I will go straight to the point, have come to seek advice on how to handle this, I have been here on NL for awhile, but I created this account for advice.
so I woke up early to prepare my children for school today, there was no electricity supply but my son (5 years) was busying with his dad's phone in the sitting room, his composure made me decide to have a glimpse of what game he was playing, I snooped behind him and guest what? He was watching porn!! the way he was clicking and pausing it showed it wasn't his first time, I took the phone from him,and decided not to make a scene that early, Now am confused... I don't knw how to handle this (haven't told his father either). Am just annoyed after all the blocking TV channels... This had to happen. pls how do I handle this?

The deed has been done already, When your son is back from school. Pls Beat the crap out of him & leave marks ...Yeah i said that !!!

Then afterwards, talk to your husband & sort things out.

Why would your husband be keeping adult content on his phone without a password? Your husband too also deserves an ass woopping.

truthsayer009:
The deed has been done already, When your son is back from school. Pls Beat the crap out of him & leave marks ...Yeah i said that !!!

Then afterwards, talk to your husband & sort things out.

Why would your husband be keeping adult content on his phone without a password? Your husband too also deserves an ass woopping.

Honestly am so annoyed,I don't know ooo why the heck he has such stuff on his phone without a password, see how he has messed up this little boy head thanks alot

Just take the situation calm and reasonable

tuscani:
Just take the situation calm and reasonable

Thanks...am really trying to... Thats why I came here to seek advice.

truthsayer009:
The deed has been done already, When your son is back from school. Pls Beat the crap out of him & leave marks ...Yeah i said that !!!

Then afterwards, talk to your husband & sort things out.

Why would your husband be keeping adult content on his phone without a password? Your husband too also deserves an ass woopping.

Nigerian parenting 101. Beat the crap out of a 5y/o and leave marks? There is a reason why devices come with locks, TV comes with parental control functions _it's for you to protect your kids. They know not any better.

No mention of advising the lil bobo not to go about touching adult phones, everything na beat for una.

Fabulouscity:
I will go straight to the point, have come to seek advice on how to handle this, I have been here on NL for awhile, but I created this account for advice.
so I woke up early to prepare my children for school today, there was no electricity supply but my son (5 years) was busying with his dad's phone in the sitting room, his composure made me decide to have a glimpse of what game he was playing, I snooped behind him and guest what? He was watching porn!! the way he was clicking and pausing it showed it wasn't his first time, I took the phone from him,and decided not to make a scene that early, Now am confused... I don't knw how to handle this (haven't told his father either). Am just annoyed after all the blocking TV channels... This had to happen. pls how do I handle this?

You do not need to beat the boy - he is only a child who found videos on his dad's phone and watched it out of curiosity (assuming he didn't download it, of course).

The first thing you should do is to have a talk with your husband. Of course he is an adult who can keep anything he likes on his phone but for God's sake (and the boy's of course) he should not make that phone accessible to the children.

Once you have had that talk with your husband, let him be the one to talk to your son about the video thereafter. You should also be there but don't talk to the boy. Only ask him if he understands his dad and has taken note. Your husband should tell him it was wrong to watch such videos but please do not punish the boy in anyway as it's in no way his fault he watched that video.

Fabulouscity:

Thanks...am really trying to... Thats why I came here to seek advice.

Please calm down, children like phone _these modern ones only like big phones, give them nokia-torch, they won't collect .

Talk your husband. The positive side is, he isn't like some husbands that lock their phones and even the network connection. The negative side is, bobo saw what he shouldn't. Calm down with the positive and tell him what happened, he loves his kids as much as you do _it was most likely an oversight. He should activate his auto-lock.

You guys should call the lil boy and engage him, no overreaction, no beating. If a good job has been done regulating what he watches and who he associates with, he won't understand the basics of sex just yet.

Simply tell him there are some videos we shouldn't be watching, they are not good for our health. Your concerns are normal, but the greater problem lies in your reaction and how you handle it, don't make it sound like he did the unthinkable. Since he likes pressing phone, get him his own tablet, download kiddies content for him, he should press as he likes.


Have you had those little sex-education talk with him? Don't be like those parents that wait till they see you playing mummy & daddy, before they have that talk.

PaperLace:


Nigerian parenting 101. Beat the crap out of a 5y/o and leave marks? There is a reason why devices come with locks, TV comes with parental control functions _it's for you to protect your kids. They know not any better.

No mention on advising the lil bobo not to go about touching adult phone, everything na beat for una.

