Freiburger:

Why not outline these reasons u just mentioned to him? and watch out if there is gonna be some changes with him before rushing into breakup.

nikkykay:

Just take a walk and dont tell him anything.You dont have to sit him down and tallk your mind again as u have done this in the past and no changes.Let him explore with his bigger pay first.Am very sure whn he is back to his rightful senses ,he will come back begging you then.Just pray its not late then.
If he comes back to u for any favour,just ignore him politely.Be matured with ds.Dont even call him again.Let him be the one to do that.He may be seeing a bigger girl with bigger pay am sure and just using your flaws as excuse.
Dont let him take u for granted plsssss.

galatico:

Sit him down and talk to him politely he he continues walk out of the relationship .

peelovee:

I have outlined these reasons to him several times but there has been no changes for the past six months rather he argues over issues and making things get worst and boring for me.

What annoys me must is that after hurting me he will never apologise not until he need my assistance after that he continues from where he stop.

To be sincere, i am no longer interested in the r/s.

smooooooth:

when a guy steps up, u better meet up, or get dumped.

peelovee:

You got a point here, then what's your advise!

DOAweb:

Simply do a spot check on itself yourself, when you were sort of the breadwinner in the relationship, how did you behave - nice and understanding or nice and bossy?

Hindsight - he is just kidding around due to his new power of purchase and would soon come back to his true love( Love relationship) OR he has been praying for the day his circumstances would change and he can get rid of you ( Managed relationship).

YOU SHOULD KNOW!!

peelovee:

I have outlined these reasons to him several times but there has been no changes for the past six months rather he argues over issues and making things get worst and boring for me.

What annoys me must is that after hurting me he will never apologise not until he need my assistance after that he continues from where he stop.

To be sincere, i am no longer interested in the r/s.

davemart:

Is that the only reason for wanting to breakup.
Please before you decide to breakup i think you need to listen to one man's opinion.
See his advice for women on breaking up

peelovee:

4llerbuntu:

from what i read on nl these days,its either most posters are like btw 18-22 yrs old and very immature OR very ahem, old and bitter at their life experiences
^{am lookin at the gals,}

Age is just a number, what matter is what one has upstairs(knowledge/ understanding)

@ poster ok first of all for the very simple reason of your own showing on this page i tend to agree that the better thing will be for you to dump the guy WHY? because apparently you have problems with the guy being successful, u feel 'threatened' cos his dependence on u is lessened and u think he is now attractive to other women(spending power).

[b]Me spending for my guy is never and not a right but a priviledge, I did that because i loved and believed in him that one day reverse will be the case.Him having a good job with a better pay is my joy, I believe is answers to our prayer and faith. I am very happy for his dependence on me being lessened at least he an continue the spending from where i stoped. [/b]

Because truth is you have not stated any clear ground for your supposed gripe. am very sure that the aforesaid time spent etc was as a result of the fact that he truly had ample time to spend, most likely he does not have that time now!!!
U DO KNOW THAT THERE IS A PRICE TO PAY FOR WEALTH, ONE OF WHICH IS USUALLY TIME AND EFFORT!!!! unless you are saying that he actually does not spend as much time on the work (more or less accusing him of cheating)

What makes you feel he doesnt have time? a guy that resumes 8am- 4pm and doesnt work on saturdays.


which do u want, a poor dependent boyfriend/husband or a financially bouyant one?
women like you are the type that wish their husbands remain poor because when he was poor the saw him all the time!!! it does not mean he is cheating on you or neglecting you. its the price!!! how much time do you think obama spends staring at his wife a day?

I personally do not rejoice over a guy that is poor, neither would i loved my husband because he is poor and independent. I dont blame you for classifying me among woment that wishes poverty to their husband so as to have the whole time needed  for selfish interest.

u cant eat your cake and have it!
other than the above, as a reasonable individual what you should do is choose a opportune time to discuss with him, tell him your concerns and try to device ways of integrating your lives to mesh more in the new circumstance e.g YOU go to take him for lunch once or twice a week, if u work too u pple can arrange to get back from work together (though u not married but just trying to make u see a point), etc. just be UNDERSTANDING of his schedule and work demands and be creative!!!

I have outlined these reasons to him several times but there has been no changes for the past six months rather he argues over issues and making things get worst and boring for me.
What annoys me must is that after hurting me he will never apologise not until he need my assistance after that he continues from where he stop. I work also and also run a parttime programe, but i dont take this as an excuse rather i creat time to fufil my obligation to him as my guy.



i work from 8 am to 8.30 pm daily incl saturdays and dont get home before 10 pm! i sure would not like to date some one with your mentality and disposition!!! truly, he who finds a wife ,

peelovee:

@Sam Milla,

Why not write a novel with what you have just publised.

I only needed your advise, thats all.