Evaberry:
you are a MAn who is wicked and selfish

just because she refused to become your slave you tag her lazy.. you don't deserve her.
you even slapped her yet she didn't leave you.



you complain too much!!!!

your marriage palava is not our business or wahala.
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we didn't fuvk her with you!!!!

My dear u are wrong. I'm all for women support but as a married woman I can't support this

Lizy100:



Op beware of people like this. You think if he marries another one he won't experience these issues in the early stage of marriage. Op develop tolerance. Divorce should never be an option. Calm down and forgive. You list wrongs too much. This is what destroys a marriage. Love keeps no record of wrongs. I was expecting to hear what happen this morning not what happen from the day you got married. If you want to stay in your marriage and be happy learn to forgive and FORGET. You think those people that marry till old age are perfect or near perfect? My dear most of them are worst than your wife. Go to 1 Cor 13 and read. Ask God in prayer to help you and show you how to love your wife. God bless you.

get the f outa here..typical nigerian woman..u want the guy to die abi or develop HBP..or by the time he use annoyance and kill the woman u will be the first to come here and call him names..why must he live this one life with pain and sorrow..maybe u didnt ready well..the woman is not ready to change..the new generation of nigerian women are something else..prayer prayer prayer..when the muslims where invading europe and invaded the holy land..the pope didnt pray he formed an ARMY OF CRUSADERS to crush the islamist..so he needs action now and not prayers.FOR ME I WILL NEVER LIVE THIS ONE LIFE WITH PAIN AND SORROW..why force themselves on each other if it cant work.look.there is always someone out there for us and i will never kill myself because of any woman.i will move on with life.i swear life is sweeter than stick to one woman that is frustrating ur life everyday..he will still find love and it wont be like this present woman..kapish.

Evaberry:
you are a MAn who is wicked and selfish

just because she refused to become your slave you tag her lazy.. you don't deserve her.
you even slapped her yet she didn't leave you.



you complain too much!!!!

your marriage palava is not our business or wahala.
.
we didn't fuvk her with you!!!!

Lol... Even mad ppl comment here

goingape1:
so he should go and kidnap or do ritual to solve the money issue

why are ya all women self-centered?

so you are indirectly telling us that you can't love someone without money?

black women , black women black women mentality!


I only pity those who keep marrying ya!

keep deceiving yourself there. Most men also wouldn't marry women who don't have a source of income. Why don't they marry for love.

Is it love thay will put food on the table? Bloody hypocrite.

iamloyalty:
Op i was thinking i will see something more serious.but all i can see is:

U said said u rushed her into marriage (so who will groom her for u).
She married u albeit ur financial statue( i bet u her type is rare and she loves u to do that),
why marry when u aren't financially stable.
U complain too much like a woman
u are immature.
U are a fault finder.
Ur expectations are too much.
U are childish for bringing u martial issues to social media that wrecks marriages.
Justin 2yrs u are thinking sending her away because u are impatient.
Do Y thinking any marriage is perfect?
Y slapped her once u think that solve the problem dont be surprised when u turn her onto a monster.

Listen to the matured minds and WORK on ur marriage be a MAN.

That was how my bro was complaining abt his wife till we found out that he is the problem.

make i no just talk to u sha..so for ur mind u don make sense now..if he didnt bring it to social media..will u get the chance to post all this jagajaga u posted..out of everything..u didnt say anything about the woman..yea yea shes a saint

Acecube:
please I will really like to learn from you Biko...

A lot of people want to learn for sure. But not all have the finance to start it.. At least, 80% of people who have mailed me have no capital. I can't help financially cause I'm not running a charity organisation. To get money, money must be spent.

The aim of my blog is to cover as many lucrative businesses one can do in Nigeria.. As many as possible.. I want to cover every nook and cranny. Even how to make money selling fish.. Funny but people are making thousands from it. However, we always overlook them. A friend of mine Is a millionaire and guess what he does.. Snail farming!

