Well, I'm back again looking for people who are going through the same things I'm going through. Maybe we can start a form of group to share how we can overcome the things we face.

I have been single for a while due to complicated issues like I date out of pity, I have problem with commitment and I just make silly mistakes. Sometimes it best so lonely even tho I get some regular flings, friends with benefits and all but there's no girl I can actually call my own or talk to when I'm alone. Sometimes I'm forced to reach out to my friends with benefit but they warn me about not getting emotionally attached.
Getting a girlfriend for me isn't that hard but the problem is I'm not in love with anybody and I don't want to hurt anyone anymore but the loneliness sometimes is overwhelming...

Find ways to do other stuff you love and love yourself.

Define the necessary few qualities you want in your woman.

Above all. Love yourself and be happy with the stuff you do.

You'll radiate such love & surely she'll come into view.

Sleyanya1:
Find ways to do other stuff you love and love yourself.

Define the necessary few qualities you want in your woman.

Above all. Love yourself and be happy with the stuff you do.

You'll radiate such love & surely she'll come into view.

the things I love to do are expensive and I dont have the resources yet.

Jst passing by

Loneliness?
If you don't feel fulfilled alone, then you're probably looking for someone to dump the baggage of your loneliness on.

pocohantas:
Loneliness?
If you don't feel fulfilled alone, then you're probably looking for someone to dump the baggage of your loneliness on.

So you enjoy being alone
But can you fulfill every thing you desire in life alone I.e having a baby, being loved and loving someone

Except you don't want these things

That is when you dont realky know what is doing you

Op the problem is in that statement you made "getting a girl for me is not hard"
It clearly shows you haven't been able to identify what you want in a girl to understand that it takes a lot of time to search your missing rib
Hence, you stated thst you have no reasons to go into a relationship

I think in essence what you need to do is to identify what makes you happy. E.g games you love, what you love to chat about and find a girl that want to do these things with you

If you do this my bro you will realize that getting a girl maybe easy but getting your type of girl is hard work

Stay blessed

@op..You are an introvert simple..
Get to know your self,love your self and the right people will come.

sunshineG:
Op the problem is in that statement you made "getting a girl for me is not hard"
It clearly shows you haven't been able to identify what you want in a girl to understand that it takes a lot of time to search your missing rib
Hence, you stated thst you have no reasons to go into a relationship

I think in essence what you need to do is to identify what makes you happy. E.g games you love, what you love to chat about and find a girl that want to do these things with you

If you do this my bro you will realize that getting a girl maybe easy but getting your type of girl is hard work

Stay blessed

I appreciate you bro, thanks. I guess I see sense I your advice

jacyhelen:
@op..You are an introvert simple..
Get to know your self,love your self and the right people will come.

Sometimes people who like me come along. But they end up liking me less later when there's a new person in their live.

jacyhelen:
@op..You are an introvert simple..
Get to know your self,love your self and the right people will come.

Sometimes people who like me come along. But they end up liking me less later when there's a new person in their life

XXXwhistleblowe:
Well, I'm back again looking for people who are going through the same things I'm going through. Maybe we can start a form of group to share how we can overcome the things we face.

I have been single for a while due to complicated issues like I date out of pity, I have problem with commitment and I just make silly mistakes. Sometimes it best so lonely even tho I get some regular flings, friends with benefits and all but there's no girl I can actually call my own or talk to when I'm alone. Sometimes I'm forced to reach out to my friends with benefit but they warn me about not getting emotionally attached.
Getting a girlfriend for me isn't that hard but the problem is I'm not in love with anybody and I don't want to hurt anyone anymore but the loneliness sometimes is overwhelming...

Hey, just to help there is a website for this, you know looking for serious people to have a relationship with. Have you checked LostRib.com?
Here's their link http://lostrib.com.ng/

sunshineG:

So you enjoy being alone
But can you fulfill every thing you desire in life alone I.e having a baby, being loved and loving someone

Except you don't want these things

Tell me what part of my post you got all what you wrote up there from. Or do you guys just love twisting things to suit yourselves?

The point is simple, don't go into relationships because you are 'lonely'. You must first be happy and fulfilled as an individual, to be able to share some happiness with a partner...not all the having babies talk. Like every one even wants that...

pocohantas:


Tell me what part of my post you got all what you wrote up there from. Or do you guys just love twisting things to suit yourselves?

The point is simple, don't go into relationships because you are 'lonely'. You must first be happy and fulfilled as an individual, to be able to share some happiness with a partner...not all the having babies talk. Like every one even wants that...

actions speak louder than words
In your case meme speaks louder than what you wrote, actually it qaulifies each other

I am sorry if you are not lonely though but if you are lonely .......

sunshineG:
actions speak louder than words
In your case meme speaks louder than what you wrote, actually it qualifies each other

I am sorry if you are not lonely though but if you are lonely .......

No, the sorry issue is the fact that you guys here can't do without personalising posts or arguments.

pocohantas:

No, the sorry issue is the fact that you guys here can't do without personalising posts or arguments.

no ma I am not personalizing anything oo
It is just that some people often leave a bit of clue about their personal lives in some post they make, especially when it comes to emotional stuff
You may be different, just like me

So i may be wrong ooo
I am not a mind reader after all

sunshineG:
no ma I am not personalizing anything oo
It is just that some people often leave a bit of clue about their personal lives in some post they make, especially when it comes to emotional stuff
You may be different, just like me

So i may be wrong ooo
I am not a mind reader after all

Whatever makes you sleep well at night...

XXXwhistleblowe:
the things I love to do are expensive and I dont have the resources yet.

I understand. Focus on those things within you that aren't expensive.

Your Hobbies are a good example.
Things you grew up loving before even you started having any feeling for females.