| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by BinaryRocks: 6:58pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Jahblessme:
 
Gosh!! where do i start from What kind of local story is this?
1. Your wife should have discussed with you first before her sister visited you both-she was very wrong but everything after that made you look so petty.You were counting water used to bathe and asking your cousin helper to report to you first? If she wants to eat eggs will that also be reported to you?Do you also measure yam with ruler in your house?
Your actions have sown a very bad seed - belittling your SIL & your wife.I do not blame your wife for being very angry but she should have cooled off first and expressed her annoyance to you without flaring up.
Just a quick question OP,if your sister visits and your wife tells your little cousin to report to her first before doing anything she asks for nko?How would that sit with you?Just know your wife will never forget,be ready for your siblings to recieve the same hot soup
Yes,you should have been told before her sis landed ,but the deed had already been done.You should have controlled yourself instead of acting like a miserable being.What did your SIL do wrong?she probably thought she was coming to visit human beings who would treat her well not knowing her husband is a hot water measurer
Best approach would have been to discuss the issue with your spouse quietly.See disgrace! 
Your wife raised her voice,you raised your own too,asked her to leave your room.'Yoour Room'??!!! i thought you both are married? I cant even believe what i'm reading here.
In the same sentence you talked about not wanting to be a woman beater.I do not see any reason why beating should come into this abi you normally beat or you were raised by a beater?Violence should not be an option.ah ahhh!!!
Both of you displayed shameful behavior and i don't blame your SIL for leaving,you disgraced her infront of your cousin helper,you disgraced your wife,your wife as disgraced you & you have made her feel unwelcome. Tueh
She will go and tell the story to family members who already don't like you and you will officially enter hate list with tattered reputation.
Please do the world a favour and delay this wedding till you both learn to behave like adults.
If you want to be the leader of your home you must learn to conduct yourself with dignity and self respect.You have to lead by example.
Discussions can be had without raising of voices.If your wife starts to shout,tell her you won't listen till she calms down and addresses you like an adult.I also expect her to do the same to you.That way you both will learn to trust each other and start building your little unit,she will also stop seeing the need to tell every little deed to her family as you will become her best friend and confidante.
Normally you should be in honeymoon phase but you people are already acting like cat and dog.
Good luck o.
By the way the way you worded little cousin and 2 big pots are you trying to imply that the girl is too little to do chores in general or specifically chores for SIL? If she is little,ideally she shouldn't be in your home doing housework.
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| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Jelal0007(m): 6:58pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
WiredLeggings:
go for counseling together and ensure she changes her domineering ways before you tie the knot. And she'll change her ways in just a week? Wawuuu 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by sshalom(m): 6:58pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Plankton2017:
Good day fellow NL,
Please judge this case. Last week thursday my sister inlaw visited me and my wife from NYSC camp. I was shocked when I welcomed her because it was no ordinary visit. she came with a full ghana must go. We greeted and I got to know that she escaped from camp due to the tough tasks on camp. My wife never told me her sister was coming to stay. We have lived amicably till yesterday.
My lil cuzin that stays and helps us with chores was mandated by her to cook 2 big pots of water for her to bath. I scolded my cousin and told her why didnt she use the electric kettle so as to save gas which we just replaced with 6k. I now gave her a warning that whatever my inlaw wants that she should ask me 1st. I even got to know that my wife lied to me that her parents knew she left camp. My wife heard our conversation and started antagonizing me that why did I tell my cuz to always ask me b4 she obeys her sister. she was shouting at the top of her voice even my inlaw could hear. This angered me and I shouted back and told her to leave my room. she continued shouting and even slept in the sitting room as I slept alone.
This afternoon while working on my computer for hours I came out of the room only to find out my sister in law has packed her things back to her NYSC camp without telling me but my wife knows....I am slatted to officially do my white wedding next saturday. I just feel down because we quarell too much and my wife talks in a domineering way. I have warned her about it and I do not want to turn a woman beater. Any quarell we have she tells her parents and siblings which make them never free with me and act cold towards me. Damn it! pls advice me You need to pray hard about the journey you are about to take. Meanwhile, you are not married yet but she is already leaving with you? Some things have to be done in the in the right way my brother - Marriage is key among them! 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Heavance(m): 6:59pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
I know if the op sleeps on this issue, he will realize how wrong he was with what he told his cousin. This is the beginning of the end sef.......
