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Re: My Husband Wants Divorce And Custody Of Our Child He Never Catered For! by PeacenLove2: 11:07pm On Jun 02, 2017 |
Juzzybabe: Please save your time and energy trying to explain yourself to some people here. Narcissism is something that pulls its own crowd. They come together and form a cluster of terror. They are quick to come to their own defence regardless of what the case may be. Sad thing is they truly believe in their superior knowledge and intelligence. You will be alright, OP. Just stay strong and keep being good to yourself, your kid and your neighbors. 14 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband Wants Divorce And Custody Of Our Child He Never Catered For! by tosyne2much(m): 11:11pm On Jun 02, 2017 |
Kathmandu:I believe this should serve as a lesson to other girls that are obsessed with abroad based guys. I really learnt a lot of lessons from her story tho 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Wants Divorce And Custody Of Our Child He Never Catered For! by Nobody: 11:21pm On Jun 02, 2017 |
when you see somethings men do,you will put hands in your eyes and not find tears, I really feel for the op, some men are just plain undiluted evil 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Wants Divorce And Custody Of Our Child He Never Catered For! by mrssho: 11:44pm On Jun 02, 2017 |
Juzzybabe: I cannot believe your husband is at it again!!! Babe whatever you do please keep that girl safe! Its only you that can take care of her and protect her the way a mother should. If i were you i would avoid going to Nigeria for now at least till the girl is grown and act like you are not aware of the law suit or act through a lawyer but do not go home o! this nigeria where police can be bribed to do anything. Most importantly pray! Pray that he finds a new wife so he can forget about you 7 Likes |
Re: My Husband Wants Divorce And Custody Of Our Child He Never Catered For! by Juzzybabe(f): 11:54pm On Jun 02, 2017 |
tosyne2much: "Obsessed with abroad guy"...Did you read the part where I stated I dated him since 2013 while he was in Nigeria drinking garri and I had to steal from my guardians to feed him as well? The man who took my virginity...I loved him even while he was empty with nothing. It was after our wedding that he told me all along he had a land and was building a house in Lagos. I married the poor guy I knew, not cuz he traveled. So get your point well please. 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Wants Divorce And Custody Of Our Child He Never Catered For! by cococandy(f): 12:13am On Jun 03, 2017 |
So you think a man can give a two year old the type of dedicated care a mom can? Or don't you realize that if he gets custody of that child, it will just be for him to send the child to his parents or his new woman who will use the baby as a punching bag. Please apply reason when commenting majekdom2: 11 Likes |
Re: My Husband Wants Divorce And Custody Of Our Child He Never Catered For! by cococandy(f): 12:14am On Jun 03, 2017 |
Wow. So scoring another man (who's probably another idiot BTW) is more important than being with and raising her own child? Mind boggling LexngtonSteele: 10 Likes |
Re: My Husband Wants Divorce And Custody Of Our Child He Never Catered For! by mark2sunny(m): 12:15am On Jun 03, 2017 |
Juzzybabe: Madam i know how you feel trust me. But its not the end of the world. Its a beautiful thing that love took you there and nothing else. I have many things to say to you but dont know how you will take them. First, this too shall pass. God has His plans and your fathers (God) knows. Very soon you will understand the reason for all of these. Few suggestions: Do not fight for yourself, let God fight for you Talk to layers but let God be the judge The destiny of every one including your child is in Gods hands and not your effort. Try and restart your life over again. It will give you more distraction. As a man, i would rather die than let a woman keep my child. I know its gonna be a hard decision for you to give up your child. But do more of prayer and even if the man takes custody of the child, be close to your child and see her more often. For her sake dont fight and she would come to you on her own. Like i said there are lots of things to say but space. Hope we can speak more 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Wants Divorce And Custody Of Our Child He Never Catered For! by tosyne2much(m): 12:15am On Jun 03, 2017 |
Juzzybabe:Ooooh I'm sorry.. I never had the privilege to read that Anyway, I just hope you won't have your baby in the hand of that misogynist so called a man 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Wants Divorce And Custody Of Our Child He Never Catered For! by cococandy(f): 12:16am On Jun 03, 2017 |
