It seems pretty normal for every union to have challenges or battles but what isn't normal is for a person not to be able to dictate how, where and why those challenges and battles come.

Every man and woman alike grew up with a certain dream they wish to accomplish in life, they have a picture of the type of walls they want to build around them, up until they found each other and got married.

That dream won't die because of the marriage but something does happen, the two dreams or walls built over the years collides with each other and in other to have a balance, both will crush to the ground first, as a result of the impact. So then a rebuilding or remoulding is required to match both individuals from the scratch. And that is where it all began.

For those who are too lazy to rebuild, we end up hearing things like separation, and divorce from them because both parties are not a good team mate in this project.

But for those who have met their real team mates: here are the highlights of challenges and battles and how to conquer them;

1. Mockery and Ridicule

Nehemiah 4:1 'When Sanballat heard that we were rebuilding the walls, he became angry and was greatly incensed. He ridiculed the Jews'

That is to say when your adversaries notice you and your partner are good match and are set to build a union that is worthwhile than theirs, first thing you see them do is "BEING ANGRY" over you and then they mock you.

You know why?

Because they don't believe completely that you both can make it to finish. They down-size you at first just to intimidate and put fear in you. This is a big challenge especially for those who value public opinion more over their own opinion about themselves. Many have checked-out of their marriages/relationship at this stage. The adversary uses this to make you feel inferior.

How then do you overcome this stage? Want answers?

See Neh 4:4 (Don't give up and start complaining and making excuses for everything BUT pray to God that their mockery return back to them as it came).

2. Attacks

Nehemiah 4:8 When the enemy heard that the rebuilding had gone ahead, they became even more angry and PLOTTED to attack, fight and stir up the Jews in other to stop the project.

Listen, if you dare succeed to overcome POINT 1 ABOVE, bear in mind you have succeeded in taking laughter off the mouth of your enemies and you know what that means. When they are no longer laughing, it means WAR.

On your enemies realization that despite their ridicule you ignored THEM unlike others and continue with building your marriage to a better standard as designed by God, attacks will come in different forms both physical and spiritual with the sole purpose of just frustrating and distracting your union.

The attacks comes in various forms:

(a) They try to make everyone around you turn against you via gossips and accusations.

(b) They withdraw their friendship indefinitely with you just to cause you loneliness and distractions (but trust God as your companion)

(c) Spiritually they try to turn you away from God, making you loose faith in God's power over your life

(d) They treat you and everything that concerns you with contempt etc.

When you begin to notice such things, just know you are on the right track and the enemy is at war because of that.

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