Though, it's not easy to make money for the family, but we need to learn to be more accommodating, mostly to families, that's why young people prefer to stay with friends these days.
The OP needs to call his In-Law, just apologize, tell her you had a very rough/bad week, and express how sorry you are to your wife to be.
If not, the retaliation by your wife will hunt your marriage for life, and your house will be a military zone (keep off) to both families. What is the essence of life without our family? who else will you call during celebrations? 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by funshint(m): 7:00pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
@OP you're too temperamental. u need to deal with that. u need a lot of patience to deal with women. The instruction u gave that your cousin is highly uncalled for. At worst u could hv warned her against using gas to boil that large amount of water. That moronic instruction u gave really undermines the authority of your wife in the house. I feel her reaction is normal. Sometimes it best to calm down as a man when a woman is mad...u'll be glad u did #Jega. And stop taking tins too personal or serious....whether your sister-in-law sneaks out of camp or not is none of your biz. The best is just welcome her, get doing with other tins and let peace reign. On d long run she'll be d one to bear the full consequences of her action. To hv a peaceful life with women, u must be able to overlook a lot of tins my brother, okay! Now lower your pride and beg that woman. Get her her favorite fruit *winks. Happy married life! 2 Likes |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Nobody: 7:00pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Jahblessme:
Gosh!! where do i start from What kind of local story is this?
1. Your wife should have discussed with you first before her sister visited you both-she was very wrong but everything after that made you look so petty.You were counting water used to bathe and asking your cousin helper to report to you first? If she wants to eat eggs will that also be reported to you?Do you also measure yam with ruler in your house?
Your actions have sown a very bad seed - belittling your SIL & your wife.I do not blame your wife for being very angry but she should have cooled off first and expressed her annoyance to you without flaring up.
Just a quick question OP,if your sister visits and your wife tells your little cousin to report to her first before doing anything she asks for nko?How would that sit with you?Just know your wife will never forget,be ready for your siblings to recieve the same hot soup
Yes,you should have been told before her sis landed ,but the deed had already been done.You should have controlled yourself instead of acting like a miserable being.What did your SIL do wrong?she probably thought she was coming to visit human beings who would treat her well not knowing her husband is a hot water measurer
Best approach would have been to discuss the issue with your spouse quietly.See disgrace!
Your wife raised her voice,you raised your own too,asked her to leave your room.'Yoour Room'??!!! i thought you both are married? I cant even believe what i'm reading here.
In the same sentence you talked about not wanting to be a woman beater.I do not see any reason why beating should come into this abi you normally beat or you were raised by a beater?Violence should not be an option.ah ahhh!!!
Both of you displayed shameful behavior and i don't blame your SIL for leaving,you disgraced her infront of your cousin helper,you disgraced your wife,your wife as disgraced you & you have made her feel unwelcome. Tueh
She will go and tell the story to family members who already don't like you and you will officially enter hate list with tattered reputation.
Please do the world a favour and delay this wedding till you both learn to behave like adults.
If you want to be the leader of your home you must learn to conduct yourself with dignity and self respect.You have to lead by example.
Discussions can be had without raising of voices.If your wife starts to shout,tell her you won't listen till she calms down and addresses you like an adult.I also expect her to do the same to you.That way you both will learn to trust each other and start building your little unit,she will also stop seeing the need to tell every little deed to her family as you will become her best friend and confidante.
Normally you should be in honeymoon phase but you people are already acting like cat and dog.
Good luck o.
By the way the way you worded little cousin and 2 big pots are you trying to imply that the girl is too little to do chores in general or specifically chores for SIL? If she is little,ideally she shouldn't be in your home doing housework.
Wonderful piece |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Jelal0007(m): 7:00pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Richy4:
You did what u feel was right @ that moment...
Your sister inlaw was a classy young woman too I must say, she left when she was supposed to..Maybe She never knew her coming will be a problem,maybe she felt her sister will sort u out...But she got it wrong.. Some ladies would have stayed even when they knew they were not welcomed..
