iyzeek:
Build your sex life with him and ignore his phone addiction. It could be worse, he could be addicted to illegal drugs, women etc.

I agree with you. There are three main vices that usually hold most men captive: Drugs, womanizing and gambling. Now, a fourth one has been added: Internet addiction and many men are under its stranglehold.
Internet addiction can arise as a result of boredom, need for distraction from a heavy work schedule, plain addiction or lack of proper communication between couples due to different interests(A lawyer complained that each time he tries to discuss legal issues he encountered during the day at home with his wife, who is also a lawyer, she gets angry and reminds him that they are at home and that she does not want to discuss legal issues. The husband said he brings up such issues as a way of enhancing communication between them, but the wife would have none of that).
I guess at the end of the day, the Op and her husband have to sit down and iron out the Internet addiction issue so as to have a happy marriage.

In a relationship, sacrifice, endurance, love and understanding are needed or else you will ruin ur home.

*If ur husband like football so much....don't try to stop him from watching. Learn to love football so that 2 of u will enjoy it together. From there u can start working on him on how to reduce the addiction.

* If your wife likes her cosmetics so much, she like making up. Don't stop her cos u won't succeed. Buy her some good cosmetics. Help her while see is doing it. Commend her look. Den start working on her addiction. By this u wont always be angry wen u see her making up.

* Madam, if ur husband is phone addict, don't fight him cos u may not win rather u will become more distressed. If he like Facebook, add him to ur Facebook account. Post things and call him and say..."Hey honey have u seen my post on Facebook today?"
If he is on Whatsapp, add him and engage him on Whatsapp chat and video calls. Don't give him breathing space. If he is on Nairaland, always ask him to read a particular post there.
Enter a dating site, tell him how so many ppl are are chasing women there. Request that he join the dating site.

By the time u are done with this no be person go tell am make em get time for u. He will think that men in that dating site will take you from him then his brain will automatically reset to super normal.

Problem with women is not applying wisdom in solving their problems. You want to order the man to stop touching his phone and u want that order to be carried out instantly.

transient123:


That could be counterproductive if you look at it intrinsically. As a married man and from experience, when both parties get engrossed in whatever thing they do, then, intimacy suffers, closeness and the I don't care syndrome set in and they will both live like men in the house.

Please madam, engage him in talk when he is most vulnerable to listen, if he isn't the selfish type, he will come back to his senses. You could cry at times and assume, the "I am not happy with this' posture, by His grace normalcy shall return.

I get your point of view!

But the OP mentioned that she's mentioned to him that the habit is driving a wedge between them! So it's not like she hadn't attempted the "communicate your feelings on the subject to him" approach.

I am aware that sometimes men feel women/thier wives are a bother to them! And they turn thier focus to seemingly more important things including but not always phones and side chicks.

The effect ignoring him should have that is that it'll make him curious as to what is occupying her and he will become more attentive to her!

glo4chuks:
We have been married 4 - 5 years with so many ups n down but by the God's grace we are gaining balance now. But my husband just got a habit of always pressing his phone, while eating, talking evening wake up at midnight just to operate phone.

This habit has limited communication, sex, in fact anything at all couples can do. He goes to office in the morning, comes back by 6 or 7 :oo but all he will do for the rest of the day is phone.

l have talked to him several times about it but no change, I don't want to suspect anything but am getting tired of this union pls advice a sister tnx.

I'm an addict too!

What u need to do? Develop interests in what he spends time doing n chat him up on it. If u're lucky n its just news updates he follows, then u can pick ur phone too, read n share stories. Creates a connection.

If na dating sites, ........ OYO u dey(though, if u show enough interest, he will have to reduce any infidelity.)

Benita27:
Your husband hasn't set his priorities straight. You, his spouse should come first before anything when he's home. If you talk about it too much it'll turn to nagging and he won't like it. Whenever you need his attention, try taking his phone from him and he'll do it on his own accord.

Complainant
What a nagging wife material
You're already judging the man she she only ask for simple advice

glo4chuks:
We have been married 4 - 5 years with so many ups n down but by the God's grace we are gaining balance now. But my husband just got a habit of always pressing his phone, while eating, talking evening wake up at midnight just to operate phone.