My blog is rich with some business ideas.. I keep updating daily.. Currently writing a book too.. Book that WIL surely help as many people as possible. This is my aim till I die.. I have all the time now...

Evaberry:
you are a MAn who is wicked and selfish

just because she refused to become your slave you tag her lazy.. you don't deserve her.
you even slapped her yet she didn't leave you.



you complain too much!!!!

your marriage palava is not our business or wahala.
.
we didn't fuvk her with you!!!!

You need a Specialist on common sense to work on you! A lady for that matter! I pity your husband in advance!

TheEminentLaity:
You neva chop beleful, you go marry even worse you brought a child in and you are worried about what your wife's family is saying? You were living a life of debt, married on credit, and hope hope ...but HOPE IS NOT A PLAN, NEVER IS, WAS, NOR WILL IT EVER BE. Tough luck guy. PS. Your wife isn't the problem, your finances and financial management is and it seems you haven't realised that. They say it's better late than never but now you have a child and wife

oboy u day vex oo..lol..nigerian women and money bi like beans and garri

discman2k2:
Firstly, your marriage IS NOT PECULIAR. I mean, urs is not d only one experiencimg this kind of marital issues.
I am almost 10 in my marriage, & i already have several kids, with my first kid over 7 yrs & in Prim 3. So, i think I've had a little bit experience in marriage to say one or two piece of advice.

Bro, u must LEARN to be patient with women. Especially, newly married women. They act like kids if they're the type that got married at a young age - they lack appreciation of what marriage is. I'm not judging but speaking out of what i've seen.
Also, your marriage is STILL INFANTILE so don't rush DIVORCE, pls. Boy/Girlfriend relationship isn't same as marriage relationship. You both need to BE PATIENT WITH EACH OTHER & concentrate your love on your first child & LEARN. Learn what you'll say! Pls speak to your wife about the need for bothering of you to learn ABOUT EACH OTHER: each Weaknesses & Strengths - and COMPLEMENT each other in every single opposite way. Meaning if your wife is weak, be her strength in that area; & if every area she's strong in, develop it more by encouraging words & complements, etc.
See, someone once told me when my marriage was less than 5 years, that it requires about 5 years for a marriage to mature to the point of couples tolerating each other. Truly, now some of the things i used to do that irks my wife, she now tolerates, & vice versa.
ALWAYS LEARN A MORE DIPLOMATIC OR WISE WAYS OF TELLING HER ABOUT HER WEAKNESS & HOW SHE SHLD IMPROVE ON IT.
This takes tact, but i must encourage you both to be faith pursuers, therefore, praying together.
If you are a Christian, then I'd say: build your home on the foundation of Christ.
1) Always pray together holding hands, morning & before bed
2) Always call each other pet names, no real name calling
3) Always discuss issues together intoto (boosts communication)
4) Always make sure YOU DON'T INVOLVE 3rd PARTIES TO YOUR ISSUES, U CANT WASH YOUR DIRTY LINEN IN THE PUBLIC (it'll backfire later on & ull both regret it). Don't forget YOU'RE TEAM, NOT ENEMIES.
5) Anyday you quarrel in the day, encourage making up by initiating Love making at night ( Morning shld not meet u in strife )
6) Strive hard to meet your family needs, give her gifts, buy her surprise Suya, Iced cream, goodies, etc. Women love gifts, & the giver too. DEVELOP A PRINCIPLE OF NEVER COLLECTING FROM YOUR WIFE, not all women are considerate in evaluating your situation. A MAN'S PRIDE IS TAKING GOOD CARE & PROVIDING FOR HIS FAMILY. God will always give you if you're wont to giving his treasure entrusted in your domain.
7) PLAY TOGETHER, DINE OUTSIDE ONCE IN A WHILE, PLAY EASY GAMES AT HOME, VISIT FOLKS TOGETHER, WATCH PROGRAMS TOGETHER : bottomline, do things TOGETHER, it strengthens relationship & makes u miss each other when separated.
FINALLY, BE REAL GOOD FRIENDS TO EACHOTHER. DON'T SEEK FOR A WIFE IN HER, SEEK FOR A FRIEND. YOU'LL FIND IT EASIER TO TOLERATE A FRIENDS SHIT THAN A WIFE S. FRIENDS LAST LONGER. AFTERALL YOU STARTED AS FRIENDS.
May God pour a new wine on your marriage & give it a freah zest of life & light.
Amen.

