but no feelings whatsoever.
The second one is nice too but the problem is that he told me that his dad married two wives and that he is not in good terms with the dad. Another thing is that he is too religious, he says he doesn't like girls that wear makeup, he hates weavon, hair relaxers and so on. I am scared,i feel like he would control me too much if I marry him. He told me one time to plait weavon with my natural hair so he can check whether I look beautiful with it. I refused anyway. He scrutinises every little thing I do or the way I dress. He doesn't like trousers on women too(i don't wear trousers) .He even noticed when I carved my eyebrow and asked me not to do so again.
And lastly, the third guy is the one I have feelings for. He was my sister's classmate in school. He made it clear he won't marry me (maybe because of my sister) but I keep going back to him. I love him so much and I really feel bad about it. We kissed several times but havent had sex.i told him I'm a virgin.
Now, I don't really know what to do. I feel like I will say yes to either the first guy or second guy because they have started discussing marriage issues with me.
I pray I forget the last guy.
Please I need advice. Time is not on my side anymore

are you lightskin?

Go for the first guy

How is time not in your side ? You mean marriage ? You don't seem the type who should get married, at least not anytime soon to me. The problem is you live in a society that pushes what it's expects of you down your throat.

Being a Virgin isn't weird, why should it be? You are who you are, because you like every other humans are unique. Sex isn't your passion,otherwise you would have had lots of it from your teenage years. Learn to accept yourself the way you are for now. You don't need to be emotionally depended on others or be married to be happy. This may sound too much from me....but I'm speaking from a parallel universe where marraige is outdated.

this is my matured advice for u.just become a catholic nun.its not too late .

Ok sis, listen carefully to my advise, don't marry a guy you don't have feelings for because if you do, every little things he does will annoy you. Marriage is like being locked in a room day and night with your partner. If you don't love the person, don't even dream about it. Don't even make the mistake of marrying someone who will teach you how to take your bath, how to dress, what to say etc, that is even more frustrating than marrying someone you don't love and as for the third guy who made it clear that he will not marry you, please run very far from him. I once dated a lady that I didn't have deep feelings for and I told her clearly that I wont settle with her but she refused, she ended up wasting valuable time and still didn't get what she wanted. If a man tells you, he wont marry you, in most cases, he wont even if you go to the moon and back. Meanwhile send me email naw, make we connect, me I still single o

Don't rush and don't settle for less, better is out dere, keep calm and wait ,don't go and make mistake o

It's better to marry someone that loves you than to marry someone you love..give the first guy a chance

runsguy:
Ok sis, listen carefully to my advise, don't marry a guy you don't have feelings for because if you do, every little things he does will annoy you. Marriage is like being locked in a room day and night with your partner. If you don't love the person, don't even dream about it. Don't even make the mistake of marrying someone who will teach you how to take your bath, how to dress, what to say etc, that is even more frustrating than marrying someone you don't love and as for the third guy who made it clear that he will not marry you, please run very far from him. I once dated a lady that I didn't have deep feelings for and I told her clearly that I wont settle with her but she refused, she ended up wasting valuable time and still didn't get what she wanted. If a man tells you, he wont marry you, in most cases, he wont even if you go to the moon and back. Meanwhile send me email naw, make we connect, me I still single o

Badt guy
See as u take advertise ur self sha

Victornezzar:

Badt guy
See as u take advertise ur self sha

lol, no be small but I single naw so why not

runsguy:


lol, no be small but I single naw so why not

she fit consider u

dollyjoy:
A guy made it clear he doesn't want anything serious with you yet you keep allowing the thought of him dominate your mind knowing fully well time isn't on your side.

LEAVE THE GIRL SHE DOES NOT KNOW WAT SHE WANTS. IF U ASK ME I WILL TELL U TO GO TO THE 1ST GUY. WITH TIME U WILL DEVELOP FEELINGS FOR HIM. SEE LEME TELL U LOVE IS A FACADE. LOVE WN'T KIP UR MARRIAGE FOR LONG BT UNDERSTANDING ND TOLERATING UR PARTNER WILL. GIRL USE UR BRAIN.THE 1ST GUY IS FOR UR. ND TRY TO GROWUP. MATURITY IS LACKING IN YOU. (NO OFFENCE)

Ask

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You have managed to uphold and stick to your principles up until now, do not succumb to desparation because that's how it reads. If you do , I feel you will be very disapointed.

Firstly @op, there is nothing like falling in love(vaguely), which seems that's what you are into with the last guy.
You love him(3rd guy), because you decided to fall in love with him, you gave him the opportunity to love you(by your response, relation, care, attention and so on to him), so don't act by your feelings, because;
If you give the 1st guy those same attention, he may even do greater.

So dear op, DECIDE TO LOVE, And not fall in love, as the latter is the reason for the rising divorces, because there would come a time, the feelings might not be there, but your DECISION would always be.

Decide op to love any and also decide to let the 3rd guy go. It's all yours to make.

Love the person that loves you, try. Go for the first guy

I saw your other post and that made me look deeper at you.
27+ is a risky age of a girl who wants to be married. Are you a career woman.
I would say you should find what you want. Giving a man sex should be something you want, not pressure to do. You have held on this long. I say hold till marriage or you are ready.
It means so much to you so define your self and don't be scared. I think next year we will see your wedding pics. Don't forget to mention me.

Op is likely to be an attention seeker.

This thread is contrary to the other of her thread...


Op where the hell is the one in abroad whose number you got from your friend