I actually contemplating beating him ooo, just felt it was just too early (5am). I ve read some of your comments and you do give good advices, what do u suggest I do?

DonOms:


You do not need to beat the boy - he is only a child who found videos on his dad's phone and watched it out of curiosity (assuming he didn't download it, of course).

The first thing you should do is to have a talk with your husband. Of course he is an adult who can keep anything he likes on his phone but for God's sake (and the boy's of course) he should not make that phone accessible to the children.

Once you have had that talk with your husband, let him be the one to talk to your son about the video thereafter. You should also be there but don't talk to the boy. Only ask him if he understands his dad and has taken note. Your husband should tell him it was wrong to watch such videos but please do not punish the boy in anyway as it's in no way his fault he watched that video.

No he didn't, the videos were already in the phone. Thanks alot.

Fabulouscity:


I actually contemplating beating him ooo, just felt it was just too early (5am). I ve read some of your comments and you do give good advices, what do u suggest I do?

It's impulse that you want to beat him. You want to beat who you power reach? Go and beat the owner of the phone na .

Talk to him lovingly, my other comment addressed that. I'm grateful for the compliment.

PaperLace:


Please calm down, children like phone _these modern ones only like big phones, give them nokia-torch, they won't collect .

Talk your husband. The positive side is, he isn't like some husbands that lock their phones and even the network connection. The negative side is, bobo saw what he shouldn't. Calm down with the positive and tell him what happened, he loves his kids as much as you do _it was most likely an oversight. He should activate his auto-lock.



You guys should call the lil boy and engage him, no overreaction, no beating. If a good job has been done regulating what he watches and who he associates with, he won't understand the basics of sex just yet.

Simply tell him there are some videos we shouldn't be watching, they are not good for our health. Your concerns are normal, but the greater problem lies in your reaction and how you handle it, don't make it sound like he did the unthinkable. Since he likes pressing phone, get him his own tablet, download kiddies content for him, he should press as he likes.


Have you had those little sex-education talk with him? Don't be like those parents that wait till they see you playing mummy & daddy, before they have that talk.

No I haven't had the "talk" with him yet, I was thinking 10yrs,but with this... I should Abi? Thanks alot

Thanks alot everyone for the advice, I will do as you have adviced... I will speak to the father then we take it up from there. Thank you all n Godbless and thank you NL for this platform. Parenting isn't Easyyy may God help us.

PaperLace:


It's impulse that you want to beat him. You want to beat who you power reach? Go and beat the owner of the phone na .

Talk to him lovingly, my other comment addressed that. I'm grateful for the compliment.

I should beat the owner Abi.. I swear.. .
I was ina terrible mood this morning but after reading through here, I feel alot better. Thanks I will do just that.

Fabulouscity:


I actually contemplating beating him ooo, just felt it was just too early (5am). I ve read some of your comments and you do give good advices, what do u suggest I do?

Beat him shaba shaba!! Whenever he remembers the beating, he will hate porn with perfect hatred. That is the African way to train a child.

After beating your boy, use your mouth to beat Daddy for keeping rubbish in his phone and being careless about it.

Ishilove:

Beat him shaba shaba!! Whenever he remembers the beating, he will hate porn with perfect hatred. That is the African way to train a child.

After beating your boy, use your mouth to beat Daddy for keeping rubbish in his phone and being careless about it.

Asin ehen, I just kept quiet since everyone was advocating the boy should not be beating or touched. Imagine a boy of 5 year old. Mtchew !

truthsayer009:


Asin ehen, I just kept quiet since everyone was advocating the boy should not be beating or touched. Imagine a boy of 5 year old. Mtchew !

This is the reason why children of nowadays are so spoiled now and don't have fear.

Ishilove:

This is the reason why children of nowadays are so spoiled now and don't have fear.

The only person here who should be beaten is the careless dad.

Children go through everything they can lay their hands on.

The child has absolutely no idea what it is he is looking at, or if it is bad for him to look at.

Ishilove:

This is the reason why children of nowadays are so spoiled now and don't have fear.

Ishi, is it his fault?
It's not like he intentionally broke something, stole or beat up his younger one. There are situations where a lil spank here and there would come in _I don't think it applies here.

The boy was watching that video like any other video. If it's porn or not, he doesn't know!

Nigerian children have always been spoilt, most package at home. That's why when they enter university, the freedom is too much, you see them using drugs, joining cults and prostitution. Despite all the beating at home.

talk to your husband, let him know he is failing as a father..... this shouldn't generate fight pls!