This habit has limited communication, sex, in fact anything at all couples can do. He goes to office in the morning, comes back by 6 or 7 :oo but all he will do for the rest of the day is phone.

l have talked to him several times about it but no change, I don't want to suspect anything but am getting tired of this union pls advice a sister tnx.

probably because you both have little in common... Find something else he'd like to do in the evenings, yall can do exercise runs, watch current movies together, try to go out of your way to seduce your husband like wearing push up bras, wearing bum shorts and coyly inviting him to check it out. Dear you need to bring sexy back, exercise more.. The truth is the issue may not be you or him, but a general lack of willingness to try new things.... Give him head, if you can..just change overnight my dear, i promise you he will definitely notice....

... Nairaland sure ni, not dat ur husband is cheating on you, maybe u re nt giving him wat he likes dat why he prefer his phone instead of you... Try to know wat he is always doing with his phone... Companion matter in relationship abi?
It is left to you to decide on what to do to revive him back frm that habit... LET LOVE LEAD. I rep Nairaland...

glo4chuks:
We have been married 4 - 5 years with so many ups n down but by the God's grace we are gaining balance now. But my husband just got a habit of always pressing his phone, while eating, talking evening wake up at midnight just to operate phone.

This habit has limited communication, sex, in fact anything at all couples can do. He goes to office in the morning, comes back by 6 or 7 :oo but all he will do for the rest of the day is phone.

l have talked to him several times about it but no change, I don't want to suspect anything but am getting tired of this union pls advice a sister tnx.

Nne u made me accuse my wife this morning thinking she was the one that wrote this topic. U share 110% similarity with my wife in ur complains and nomba of the years in marriage is same with us. I think we are twins in marriage.

The truth is that ur husband is just addicted with reading news or looking for information just like me. My wife have gotten over it since she understand I was not doing anything rubbing and have been faithful in our relationship. Also i have slow down with my phone recently. It's not something u kill ur self with, it's just addiction very soon he will stop it. Don't try to change him by force let it come natural.

[quote author=Khd95 post=58667619]I have this feelings that ur hubby too is a nairalander,always with his phone to see if there is any news about lala and snakes,tonto dike,hush puppi and gucci buhari and london....the list is endless

suggestion;wait fo the elders of nairaland to arrive first[/quote
U are on point guy

Pylony:
chaii BACK TO BED KE? see Enjoyment galore at it's fullest.

Yes na when u be boss you gotta relax
Make I no die untimely death enjoy my hard work sleep is essential

Me in the future

Install Candy Crush and always hold ur phone also, try to be busy playing games with ur headphone whenever u see him with phone.he will quickly rush ur phone thingking u are chatting with a guy.do it regularly and u will see him changed

glo4chuks:
We have been married 4 - 5 years with so many ups n down but by the God's grace we are gaining balance now. But my husband just got a habit of always pressing his phone, while eating, talking evening wake up at midnight just to operate phone.

This habit has limited communication, sex, in fact anything at all couples can do. He goes to office in the morning, comes back by 6 or 7 :oo but all he will do for the rest of the day is phone.

l have talked to him several times about it but no change, I don't want to suspect anything but am getting tired of this union pls advice a sister tnx.

be his addiction

Khd95:
I have this feelings that ur hubby too is a nairalander,always with his phone to see if there is any news about lala and snakes,tonto dike,hush puppi and gucci buhari and london....the list is endless

suggestion;wait fo the elders of nairaland to arrive first

U r a savage bro!!!!

The major deliverance some people need to move to their next level is deliverance from phone addiction.

Your husband probably placed a 30-selection acca on Bet9ja and is constantly on Livescore to follow the hussle.

Madam i was in your husbands shoe. And my wife complained bitterly. What we did was agree on time for my browsing. She likes watching tele mudo and zee world. So we agree she either also stop watching those movies and give me her attention. Since she likes it so much she said she cannot stop and I said I cannot stop my browsing too. At last we agree that we both will neither watch or browse till 10:30pm. And that worked. We have all the time between coming from work and 10:30 pm and after then 'to your tent o Isreal'. U can try something similar

I always put myself in check to ensure that I'm not addicted to my phone.



This is what I think you should do, Just wake up at midnight, put a bucket of water at his side and put the phone inside. After saying a day or two without phone it will be Dawn on him that he can't actually do without it.






#but try this at your peril, it's not elantraceey that adviced you ooo

women and their problem, so man no go press his own phone again. always sleep with him every two minutes.

babythug:


I get your point of view!