specter:


Women are not complicated bro. Women are like babies. They speak certain words you won't understand. I have had cos to talk my woman down like I would a kid and watch her cry and then pet her like a elder would.
I also have my flaws and she is allowed to speak her mind too but I a soft way. She has washed me clean and dry on several occassion with being insultive and bro.
I felt bad but could do nothing cos she was speaking the truth and she needs to tell her husband the truth as a mother would her kid.
We didn't get there by chance, it took work and encouragment. I always encouraged her to talk to me on how she feels. And believe me , we are having the best time. Always understand your woman as you would your kid and she will be forever loyal. But. above all, learn to manage manage your home as a man. You must defend, provide and care .

Hello Op, these are the advices that you should adhere to. See the few number of likes they garnered? This should serve as a reminder to you that other people rarely want you to come out victorious in your endeavours(a happy marriage definitely included), and would rather you joined them in their own current status(let everything spoil sef, and let the husband and wife go their own way). What they don't say on here, is the suffering that they're currently going through...

Bottomline is that if she leaves, she'll regret it. If you make her leave, or watch her leave, you'll regret it.
PS: She really doesn't want to leave, if she wanted to, she would have already left. But it doesn't mean that you should watch her build her resolve to the point where she does leave.
Help her, Help yourself!!!

That being said, this woman loves you, and you still love her(you're just doing yourself the disservice of focusing on her not so perfect characters right now). See how you just briefed over the areas of her not being stingy, but rather open-handed, when she was the one providing for your family? Well, stop doing this. Instead, good characteristics of hers like this, are what you should be focusing on(I'm very sure you know them all, you just chose to tell us only one).

I also want to let you in on a secret, she's secretly detests herself for all the nagging, and keeps wondering how you turned her into someone like that. But the truth of the matter is just like Billyonaire said up there, she's just bone tired.

So once again, I'll say this, help yourself by helping her. Take the advises of the two men I quoted up there and start living a happy and fulfilled marriage.

Modified.............

I'll like to go one step further and tell you to drop whatever you're doing right now, and pm them, call them, Whatsapp them, or whatever... They have the best interests of you, your wife, and your marriage at heart. Also, since they're males they'll be able to give you one or two tips from that angle.

But most important, is to go into this mending of fences with an open heart. Don't play eye services to their advises and God will see you through...

free2ryhme:


You created a new moniker to post this?

So you are ashamed of using your true ID

So what is the difference between you and your wife

Evening don reach make we go drink garri

have u heard of something called PRIVACY

LoveJesus87:
Op Se ur wife get ukwu?

this is the dumbest post ever...na ukwu be your problem.

Prognose:


I read the whole thing.
You're not alone bro. The problems you're having is the same kind of problems married people have at this stage of their marriage. This is the setting limits stage. This is where you both draw the line on things you can tolerate and things you won't allow no matter what. This is the stage where you show the kind of man you are and your wife will likewise adapt as a woman. Your problem is nothing out of the ordinary that others in these phase of marriage have experienced.


You didn't see all these flaws in her initially because you were deeply in love with her then. You may have even noticed some of these things but pushed them aside. But now the euphoria of love have gone and both of you are seeing yourselves live and direct. It's not a new thing bros, trust me.

So she nags. Almost all women nag, some nag worse than others. It is kind of your job to be patient with her as the man. Pls try and control your temper, this is what will make you matured and will separate u from being a boy. When she shouts and talks ceaselessly find a way to leave the environment or ignore her, depending on the type u can do. Over time she will learn to control herself.
Her controlling herself and reducing her nagging and your not getting enraged to be slapping her shows that you are both coming of age in the marriage and are understanding each other and becoming mature.