Fabulouscity:

Honestly am so annoyed,I don't know ooo why the heck he has such stuff on his phone without a password, see how he has messed up this little boy head thanks alot

Please don't beat the poor boy...

It's your failure as parents and not his.
Accept responsibility for that (I'm referring to you and your hubby)

Am not in the best position to advise you, but I will let you see things from my perspective.

Something about porn is that, you just don't watch it once and forget it. It continues to play in your head, then it start creating a void , a space thats want to be filled with my porns.


You see we are in the internet age, getting access to tech is an easy thing. I bet it with you if you and your hubby should do all this parental control ish, he will still find his way, ( go check history of chronic porn addict and masturbators on nairaland). Our society is filled with moral decadence to the brim, he will see semi live porn on the street. In few years time, his class mates will start bringing phones to school with porn content.


You now need to educate him about sex, and porn. You need to let him see, why he shouldn't watch porn. If you should flog him, and start locking your phone, he will be inquisitive and be smart about it.

Although I have commented before, but I was thinking and putting myself in your shoes. That porn will cause a lot of confusion for the 5 year old, but you really have to be careful and gauge what impact it had on him. From there you can be able to deduce how best to handle the debriefing of the child.

truthsayer009:
The deed has been done already, When your son is back from school. Pls Beat the crap out of him & leave marks ...Yeah i said that !!!

Ewww...

truthsayer009:


Asin ehen, I just kept quiet since everyone was advocating the boy should not be beating or touched. Imagine a boy of 5 year old. Mtchew !

Can u remember the things u did when u were 5?
When u were 5 years old u get sense?
You think beating is the best way to train children?
Go beat your children & live other people children alone

oyb:


The only person here who should be beaten is the careless dad.

Children go through everything they can lay their hands on.

The child has absolutely no idea what it is he is looking at, or if it is bad for him to look at.

God bless u @bold

Ishilove:

This is the reason why children of nowadays are so spoiled now and don't have fear.

All those old men & women we are having as kidnappers & prostitutes are they not spoilt?
Are they not not children of old? Your advise is just as senseless as u...

Fabulouscity:

Honestly am so annoyed,I don't know ooo why the heck he has such stuff on his phone without a password, see how he has messed up this little boy head thanks alot

Why not confront your husband instead of planning evil for the little boy?
Was the little boy the one who downloaded d porn?

johnson232:

All those old men & women we are having as kidnappers & prostitutes are they not spoilt?
Are they not not children of old? Your advise is just as senseless as u...

You are thinking from your anus, that's why you can use your diseased fingers to type _shit and insults total strangers. You are obviously one of those rotten children who's parents should have used wire to reset their brain so that they won't come to the internet to display their lack of home training. Mannerless thing.

it's clearly your husband's fault.... don't beat the child, he did nothing wrong

Op, if I were you, I'd beat him. A little spanking doesn't kill but corrects. The bible said "Spare the rod and spoil the child" that scripture conveys a message, and I see kids whose parents don't beat and shake my head 'cause they're nothing to write home about in mannerism.

Make sure you spank him before having that sex education talk, and don't expose him to too much 'cause of his age. There's still a limit to what he'd grasp even though you caught him watching porn.

Fabulouscity:
I will go straight to the point, have come to seek advice on how to handle this, I have been here on NL for awhile, but I created this account for advice.
so I woke up early to prepare my children for school today, there was no electricity supply but my son (5 years) was busying with his dad's phone in the sitting room, his composure made me decide to have a glimpse of what game he was playing, I snooped behind him and guest what? He was watching porn!! the way he was clicking and pausing it showed it wasn't his first time, I took the phone from him,and decided not to make a scene that early, Now am confused... I don't knw how to handle this (haven't told his father either). Am just annoyed after all the blocking TV channels... This had to happen. pls how do I handle this?

hi..ill go straight to the point. Pls dont beat your child. The fault totally rests on your husband.
1. You are however gonna be observing and watching your child very closely. Ensure he doesnt stay anywhere alone with the opposite sex. He might wanna practise or experiment.

2. Tell your husband what happened and the danger he has exposed the boy too. Make him agree to do away with porn.

3. Ensure from time to time you monitor your husbands phone. Even though he has promised, it might not be easy for him to stop. However you must encourage him and support him.

4. Take the matter to God, truth is your son has been exposed to something that troubles even adults. Side effects may or may not come.

In all dont panic, dont fret. Its gonna be all right.