Dating a man who told me he is married, when he is actually not. He is raising his children on his own but is actually divorced. We are quite serious so I do not understand why he is lying about this. He is a terrific father to his children and does everything for them, but why does he lie? Maybe because he does not want me to come to his house.

I put off his advances at first until he convince me to date him. After that he only told me his wife lives in London but comes to visit occasionally. He says he will leave the wife for me if I am serious, but he is not even legally married??

I do not understand. I have a child too, but I am already divorced. Why couldn't he just tell me. I found out through a friend that he is a single father.

Maybe he is not ready for a committed relationship.

@poster
who knows why he lied?! talk to the guy directly and let him know what you learned about his marital status and let HIM explain.

@ebony - I thought the same

@ MrBrown - still mulling that idea over, that why I came here first

Your best bet is to talk to the guy

He doesn't love you and wants to use you when his wife is not around

He probably told you he's married so you won't start bugging him about marriage