Do you want her to go back to her job? Remember she is pregnant (for the first time) and in a delicate and scared state. She is quite vulnerable right now with the changes going on in her body. Your job at this time is to be as supportive as you can. I don't mean you should become her slave but try and give her more rope when she misbehaves. It gets worse at three to six months of age and then she should start returning back to normal.

Set a boundary for her father. The fact that he has cut the phone on you once is enough to piss you off. He's not married to her, you are. If he calls again tell him politely that this is your family and you have your own plans for your wife. If you don't have the mind to do this then u can just ignore him instead. This is your wife now, he should stop butting in.

Find a job for her to do, no matter how little. Also don't give up on yourself. Every married couple went through this stage, it is those that come out of it that last. If you break up now, what's to say in your next marriage u won't break up again at the first sign of difficulty. Your a postgraduate man, you should be more mature and patient bro.

Find an older married couple you can talk to for advice. Not online o. A respectable married couple or couples preferably from the generation before ours let them tell you what they've been through themselves. Marriage is hard work and the more work you put into it the sweeter it becomes.

Cheers bro.

Pls are u single?? My sis is single pls

Good husband are extremely hard to find

QueenBeeQBQ:





Hello Op, these are the advices that you should adhere to. See the few number of likes they garnered? This should serve as a reminder to you that other people rarely want you to come out victorious in your endeavours(a happy marriage definitely included), and would rather you joined them in their own current status(let everything spoil sef, and let the husband and wife go their own way). What they don't say on here, is the suffering that they're currently going through...

Bottomline is that if she leaves, she'll regret it. If you make her leave, or watch her leave, you'll regret it.
PS: She really doesn't want to leave, if she wanted to, she would have already left. But it doesn't mean that you should watch her build her resolve to the point where she does leave.
Help her, Help yourself!!!

That being said, this woman loves you, and you still love her(you're just doing yourself the disservice of focusing on her not so perfect characters right now). See how you just briefed over the areas of her not being stingy, but rather open-handed, when she was the one providing for your family? Well, stop doing this. Instead, good characteristics of hers like this, are what you should be focusing on(I'm very sure you know them all, you just chose to tell us only one).

I also want to let you in on a secret, she's secretly detests herself for all the nagging, and keeps wondering how you turned her into someone like that. But the truth of the matter is just like Billyonaire said up there, she's just bone tired.

So once again, I'll say this, help yourself by helping her. Take the advises of the two men I quoted up there and start living a happy and fulfilled marriage.

hahaha seems like u know the woman very well..a woman is frustrating a mans life and u are asking him to stay there like mario..lol.. there are lots of women out there looking for a good man..u know we nigerians we like saying E GO BETTER..E GO BETTER E GO BETTER..nigeria is still the same way..life is sweet and its one life..i swear money is good...when u have money a woman cant mess around..the new generation of nigerian women are something else..i would never marry a nigerian woman because i want to live a long life..them too get wahala..always money hungry..once the money stop coming ur life will be a livinghell..lastly..do u know some women will not want to leave u but frustrate u to make u leave them..

YelloweWest:

Pls are u single?? My sis is single pls

Good husband are extremely hard to find

exactly and some people are saying he should die with frustration and HBP...hell no..my friend give her 1 year and if u dont see any changes..move on and for now please use condom and dont get her pregnant again and i advise u to travel to any african country not ghana or cotonou.another african country..u will see a good calm girl..tell her stay here and she will..not a nigerian woman that will head butt u..lol..slap u sef..lol..and even hit u in the balls..yes nigerian women are crazy like that..this new generation of them..

