women and money! will you tell your wife how much you earn?
am told to declare half of what I earn and give her half of the
declared that the balance is what am using to ''marrying her'',
do you agree? pls advise.

why r u trying to hide how much you earn? there shd be transparency in a marriage. u sound like someone that loves money.

afemai:

women and money! will you tell your wife how much you earn?
am told to declare half of what I earn and give her half of the
declared that the balance is what am using to ''marrying her'',
do you agree? pls advise.

what kind of woman are you married to?

The wife should already know that before getting married to him.

What you earn belongs to you both. Why hide such information from her. Na wa for some men o!!!

afemai:

women and money!

What has this got to do with women and money?

Its ideal.however,it depends on d kind of wife u have.

Tsiya:

what kind of woman are you married to?

You may Please give me options, analysing the kind
of woman am married to will take all day,

I wl like to know if u are married?

But let me not deviate. I presumed yr wife shd even ask u, how much u are earning from yr job. Not only for her request but for other things like Savings for upcoming children, projects like personal house and finally for her to know where to come in, to help you or support you, whether financially or otherwise.

Pls my advice is, dont wait 4 her to ask. Tell her. I was saved so many stress becos my wife knew how much I earn, what the saving will be at the end of efry mnth for our own project and our 2children schl fees.

Pls dont make a mistake. Call her and plan together. That is the basis 4 u to know some things about her too, but if u hide and u r demanding submission and transparency, U wll meet wt waterloo, becos she wl refuse u even yr right as her husband.

Yes, he should.
However, if he think that the woman is bad with money, she still have to know, but dont have to put all the money where she can access it.
Likewise, if the man is the one that is bad with money, the woman shd not let him have access to all the money.

OEO:

I wl like to know if u are married?

But let me not deviate. I presumed yr wife shd even ask u, how much u are earning from yr job. Not only for her request but for other things like Savings for upcoming children, projects like personal house and finally for her to know where to come in, to help you or support you, whether financially or otherwise.

Pls my advice is, dont wait 4 her to ask. Tell her. I was saved so many stress becos my wife knew how much I earn, what the saving will be at the end of efry mnth for our own project and our 2children schl fees.

Pls dont make a mistake. Call her and plan together. That is the basis 4 u to know some things about her too, but if u hide and u r demanding submission and transparency, U wll meet wt waterloo, becos she wl refuse u even yr right as her husband.

THANKS FOR ADVISE, CHECK MY QUESTION TO DEDUCE IF AM MARRIED OR NOT.

@fhemmy

true talk

La cuzy:

@fhemmy

true talk

Thanks

@ Poster

No keep it a secret! Do you see why I said that most Naija marraiges are scams? If you don't trust someone and want to keep secrets, why marry them in the first place? A real man will not ask this question, only BOYS will!

Nwaka77:

@ Poster

No keep it a secret! Do you see why I said that most Naija marraiges are scams? If you don't trust someone and want to keep secrets, why marry them in the first place? A real man will not ask this question, only BOYS will!

Beautifully said.

i am not married yet but my fiance' Knows how much i earn.

knowing is different from bringing it out of my pocket, if i dont want to spend i dont want to

she knows the plans ahead and hwo to spend the money so why hide it when women are gifted with natural ideas on how to spend money.

i repeat Knowing does not force it our of ur pocket

^^^ Great

I'm not married yet but my experience with my girlfriend mada me realize that it save me lot of trouble she won't ask for what I can't afford

sulad82i:

I'm not married yet but my experience with my girlfriend mada me realize that it save me lot of trouble she won't ask for what I can't afford

When she knows what you make, saves you from a whole lot of trouble

There should be no secrets.

Nwaka77:

@ Poster

No keep it a secret! Do you see why I said that most Naija marraiges are scams? If you don't trust someone and want to keep secrets, why marry them in the first place? A real man will not ask this question, only BOYS will!

Having seen your past posts as it relate to men issues and your prayer points , I concluded that you are a victim of a marriage turned soar hence your propensity to insult and disparage Naija men.
dont worry too much, am praying for you here too,

Old school mentality not to tell your wife your salary earnings.Nowadays,women work as hard as men and contribute to the upkeep of the family.That's marriage.
However,most couples don't get to enjoy this because of the shaky foundation of their relationship.maybe they're in just to procreate children and satisfy their parents,i dunno.
I tell my girlfriend everything right from my pocket money,then to my take home pay,now.what do i have to lose?

If he wishes yes. . . . .and vice versa. . . .

what works for one family, does not necessarily work for the other. . . . .

as long as bills are being paid . . . .

depends on the woman, some r worst than vultures, infact some vultures behave like them

Sure, he should.

Amigoz:

If he wishes yes. . . . .and vice versa. . . .

what works for one family, does not necessarily work for the other. .  . . .

as long as bills are being paid . . . .

Thank you for your objective post what is one man food
is another man's poison,

It is no big deal for the man to let the woman know

Fhemmmy:

It is no big deal for the man to let the woman know

Not only a big deal, but that is what responsible marriage is all about.
I find it some how weird when my friends tell me their wives do not know how mcuh they earn. It saves you a lot of trouble if you are not making enough, and especially when you have a single source of income.
My spouse, not only knows how much I earn, but she manage the whole thing. She is very thrifty and so manage it far better than me. My folks no longer ask me for money, and they all tell her all their needs in advance. So that she plans and include everybodies needs within the limited budget. Alll I do is to make sure I open as much multiple sources of income as possible.