If u have a younger bro, or Sis, just expect a cold welcome from your wife anytime they step into your house..it will never be forgotten...
U mistakenly broke an unwritten code that most women held with high esteem especially from the Eastern part of Nigeria....They always want to show that they are comfortable in their husband's house and their relatives are welcome to stay for sometime..I guess that was why she was mad @ u
Just say u were sorry bro.. with a peace offering like earring, or perfume etc.
Peace offering kor? Shoroniyen? |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by lollarj(f): 7:01pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Nma27:
Op is in marital soup.
Not if he calls off the wedding. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by softboi10: 7:01pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
I smell stagnant trouble.... Boss run for ur life... Its gona b a long walk... Plankton2017:
Good day fellow NL,
Please judge this case. Last week thursday my sister inlaw visited me and my wife from NYSC camp. I was shocked when I welcomed her because it was no ordinary visit. she came with a full ghana must go. We greeted and I got to know that she escaped from camp due to the tough tasks on camp. My wife never told me her sister was coming to stay. We have lived amicably till yesterday.
My lil cuzin that stays and helps us with chores was mandated by her to cook 2 big pots of water for her to bath. I scolded my cousin and told her why didnt she use the electric kettle so as to save gas which we just replaced with 6k. I now gave her a warning that whatever my inlaw wants that she should ask me 1st. I even got to know that my wife lied to me that her parents knew she left camp. My wife heard our conversation and started antagonizing me that why did I tell my cuz to always ask me b4 she obeys her sister. she was shouting at the top of her voice even my inlaw could hear. This angered me and I shouted back and told her to leave my room. she continued shouting and even slept in the sitting room as I slept alone.
This afternoon while working on my computer for hours I came out of the room only to find out my sister in law has packed her things back to her NYSC camp without telling me but my wife knows....I am slatted to officially do my white wedding next saturday. I just feel down because we quarell too much and my wife talks in a domineering way. I have warned her about it and I do not want to turn a woman beater. Any quarell we have she tells her parents and siblings which make them never free with me and act cold towards me. Damn it! pls advice me |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by fareed69(m): 7:02pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Let her go now
Even her sister be can follow her if she wishes
Guy na your home and you should rule over it no one dear venture when he or she is not expected.
Know you must ve spent a lot in your preparation but at the same time got to be the boss in your home.
She will surely come back as preparation would be in top gear.
Were the husband dey for town.
It's her home she go protect am.
All the best. |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by maisauki: 7:03pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
We've only heared one side of d story and as such its difficult to judge...btw one thing you need is that you should be WISELY PATIENT AND STAND YOUR POINT AS A MAN WISELY. Trust me, women prefer a man that stands his point than d one that acts childishly or womanly...there was one woman that was tellin another woman that her own husband is a mumu because he satisfies all she asks of him... |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by lastmessenger: 7:03pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
coolcatty:
My brother... This is niiggah has signed away his happiness..... He will surely get married to this woman and his life will never be the same again... Never.
I pity him to be honest. I concur cos he is gonna suffer if something is not done now to correct the anomaly. |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by 9jatatafo(m): 7:05pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Call your wife and discuss everything in a more diplomatic way 3 Likes |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Bussme: 7:06pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
This is the beginning of 2nd war in your house. Watch it 2 Likes |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by bezimo(m): 7:07pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
coolcatty:
U need to stamp your feet down.... Personally I will advise you to halt the wedding plans for now... The woman in question is domineering... Insulting, I can bet she is ungrateful too and doesn't respect you... Trust me you will eventually be forced to beat her and the society will brand you a woman beater...
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The signs are all there... There is no respect for you from your woman and her family.... People have been in this kind of situation and are regretting it.
Pls halt the wedding for now. Wise advice, I can't agree any less. 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by femi4: 7:08pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
yomi007k:
Ur in trouble o.
The bond between she n her family is stronger dan d one between the 2 of u. seconded |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Lescalier: 7:08pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Plankton2017:
Good day fellow NL,
Please judge this case. Last week thursday my sister inlaw visited me and my wife from NYSC camp. I was shocked when I welcomed her because it was no ordinary visit. she came with a full ghana must go. We greeted and I got to know that she escaped from camp due to the tough tasks on camp. My wife never told me her sister was coming to stay. We have lived amicably till yesterday.