Lmao Onegai: |
Re: My Husband Wants Divorce And Custody Of Our Child He Never Catered For! by cococandy(f): 12:20am On Jun 03, 2017 |
Fvck off. Nobody cares about what any man wants here in this particular case. The world does not revolve around you people. She wants to be with and raise her child. End of discussion. Her life decisions doesn't have to be about improving her suitability for a future dude who probably another self conceited asshole. LexngtonSteele: 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Wants Divorce And Custody Of Our Child He Never Catered For! by Nobody: 12:20am On Jun 03, 2017 |
eyinjuege: Please, save your energy and stop trying to preach to me. I don't take online lessons, and even if I choose to do so it won't be from Nairaland. Please address your responses to the OP and don't mention me. |
Re: My Husband Wants Divorce And Custody Of Our Child He Never Catered For! by cococandy(f): 12:45am On Jun 03, 2017 |
Have to find a way to blame the woma don't you? Stupid tosyne2much: 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Wants Divorce And Custody Of Our Child He Never Catered For! by mark2sunny(m): 12:50am On Jun 03, 2017 |
Juzzybabe: Haba madam theres nothing wrong speaking out and defending yourself from your mother inlaw. You dont ha e to appologise for that naaa. I just have a feeling your mother inlaw spiritually is manipulating her son to make sure her threats goes through. In life our enermies are not neccessarily people we have offended, but people whom Satan wants to use to waste our lives. |
Re: My Husband Wants Divorce And Custody Of Our Child He Never Catered For! by Berbierklaus(f): 12:50am On Jun 03, 2017 |
LexngtonSteele:My mum gave birth to me before she got married to her husband,he was single as a singlet and I didn't even know till I was of age,I don't even know the difference till date. Now kill yourself Many more men don't reason the way you do,let me not call it archaic reasoning yet 11 Likes |
Re: My Husband Wants Divorce And Custody Of Our Child He Never Catered For! by dinachi(m): 1:01am On Jun 03, 2017 |
Juzzybabe:Keeping the child away from him is the most foolish thing you can ever do. Your daughter will grow, locate her father and hate you forever for keeping her away from him. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Wants Divorce And Custody Of Our Child He Never Catered For! by LexngtonSteele: 1:03am On Jun 03, 2017 |
Berbierklaus: Learn to reason yourself.... The question is, are they minority / majority?. Just answer the very simple question. |
Re: My Husband Wants Divorce And Custody Of Our Child He Never Catered For! by Berbierklaus(f): 1:09am On Jun 03, 2017 |
LexngtonSteele:Maybe because of the society(what my friends and colleagues will say) and family they try to hide it,so for now let's say minority. (No be only man dey marry wife,his family have to marry her too) (Nigerians are very hypocritical/self righteous people,every douche bag knows that) But if every man is allowed to make a marriage choice without family influences,majority will marry as much single mothers as they like. But you making it look like its rare for single mothers to meet a single man is absurd,coz I see it every other day. 7 Likes |
Re: My Husband Wants Divorce And Custody Of Our Child He Never Catered For! by ifitistrue: 2:02am On Jun 03, 2017 |
Same problem with women and open eye.some people are judgemental in their comments because the case is against a man and a woman. I read she said the man came when she was 8 months and started beating you .for no good reason.he started beating you and you did nothing. It is just 2 years and you are saying what you passed through.the man equally have right over the child.Girls of now a days,when they have a baby for you will copy the western culture.telling the man their rights.we have our culture as Africans.all this copy copy has spoiled so much in Africa and marriages.go and ask your mum if that was the same way she left your father's house?our girls are contributing So much to divorce. They copy from the western culture. Exposure and it negative effects. Me I believe you also caused the problem even as I have not heard from the other room. Will you say exactly what you said and did that gave raise to the issue in your marriage. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Wants Divorce And Custody Of Our Child He Never Catered For! by str8talk1: 3:06am On Jun 03, 2017 |
majekdom2: I guess you r d only one making sense here. |
Re: My Husband Wants Divorce And Custody Of Our Child He Never Catered For! by Onegai(f): 3:29am On Jun 03, 2017 |