But the OP mentioned that she's mentioned to him that the habit is driving a wedge between them! So it's not like she hadn't attempted the "communicate your feelings on the subject to him" approach.

I am aware that sometimes men feel women/thier wives are a bother to them! And they turn thier focus to seemingly more important things including but not always phones and side chicks.

The effect ignoring him should have that is that it'll make him curious as to what is occupying her and he will become more attentive to her!

Many talk attempts could bring the magic, don't you think so. Ignoring is a 50/50 chance if you agree and the second 50% chance could be very disastrous for the family.

With patience and perseverance especially from the madam, she will be victorious, no doubt.

glo4chuks:
We have been married 4 - 5 years with so many ups n down but by the God's grace we are gaining balance now. But my husband just got a habit of always pressing his phone, while eating, talking evening wake up at midnight just to operate phone.

This habit has limited communication, sex, in fact anything at all couples can do. He goes to office in the morning, comes back by 6 or 7 :oo but all he will do for the rest of the day is phone.

l have talked to him several times about it but no change, I don't want to suspect anything but am getting tired of this union pls advice a sister tnx.

The ONLY practical and most effective solution it to show genuine intrest in what he's checking on phone. Let what interests him interests you too. Tell him what GOD has joined together, let no phone put assunder. Learn to enjoy reading the phone news/joke/articles with him on his phone constantly. Both would discuss it, laugh and bond better through that. Sacrifice is the food /fuel of successful marriages.

Nairaland has snatched your husband from you.
Tell him how you feel about it and if he doesn't do anything, then you can get busy with your phone too

Khd95:
I have this feelings that ur hubby too is a nairalander,always with his phone to see if there is any news about lala and snakes,tonto dike,hush puppi and gucci buhari and london....the list is endless

suggestion;wait fo the elders of nairaland to arrive first

very funny!!!
three days ago I couldn't log out of NL and was very busy with it! I was in bed and my wife really thought I was chatting up someone (a babe maybe, you know they always feel it's babes)
See wetin NL dey cause!!

Madam sorry for the experience. But you need to know the kind of person your hubby is. If he is an introvert he will certainly not like too much talk and be comfortable with the phone. Also, if you do things your hubby does not like he may just be pissed off with you. If you shut him down often, try to win every argument or disobey his very simple instructions. he may just want to avoid trouble by keeping to himself and the phone will be his best companion. cheers!

At least he's not going to a beer pallor and returning back late at night. Last year I made bad company, I would close from work and head straight to a relaxation joint, then drink all my life, hang out with ladies, only to return home late at night, it almost killed my relationship. I even thought of getting a second lady and brought the issue up to N/L. My freedom came when I dissociated from my old friends and decided to face my relationship. Today I have a peaceful, and loving live. Finally be sure he's not addicted to Ponzi schemes and peer 2 peer schemes.

Ponzi Hater.

Una wan kill this woman with confusion. Some want her to ignore the man. U many not know if the man is looking for a way to provoke her wife self. She Don talk talk e no walk. Madam pls when next he is sleeping. Remove and break his sim cards. If he wants to fight u. He will be angry with it and anger is d best way for someone to say what is on Der mind. But if he ignored it and buy a new sim and continue with it den look for another way to keep making him angry. U want him to talk trust me he will talk. Don't give that d distance he is looking for. After 5 years na now he likes phones. No man on earth likes phone more than sex. So its may be is angry with u or wants he is looking for a way to ignore u all d time. D bottom is make him.angry den he will talk simple do it tonight

And unless there is something else u are not telling us

Khd95:
I have this feelings that ur hubby too is a nairalander,always with his phone to see if there is any news about lala and snakes,tonto dike,hush puppi and gucci buhari and london....the list is endless

suggestion;wait fo the elders of nairaland to arrive first

The pest that consumes the garden egg is within.
Her problem is within. There is smtn she isn't doing well.

verygudbadguy:
Madam, it is not that bad. As a matter of fact, he might just be addicted to a forum like I am addicted to Nairaland. It doesn't mean that he is cheating on you or chatting with some shawties.

My wife complained a lot about my addiction to Nairaland until I made her like the forum. She can sleep on here sef. You can talk this through with him. If you need his attention, call for it and I am sure he won't turn you down.

Hmmm you dis man, so you are married ehn

And you wee be corrupting children on Nairaland

Phone addiction is now common in most homes and family have not realised how much its breaking bonds. Just be patient with him, he will come around.