It is only for pleasure and not cheating when you are not in any serious romantic relationship.

However, it is cheating and just pleasurable for you when you are in a dedicated relationship, hence, sleeping around with other women or men can cause your lover emotional worries.

In a relationship, for you to have claimed to love the other you wouldn't want to see them shed tears let alone see them emotionally tormented.

Sleeping around with other women or men as the case may be will definitely cause your lover a serious heartbreak and this doesn't make your action pleasurable anymore as someone else is who should be highly considered is dissatisfied.

The moment you are in a relationship you shouldn't even be thinking about yourself alone but for two.

What will make you happy will also be good for the second person. So also, what you wouldn't like will be better to be neglected because of the other person.

It is another situation entirely if you are just alone, no one will even accuse you of sleeping around with whoever you deem fit to sleep with.

Dushka Zapata a relationship coach also gave this example on this issue in a forum which explains it all.

She wrote;

" Let’s say, hypothetically, that I am in a relationship with a man called Adam.*

Adam is super comfortable with me sleeping with people other than him.

He says: you sleeping with other people is fine by me!

I say: Great! I’d love to sleep with other people besides you. It gives me pleasure.

I sleep with other people. Adam is OK with it.

I am not cheating on Adam.

Now, let’s say, hypothetically, that I am in a relationship with a man called Adam.

Adam is not comfortable with me sleeping with people other than him.

He says: I don’t want to control you but I would not be OK with you sleeping with other people.

I say: Great! I am monogamous, and sleeping with other people does not appeal to me. I don’t feel controlled. I feel that not sleeping with other people is true to my nature.

Then, I go sleep with another person.

Now I’m cheating on Adam."

When you agree between you and your lover (that is if there is anything like agreement to sleep around in a relationship) then you are following the instructions of the agreement.

If there is no such agreement, it will be pleasurable though, however, i feel something that is pleasurable is best enjoyed when you have a clear mind when going for it, but it is cheating and no other name.

Please add your comment, this is very important to me.


Source: http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2017/05/when-having-se-x-becomes-cheating-or.html