cococandy: Why are you laughing, it's the truth we can scream all we want about what will happen after (the terror, anguish, heartbreak and dumb acceptance of their jail and sorrow and clinging desperately unto prayer and the Church), but they are too busy fantasizing about the asoebi, how pretty they will look, the attention they will get and how sweet it will be to start every sentence with "my husband said/did...". Idiotically, they don't realize that is why weddings are all about the bride: because you should always dress the animal to be slaughtered for sacrifice in a nice manner and pet it, you wouldn't want it bolting in fear now, would you? I mean, the happiest married Nigerian woman is usually in her 40s. Let that chilling remark sink in as you wonder what happened to her 20s and 30s. Juzzybabe, relax your child won't grow up and hate you. My cousin doesn't care about his father (he loves his mum), I don't send my dad, infact I won't even name my child after him (and he left me property sef), and as you can see, there are a million threads on NL stating how they love their mothers, not their fathers. So ignore all these people trying to scare you. They have to try so that when you break down and go back to your marital cage like a dumb and broken animal, they can high-five themselves on a job well done and hope when it is their wife's turn, others will help break her down into dumb acceptance. 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband Wants Divorce And Custody Of Our Child He Never Catered For! by cococandy(f): 3:45am On Jun 03, 2017 |
It's true. What I wonder most is this. I did notice based on personal experience that it's even the women in unhappy marriages who are usually loudest about enticing other girls to get married. It's almost like they have a secret joke that I'm yet to find out. Onegai: 7 Likes |
Re: My Husband Wants Divorce And Custody Of Our Child He Never Catered For! by Onegai(f): 3:52am On Jun 03, 2017 |
cococandy: And when you have problems and want to leave, they will fight you to the bitter end to make sure you stay, armed with biblical passages, browbeating and ruthless emotional blackmail. They will swear to you they are now happy after 10 years of sorrow, so you should get in line. They are also the chief procurer of the movie "War Room". In the North, it is women who celebrate child marriage loudest. They went through it and survived, how dare you think things should be different? Peju Alatishe made a statue to it. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Wants Divorce And Custody Of Our Child He Never Catered For! by cococandy(f): 3:59am On Jun 03, 2017 |
Onegai: Forgive my laughter. It's just funny. I've an older female related to me that this describes perfectly. And sometimes I just keep quiet so that someone won't go report me to my parents for being disrespectful. I've always wanted to ask her in a not very nice way. "What did you gain from your marriage and why are you always on the case of single girls"? 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband Wants Divorce And Custody Of Our Child He Never Catered For! by cococandy(f): 4:01am On Jun 03, 2017 |
Onegai:Exactly. 'It happened to us so it has to be continued' Sigh 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Wants Divorce And Custody Of Our Child He Never Catered For! by Onegai(f): 4:06am On Jun 03, 2017 |
cococandy: Eh, I just got my own tongue lashing. I reacted to very obvious wickedness and it was met with shrieks of "Are you being rude to me?!!! "when the actual thought was" At last, an opening! I can finally break her down, I thought she would never snap, whew, now whom do I report her to so they can finish the good job of demolishing her, I need to protect my own at her expense". I cannot WAIT to fvck her daughter up one day in a likewise manner. It makes no sense to them that they can be a better way. Change is hard, especially when millions cannot do it. That is why they will tell you "Marriage is not easy, Love covers a multitude of sins" whilst glossing over the fact that not only did God abhor Adultery and Abuse so much, He put it in the 10 commandments but the Bible is filled with scripture telling men how to act better. However, who's in charge of most churches? So why fight the status-quo. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Wants Divorce And Custody Of Our Child He Never Catered For! by dominique(f): 4:47am On Jun 03, 2017 |
cococandy: Misery loves company naa 6 Likes |
Re: My Husband Wants Divorce And Custody Of Our Child He Never Catered For! by cococandy(f): 5:04am On Jun 03, 2017 |
Onegai:@bold, bingo! |
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