Loving your spouse doesn't mean you'll wake up every morning excited to be and to see your spouse. The reality of marriage is that some days you wake up and look at your spouse and wonder what you were thinking when married him or her. Disappointments are real in marriage. Hurts are unavoidable in marriage. But true love is shown by the way you treat your spouse in moments when he or she least deserves it. It is when you decide to treat him or her with respect and courtesy even when you're disappointed with him or her.