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This is a sad tale. It is better to live in the desert than to stay with a troublesome woman in the house. My guy try to make your marriage work. That is what life brought ur way.

east and south african ladies love nigerian men..guys branch out and u will give a good testimony...stop killing urself for nigerian women they will drive u crazy and send one to an early grave...unless u want to go and bring a girl from the village..but this new generation girls are something else..other african countries their women love naija guys..just say the word and they will stand by u forever..they are not after money...i swear..somebody should give me a testimony abeg...i will never marry a naija woman

u cross the line if u fight my mother..because i wont be able to look u in the eye anymore..nigerian men branch out..

There is nothing wrong or bad with his wife. She married him even when he had nothing. There is only so much any human being can take. Now there's a poor child that the shameless man isn't even considering, completely blaming his wife for his financial recklessness and garnering support here to send her packing. He got married on GH, nothing changed he went on to get her pregnant, still nothing changed then suddenly it's all the wife's fault Musings of an irresponsible guy. It's a similar thought process that litters northern Nigeria with almajiri children.

cristianisraeli:


oboy u day vex oo..lol..nigerian women and money bi like beans and garri

Why did you get married in the first place dumbo...well sha, marriage is for poor men, good luck with ya fat lazy naggy wife

I can't believe I read all your post. just 2yrs marriage and you're slap your wife, that's very bad.......only animal beat up his wife, what you both need is God and money.

TheEminentLaity:
There is nothing wrong or bad with his wife. She married him even when he had nothing. There is only so much any human being can take. Now there's a poor child that the shameless man isn't even considering, completely blaming his wife for his financial recklessness and garnering support here to send her packing. He got married on GH, nothing changed he went on to get her pregnant, still nothing changed then suddenly it's all the wife's fault Musings of an irresponsible guy. It's a similar thought process that litters northern Nigeria with almajiri children.

u mean the wife that fought his mother?ok oo..please i dont like hearing he married him even when he had nothing..what do u classify as nothing?should a man go rob a bank?nigerian women too money hungry and u can see money in their eyes..am sure they didnt use paper to do wedding right..they use money..look..a man shouldnt die because of one child..he can have more with someone else..life is still sweet and long..hell he can have from different women..thats life..he cant be dieing slowly.dont compare notherners that marry 9yr old to southerners that marry ripe women..my point..lets not live a life of sorrow or pain..if its not working..seperation or divorce..is it until the guy kill her with anger?my advise give her 1 year if she doesnt chance..leave her..pack out of the house and leave the house for her and make sure u always pay child support...I SWEAR MARK MY WORD Bluestreams..u will find love again...

cristianisraeli:


exactly and some people are saying he should die with frustration and HBP...hell no..my friend give her 1 year and if u dont see any changes..move on and for now please use condom and dont get her pregnant again and i advise u to travel to any african country not ghana or cotonou.another african country..u will see a good calm girl..tell her stay here and she will..not a nigerian woman that will head butt u..lol..slap u sef..lol..and even hit u in the balls..yes nigerian women are crazy like that..this new generation of them..

Honest, I've been reading n following your post for month and I can say that we have something in common honestly!

I wish I meet you someday

cristianisraeli:


exactly and some people are saying he should die with frustration and HBP...hell no..my friend give her 1 year and if u dont see any changes..move on and for now please use condom and dont get her pregnant again and i advise u to travel to any african country not ghana or cotonou.another african country..u will see a good calm girl..tell her stay here and she will..not a nigerian woman that will head butt u..lol..slap u sef..lol..and even hit u in the balls..yes nigerian women are crazy like that..this new generation of them..

Please can I ask a question

What type of woman do u want to marry n please can you state the nationality

Thanks

tescoman90:


Honest, I've been reading n following your post for month and I can say that we have something in common honestly!

