Kathmandu:
Shut up

majekdom2:
Lols.. "in peace". It does not follow the discussion on this thread... keep it to yourself in "peace"

Keneking:
Who are you staying with in the abroad? Another man? Or Nairalanders?

This story is not adding up...where is Mynd44 and lalasticlala sef

Keneking:
Who are you staying with in the abroad? Another man? Or Nairalanders?

This story is not adding up...where is Mynd44 and lalasticlala sef

frenzyduchess:
its a public forum ,not your personal property, if you can't bear to see it ,log out or keep scrolling, simple. I will say it over and over again, from our forefathers till now ,a [b]great percentage of men have been wicked [/b]with over bloated ego,now swerve!

Mayflowa:


You are just a funny guy. Oya, let me tell you a personal story. My mum has two children before my single dad with no child married her. Though it was one of them that lived with us. I had become an adult before I knew my eldest sister wasn't born by my father. That should tell you something!

Finally...you woke me up, Chief! But if you do a random survey, you would still appreciate that it's a rare case and not the norm.

No wonder, you were so insistent.

But be frank, hardly will you see someone willingly choose a tokunbo car over brand new. Let's be frank and not politically correct.

In most cases,MARKET VALUE in descending order :

1. Single gal no kids
2. Widow no kid
3. Widow, 1 kid, not present (lower the better)
4. Divorcee, no kid
5. Divorced, 1 kid not present (lower the better)
6. Widow/ Divorcee, kids PRESENT ( )

Efewestern:


you are not making sense. how can a pregnant woman cheat on her husband, please if you have nothing to contribute just waka go.

Juzzybabe:
In my previous threads https://www.nairaland.com/2056750/advice-he-wants-me-leave and https://www.nairaland.com/3164242/advice-after-two-wasted-years, i did express how disappointed I will be if this man comes back after years to claim a child he never cared for. Thank God this forum has been going on well and my stories are still available.

Late 2016, I got messages from friends on Facebook asking me what happened to my marriage as my husband had created a new Facebook name and has been sending them a petition filed against me for divorce and custody of our child. I was advised to ignore as the petition was 1. not signed and 2. he didn't send it to me or any of my immediate families but rather friends on Facebook with this which am sure was to disgrace me. I only advised friends who contacted me to ignore him.

One may wonder what will such a man still have to claim after all he and his parents did? Yes he claimed a lot of lies such as...we were in our matrimonial home and he went to work on this fateful day and by the time he return I had escaped the house(All who followed my story knows I was in his parents house while he was in Dubai until 2015 when he visited and beat me to pulp in 8months old pregnancy and left in march 2015 back to Dubai). That I attempted abortions severally. That I did patronized herbalist and confessed to him. That I labored our first child for hours and ended up with CS...These and many more.

Well, the annoying part is that this guy went to court and have them issued a court proceeding to my Aunt whose house the traditional (in our absent) was done in 2014 stating that was the address they know me to be residing. Well, I had to get all hands on desk as I wish to have my Aunt and her family out of all this mess. He is requesting divorce and custody of our baby. Since May 2015 when I left up to this moment,the only support he give was 40k which he send 20k each for September/October 2015 and has not given any support to the growth and welfare of the child aside that up till now. It has been me alone. Now he wants custody of a 2+ year old child he knows nothing about.

I have been talking to a Lawyer whom I want to take up the case. This is my story people. We all fall in love at one point in our lives, and this is what i got from the one man i ever loved , this is where my feelings has led me. The heart of man is desperately wicked as the Bible says. I am 1001% not guilty of his false and lying accusations, I know God is by my side and I will grow this child to be the a better woman and a loving human.

EgunMogaji:
There's nothing I hate the most more than ANY parent that uses children as a weapon during a divorce.

The only pertinent question is this, "What is in the best interest of the child?". Ask yourself that question every minute of the ensuing melle and let that guide you. That the father allegedly didn't provide is partial. There's a difference between financial support and parental relationship.

I wish the child the best of luck, the adults will be okay.

majekdom2:
you a bit slow to understand my point... I don't blame you anyways. Like I said in my posts earlier... does the blame laying solve the problem you alleged or will it stop the son you may perhaps bear from being wicked or the husband you may marry that will kick you when you are pregnant or maybe your brother's that's somewhere committing crime!

frenzyduchess:
actually you are the slow one, how does stating a fact amount to laying blame?,if my husband turns out to be wicked, I won't hesitate to leave, what a woman really needs is money and children,not a dick

majekdom2:
You've been on his issue for a longtime.... More than 3 years. That dude is a roadblock to where you are going. Many people will tell you to fight and keep the child.. Yea great right. I'd like you to think twice about this. He might not be able to take care of the child but trying to frustrate and give you sleepless nights cause he already knows the advice you'd be given. For the sake of the child, do you think he will be able to cater and provide for the child more than you can? I don't want to buy the 40K gist.. he has spent more than 40K on this case. Just so you don't have regrets tomorrow.... you know the dude more than anyone on this forum. The child might grow up to know his father and have this thought his father could have done better than you are doing. Have a real thought, don't just follow any advice asking you to keep a child if you know it will be more than tough for you. These days, it's not about food but good food, it's not about education but quality education. You need to give you child the upper hand from childhood if you want him to do well in life. I am sorry, I see many things differently.

majekdom2:
how about when your brother commits murder or when your son rapes an 8 year old. Your fact stating does nt help the situation, rather than state facts. Say your opinion on how to make the "fact" a positive one. Thats what progressive people do. I didn't ask you what a woman needs... Thanks.m.. thats what you need not all women. Again, wrong assumption

AuroraB:
You the only one on here to see ' a son' when others saw 'a girl'
But then again, you made no sense at all
You won't dare call anyone a bastard however little he/she is in person. I know you know

frenzyduchess:
and based on fact I can also say I your father is a bastard since your grandmother was a harlot

frenzyduchess:
we are saying the same thing, same reason your father is a bastard, and a monster too

LexngtonSteele:


I feel for you strongly. I can see the raw emotions. BUT :

1. I know very well that an adult can't really be convinced. You came online strictly to be helped on how to get your way...not for advice. This is how ALL adults including me behave.

2. You must be ready to watch your back for a long time - if not forever. The guy's family won't take it lying down.

3. Wonder what your age is. Maybe you are 30+ and worried about giving birth again.

Whatever the case, the strong love for your kid which is so evident is exactly what they are using to manipulate you. I doubt if his family loves the kid genuinely, they are just enjoying torturing you.

Finally, about the mum-in-law who dislikes you....are you sure you are absolutely honest about being "a saint" with her? Humans hardly admit their guilt when testifying about a fight.

Juzzybabe:


My husband younger brother impregnated a girl. he took the girl to stay with his mum when she give birth. I learnt the girl ran away and left her baby with them. What I was informed the baby looks like, I seriously do not want my baby to live that kind of life. He doesn't wish her as good as I wish her. I did not stop him from supporting his kid. He chose not to because he feels his money is too good to spend on her. I don't have to be Dangote to give her a good future. The love and passion to see her grow into a great woman is the reason I work hard and will not give up.

sirugos:
madam do u know that u re stupid. Based on his recent write which i read. Is there any place she mentioned a girl?