My lil cuzin that stays and helps us with chores was mandated by her to cook 2 big pots of water for her to bath. I scolded my cousin and told her why didnt she use the electric kettle so as to save gas which we just replaced with 6k. I now gave her a warning that whatever my inlaw wants that she should ask me 1st. I even got to know that my wife lied to me that her parents knew she left camp. My wife heard our conversation and started antagonizing me that why did I tell my cuz to always ask me b4 she obeys her sister. she was shouting at the top of her voice even my inlaw could hear. This angered me and I shouted back and told her to leave my room. she continued shouting and even slept in the sitting room as I slept alone.
This afternoon while working on my computer for hours I came out of the room only to find out my sister in law has packed her things back to her NYSC camp without telling me but my wife knows....I am slatted to officially do my white wedding next saturday. I just feel down because we quarell too much and my wife talks in a domineering way. I have warned her about it and I do not want to turn a woman beater. Any quarell we have she tells her parents and siblings which make them never free with me and act cold towards me. Damn it! pls advice me This guy, u r very lucky!!!! I say u r lucky because u still have a chance to live peacefully on earth. A bad marriage is like living in hell on earth. Assuming I wake up from dream now, and it's the day of my wedding, people are in church sitting down, reception venue set, i'll happily dress up casually, go to the church and beg everyone not to be disappointed. You still have a week to think if u can cope. As for what you told ur cousin, I'm guessing you should ve said it either to your wife or to your cousin infront of your wife. But that doesn't give her the audacity to speak to you in that manner. Women these days have lost it. They are morally bankrupt. 3 Likes |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Obason22(m): 7:09pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
first of all u have to tank God for opening way for u to know her morethan b4, if ur woman have no respect for u it means u may likely forced to do what u don't like or uses to , so therefore the wost of it will come if u continue with that woman 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Nobody: 7:09pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Plankton2017:
Good day fellow NL,
Please judge this case. Last week thursday my sister inlaw visited me and my wife from NYSC camp. I was shocked when I welcomed her because it was no ordinary visit. she came with a full ghana must go. We greeted and I got to know that she escaped from camp due to the tough tasks on camp. My wife never told me her sister was coming to stay. We have lived amicably till yesterday.
My lil cuzin that stays and helps us with chores was mandated by her to cook 2 big pots of water for her to bath. I scolded my cousin and told her why didnt she use the electric kettle so as to save gas which we just replaced with 6k. I now gave her a warning that whatever my inlaw wants that she should ask me 1st. I even got to know that my wife lied to me that her parents knew she left camp. My wife heard our conversation and started antagonizing me that why did I tell my cuz to always ask me b4 she obeys her sister. she was shouting at the top of her voice even my inlaw could hear. This angered me and I shouted back and told her to leave my room. she continued shouting and even slept in the sitting room as I slept alone.
This afternoon while working on my computer for hours I came out of the room only to find out my sister in law has packed her things back to her NYSC camp without telling me but my wife knows....I am slatted to officially do my white wedding next saturday. I just feel down because we quarell too much and my wife talks in a domineering way. I have warned her about it and I do not want to turn a woman beater. Any quarell we have she tells her parents and siblings which make them never free with me and act cold towards me. Damn it! pls advice me You need to stamp your authority as the man of the house. Your wife is aggressive, bossy and wants to control everyone in that house. Hold on to the wedding. If she cannot respect you totally, just call it off and look for someone else. How could her sister come to your house without your so-called wife telling you first? How could the sister be hostile to your cousin? I really don't know what is wrong with some African women. 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Nobody: 7:09pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
jashar:
you're not yet married.
you're living together.
your 'future sister-in-law' even had the effrontery to pack load and come stay with you guys.
her parents know you're not yet married and they let another child of theirs come and live with you.
there's a young child also living with you and getting certain impressions.
Na wa ooo... Madam, this is not the issue you were asked to address...what's wrong with you  |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Jelal0007(m): 7:11pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Jahblessme:
Am i supposed to take the sabi sabi as insult?