I wish I meet you someday

hahaha..i dont know how to beat around the bush..we all deserve to live a happy life.if the guy was a muslim u think he wont just go and marry another woman instead of one woman frustrating his life..i swear money good...if he had money my advise to him..leave enough money for ur kid for feeding and take a 2weeks vacation to clear his head..he would come back a different man.i think christians should start living like solomon..he had many wives..lol..hopefully maybe someday we could meet..lol

tescoman90:


Please can I ask a question

What type of woman do u want to marry n please can you state the nationality

Thanks

i wont mention a particular country but u can choose from anywoman from east africa or southern africa..those women are nice and calm and they love nigerians..when u say sit here..i swear they will..they are not after money...i repeat they are not after money even if u want to spend money it woud be little..in those places true love still means something,where flowers and cards still means something..unlike nigeria where TRUE LOVE IS DEAD..if u no get 30 BILLION FOR UR ACCOUNT NOW...na OYO u day ooo

cristianisraeli:


i wont mention a particular country but u can choose from anywoman from east africa or southern africa..those women are nice and calm and they love nigerians..when u say sit here..i swear they will..they are not after money...i repeat they are not after money even if u want to spend money it woud be little..in those places true love still means something,where flowers and cards still means something..unlike nigeria where TRUE LOVE IS DEAD..if u no get 30 BILLION FOR UR ACCOUNT NOW...na OYO u day ooo

But are u in Nigeria?

tescoman90:


But are u in Nigeria?

maybe.lol

Evaberry:
you are a MAn who is wicked and selfish

just because she refused to become your slave you tag her lazy.. you don't deserve her.
you even slapped her yet she didn't leave you.



you complain too much!!!!

your marriage palava is not our business or wahala.
.
we didn't fuvk her with you!!!!

Eva calm down and read every details of that write up. You probably read one line that put you off but there was more in that story including the fact He admitted slapping her...And he didn't even sound cool with it and even admitted in the last paragraph that He might not be innocent himself. The bro has spoken from his heart and I can read some mature counsel here . Listen, people handle frustration differently. I might not be able to come to social media to wash my dirty linen here but go to a counselor or a pastor who is graced to counsel married folks , so I can't judge him...I rather encougevhim like most men and women here have done.

u guys need a time out. nw i dont mean separating, no not dat.
take her out of dat environment to a secluded place and give her a treat u havnt done before. then u can have a hrt to hrt talk about d challenges.

then see nw d outcome. if it works out, u can thank me later but if it doesn't then shes hell bent in destroying u without mercy.

bennytfi:
this is complicated, marrying without a good source of income is not too good, secondly u tolerated her from d beginning so she is used to it. u started what u can't finish

bros you just spoke my mind. he tolerated her from the beginning.. don't start what you can't finish... in order to please women don't tolerate nonsense things you don't like... My boss told me something one day he called my name and he said .... When you are married if your wife does something you don't like tell her immediately to stop and stand your ground. I will never forget that advice.. it is a lesson for us all..

cristianisraeli:


get the f outa here..typical nigerian woman..u want the guy to die abi or develop HBP..or by the time he use annoyance and kill the woman u will be the first to come here and call him names..why must he live this one life with pain and sorrow..maybe u didnt ready well..the woman is not ready to change..the new generation of nigerian women are something else..prayer prayer prayer..when the muslims where invading europe and invaded the holy land..the pope didnt pray he formed an ARMY OF CRUSADERS to crush the islamist..so he needs action now and not prayers.FOR ME I WILL NEVER LIVE THIS ONE LIFE WITH PAIN AND SORROW..why force themselves on each other if it cant work.look.there is always someone out there for us and i will never kill myself because of any woman.i will move on with life.i swear life is sweeter than stick to one woman that is frustrating ur life everyday..he will still find love and it wont be like this present woman..kapish.

Why are you so pained darling...oh I nearly forget..hate drains. Op I guess you don't want yo be like him. Take some sugar..I think honey is healthier. At least it will help you live longer to choke on your bitterness and hatred. Receive sense, Amen.

Evaberry:
you are a MAn who is wicked and selfish

just because she refused to become your slave you tag her lazy.. you don't deserve her.
you even slapped her yet she didn't leave you.
you complain too much!!!!

your marriage palava is not our business or wahala.
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we didn't fuvk her with you!!!!

Uncalled for