We all have great fear for the unknown. Many of us have had crazy superstitious believe in past that were later discredited

Romantic relationship can be so scary attimes because of so many unknowns. Yet, we all have to fall in love and be loved at some stage in our lifes because it satisfies our emotional needs. Hence, the need to identify the unknowns that affect romantic relationships and find practical solutions to them

Here are some unknowns we encounter in romantic relationships and how we can deal with them

Fear of being cheated on; the number one fear we all have in relationships. This fear cuts across both genders. It has the capacity to turn a partner into a stalker in a relationship

Solutions: Sadly the only solution here is to take your mind of it, because thinking about it will not change anything. Just trust your partner the way you expect him/her to trust you


Fear of losing your independence ; This is the believe patners have that they may lose their alone time or chance to enjoy hubbies alone I.e time spent chatting with your friend on social media

solution; Always encourage each other to try something separately. Don't try to spend all of your free time together. This may be hard for emotionally needy partners. However, it must be done for thr good of the relationship


Fear of losing relevance ( Mostly for ladies): This is a fear common among women than men in a relatiinship, particularly if the man carries most of the financial burden

Solution : Always make sure you are relevant in your relationship, don't just allow your partner foot all the bill. Assist the little way you can. Make your self relevant in other ways as well.

Fear of relatives and friends; This fear is common among partners from different social or economical class I.e rich and poor, different ethnicity

Solutions,; Try to learn something about your partner class or ethnicity before meeting his/ her people. Don't try to force yourself on your partner's people because you may appear desperate. Let them accept you when they feel comfortable with you

Here are my observations, feel free to add yours

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