Why should he undermine his wife in such a manner?His wife yelled,yes but where did she 'command' him?
I believe that when people get obsessed with control issues they are usually insecure.
If you are confident in yourself ,make logical decisions and act mature,you will earn and command respect without uttering a sound.
Oga,there's something called 'boundaries' here and it must be respected. U can't just pay someone an unannounced visit without informing the owner of the house (in this case the wife didn't notify her hubby). That's sheer disrespect on her side. Na him put the gas 4 cylinder and na him house oga and he reserves the right 2 run his home however he sees fit. Maybe ur idea of maturity is different 4rm his,but people see things differently. 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Iseoluwani: 7:11pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Plankton2017:
Good day fellow NL,
Please judge this case. Last week thursday my sister inlaw visited me and my wife from NYSC camp. I was shocked when I welcomed her because it was no ordinary visit. she came with a full ghana must go. We greeted and I got to know that she escaped from camp due to the tough tasks on camp. My wife never told me her sister was coming to stay. We have lived amicably till yesterday.
My lil cuzin that stays and helps us with chores was mandated by her to cook 2 big pots of water for her to bath. I scolded my cousin and told her why didnt she use the electric kettle so as to save gas which we just replaced with 6k. I now gave her a warning that whatever my inlaw wants that she should ask me 1st. I even got to know that my wife lied to me that her parents knew she left camp. My wife heard our conversation and started antagonizing me that why did I tell my cuz to always ask me b4 she obeys her sister. she was shouting at the top of her voice even my inlaw could hear. This angered me and I shouted back and told her to leave my room. she continued shouting and even slept in the sitting room as I slept alone.
This afternoon while working on my computer for hours I came out of the room only to find out my sister in law has packed her things back to her NYSC camp without telling me but my wife knows....I am slatted to officially do my white wedding next saturday. I just feel down because we quarell too much and my wife talks in a domineering way. I have warned her about it and I do not want to turn a woman beater. Any quarell we have she tells her parents and siblings which make them never free with me and act cold towards me. Damn it! pls advice me Cancel the wedding |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Jman06(m): 7:11pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
ststyreal:
If I were to be your wife, marriage don end be that. You are too womanish, habaaaa kilode! Person no fit come your house in peace. @Op you are too stingy and a nagger at the same time, complaining of gas because of common water, na waoooooo. Hope if it were the other way round you will respond this way And not start telling us how the man's siblings should let them be You ladies are selfish lots. I am sure if it were the man's sib that showed up in that manner and started boiling water with gas when there's power and electric kettle,the lady would have made a whole lot of mountain out of it. |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by aamstih: 7:12pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
@Plankton201
Egbon, why do you want to do this to yourself na... Can you really cope, it's till death do us part o o...
Have you guys done your traditional marriage already?
If yes, carry your cross, the lord is your strength! 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by ACE1010: 7:12pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Ahhhhh! O boy you have entered one Chance ooo. The signs are very obvious!! I will only advised you to be the man and stand your ground!! May baba God help!! |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by ExperTrait(m): 7:13pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Op hv pepper body. 6k gas go just finish on one water abi? |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by sixtuso(m): 7:13pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Richy4:
You did what u feel was right @ that moment...
Your sister inlaw was a classy young woman too I must say, she left when she was supposed to..Maybe She never knew her coming will be a problem,maybe she felt her sister will sort u out...But she got it wrong.. Some ladies would have stayed even when they knew they were not welcomed..
If u have a younger bro, or Sis, just expect a cold welcome from your wife anytime they step into your house..it will never be forgotten...
U mistakenly broke an unwritten code that most women held with high esteem especially from the Eastern part of Nigeria....They always want to show that they are comfortable in their husband's house and their relatives are welcome to stay for sometime..I guess that was why she was mad @ u
Just say u were sorry bro.. with a peace offering like earring, or perfume etc.
lovely write up there |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Sagay212: 7:13pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Just to boil ordinary water. Oga you need to take things easy. I am sure you are regretting your actions now. I don't think your sister in law will ever visit that your house again for any reason and be rest assured that the family will hear about it. Your wife did wrong by not telling you but then how can you expect your sis in law to tell you before taking anything?
