I just knew it.. 'Me, stay away from sex?' - 'Impossible!', I playfully told my friends. It seemed like a joke, but I knew I was serious and I needed help. Help not because I was scared of going to hell.. I didn't want to imagine what I would turn to with that maddening appetite for sex. It was a feat I knew I couldn't dare. Surprisingly, three years and counting, I've had to sit back and wonder how I got to this point. Having done some inward review, I was able to figure this out..

My mind was my starting point

It never took me pains to get aroused. I simply had to take a quick trip to my mind and imagine.. Imagine the feel of raw flesh and what not; and vam! I'm turned on, looking for who to devour.
I had to change the conditioning of my mind..
It was a conscious act. I knew deep down that sex was important to me, and I loved it.. I also knew I had come to the point where I should be in charge of my hormones and not the other way round.. The turn around was when I told myself the hard truth.. The mind talk, you know..

Declutter your psyche of sexual imageries..

When you've been physically intimate with someone, there's a store that saves the entire event.. This is increased by the movies and images we are exposed to. In no time, we begin to subject every person we come across to our fantasy world. Oh, ladies do this too..
Now is the time to clean away those images and refill the store with more worthwhile ideas.. There is so much to live for..

Immerse yourself in a cause greater than you are.
Big grammar? Find a passion. Discover what it is you could die for and give yourself wholly to it. Your sexual energy could be channeled to other productive means that would make life more meaningful to you..
This doesn't necessarily mean getting a job. It entails looking into ourselves and finding ways we could express our individuality. Just start from somewhere and take a step at a time.

Step out and meet people for who they are.
Sex has the capacity of limiting the quality of our relationships with people. In the course of giving the expression of our sexuality a lead over us, we miss out on knowing people for who they really are, and are rather concerned with what they could give us, sexually wise.
I have been able to keep a number of healthy relationships with the opposite sex, without the sex question..Knowing how others see the world and finding ourselves in the process is a beautiful journey, and it's better experienced than told.

Accept and love yourself unconditionally!

This is a must for any interested in being celibate. I wish I could say more on this.. But no.. It's possible if you want. Love you for you. Don't be who you are not or who you don't want to be for anyone, whosoever..

The fact is, you'll always have that part of you that longs for sex.. and the difference is that you are now in control..

Wonderful rhetoric

I can relate. Nice piece.

Story, celibate ko celebrate ni
say i never buy new soap ,enter bathroom go taste am by egbooo ncha

True. .[ quote

Wiv d way ladies do form,i thought we guys wia d only sexually active gender...

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