If that your cousin na matured guy, I sure say e go dey swear for you as you don spoil show for am. Who know whether him luck fit shine to get free kpekus. |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by jameshow: 7:16pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
If she comes to your house, and she used a storex of water how does that disturb you? Is there no light to pump it again? Why are you getting yourself involved in every domestic matter? You paid 6k for gas and so what? You are stingy. Don't you know eni to bama se igbe iyawo ase gudugudu meje ni? Meaning the person that will marry should get ready for the responsibilities that followed, in-laws are to be respected, am also a man. She left camp and so what? Why are you bringing out issue where there is none? Bro you are not psychologically fit to be in a marriage. Pls don't go into one because you can't marry your wife alone, you marry the whole family likewise the wife. No wife will be happy when the husband not comfortable with her families presence. Is disgusting. Pls call the lady and apologize 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Nobody: 7:16pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Richy4:
You did what u feel was right @ that moment...
Your sister inlaw was a classy young woman too I must say, she left when she was supposed to..Maybe She never knew her coming will be a problem,maybe she felt her sister will sort u out...But she got it wrong.. Some ladies would have stayed even when they knew they were not welcomed..
If u have a younger bro, or Sis, just expect a cold welcome from your wife anytime they step into your house..it will never be forgotten...
U mistakenly broke an unwritten code that most women held with high esteem especially from the Eastern part of Nigeria....They always want to show that they are comfortable in their husband's house and their relatives are welcome to stay for sometime..I guess that was why she was mad @ u
Just say u were sorry bro.. with a peace offering like earring, or perfume etc.
This piece of yours is nonsense. If the man doesn't stamp his authority now, then it'll be difficult later. Let the wife leave too if she's un-comfortable. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by BeSafeOnline: 7:18pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Plankton2017:
Good day fellow NL,
Please judge this case. Last week thursday my sister inlaw visited me and my wife from NYSC camp. I was shocked when I welcomed her because it was no ordinary visit. she came with a full ghana must go. We greeted and I got to know that she escaped from camp due to the tough tasks on camp. My wife never told me her sister was coming to stay. We have lived amicably till yesterday.
My lil cuzin that stays and helps us with chores was mandated by her to cook 2 big pots of water for her to bath. I scolded my cousin and told her why didnt she use the electric kettle so as to save gas which we just replaced with 6k. I now gave her a warning that whatever my inlaw wants that she should ask me 1st. I even got to know that my wife lied to me that her parents knew she left camp. My wife heard our conversation and started antagonizing me that why did I tell my cuz to always ask me b4 she obeys her sister. she was shouting at the top of her voice even my inlaw could hear. This angered me and I shouted back and told her to leave my room. she continued shouting and even slept in the sitting room as I slept alone.
This afternoon while working on my computer for hours I came out of the room only to find out my sister in law has packed her things back to her NYSC camp without telling me but my wife knows....I am slatted to officially do my white wedding next saturday. I just feel down because we quarell too much and my wife talks in a domineering way. I have warned her about it and I do not want to turn a woman beater. Any quarell we have she tells her parents and siblings which make them never free with me and act cold towards me. Damn it! pls advice me Bro, I just got outta a 3 years relationship with a lady which i love so much cos she is a DOMINEERING LADY. DOMINEERING LADIES are Narcissists... Every Man who wants to excel and succeed should stay away from ladies of such. I can easily tell you that your online business is not going the way you want it to because your lady doesn't support most things you tell her ( simply because she's narcissistic in nature) Though she loves you, and you love her very much, but the end result of these kind of relationships are ALWAYS MESSY. Except, you can CORRECT her nature before your wedding, ( which i doubt) then you can go on with the wedding. I may have a solution for you if you are willing to hear and try it. |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by bezimo(m): 7:18pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
It's wrong for your to be wife sister to just show up without you been preinformed. It shows you are not respected at all and with her domineering attitude.. I would say your marriage to her might be a disaster waiting to happen.
When a person marries a foolish woman, he has signed up for trouble unlimited. 2 Likes |
