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Re: Did You Marry The Wrong Person? by fifi09(f): 6:01pm On Feb 22, 2010 |
aseju:Amen to that! |
Re: Did You Marry The Wrong Person? by Nobody: 12:43pm On Feb 23, 2010 |
fifi09: inasmuch as i agree with most points u raised,especially on loving the person u married,i still tend to disgree with u on loving ur 'bad' spouse.it takes two to solve watever problems one has within marriage.The two must be ready to love each other and also be devoted to solving watever issues they have.so wat happens wen as a man,ur spouse is always giving u problems, is indifferent and from all indications,the love seems to have gone? i dont advise accepting that,making ur life more miserable.Any marriage that does not involve one sacrifice or d other from both parties is bound to hit d rocks. |
Re: Did You Marry The Wrong Person? by fifi09(f): 8:19pm On Feb 23, 2010 |
newtontoyo:Like I said before… Loving the bad things meaning accepting your partner's flaws and view them as "facts of life". Trying to change your partner is difficult and is one of the biggest relationship myths around. If you're trying to change someone, you are indirectly telling them that you don't love them the way they are. To me, aceptance is LOVE. If you want this person to change who they are, then why are you with them in the first place? No one is perfect, learn to appreciate the differences between the TWO of you. They'll change for You when they're ready. To answer your question: Learn to fall in love again with your partner, and get counseling. If that doesn't work get a divorce. |
Re: Did You Marry The Wrong Person? by Nobody: 1:02pm On Feb 25, 2010 |
fifi09: U just hit d nail on d head in ur last statement.(IN BOLD FONTS).There is a level of 'BAD' things one can accept especially if one does not want to be miserable for the rest of one's life. I am not having any problems watsover.im just expressing my own opinion on the issue |
Re: Did You Marry The Wrong Person? by Nobody: 1:16pm On Feb 25, 2010 |
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Re: Did You Marry The Wrong Person? by Damysa(f): 4:50pm On Mar 03, 2010 |
I regret marrying my spouse most of the time. Infact I am at a crossroad. I have lost my mind completely and I wanna take a walk k. |
Re: Did You Marry The Wrong Person? by ibubee(f): 12:44pm On Mar 04, 2010 |
I agree with spiderman's comment. The truth is, it certainly crosses every one's mind xpecially when there is any misunderstanding cos we are humans. It can never be 100% perfect since we have our differences and that is why we have to complement each other and not compete with each other. The fact that such thought crosses our minds on ocassions does not mean our spouses are wrong partners, our minds are battle grounds for wrong and right thoughts. it now depends on how we handle such thoughts. Remeber, u can not stop a bird from flying over u, but u can stop it from building a next on ur head! It is best to discard any thought that is not profitable to the health of ur relationship than ruminating over it. Some are actually the wrong partners and not their spouses. But which ever, wrong partner or wrong individual, U can still make the relationship work. Some1 has got to change his attitude. U can take the lead to love unconditionally, and see the miracle it will perform on ur partner. When u know there is a problem, then the issue is half solved. I challenge those that think they are married to the wrong person to try this out, and pls feed us with the testimonies. For me, I married the right person, no matter the challenges cos they are meant to strengthen the bonds of our love if well handled! 1 Like |
Re: Did You Marry The Wrong Person? by ibubee(f): 1:15pm On Mar 04, 2010 |
I will suggest u read the book 'Hope for the seperated' by Gary Chapam, It will help a lot.
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Re: Did You Marry The Wrong Person? by christilog: 5:01pm On Mar 04, 2010 |
Maybe they think it would be easier/better with someone else, once thay reach a few years of marriage and realize it's not all fun and butterflies, The truth is, it would be more or less the same with anybody. Some of the things that are difficult in a marriage are due to marriage itself (it is not easy to share everything with one person, and all the responsibilities of marriage) or to the person herself , and not the partner (for instance, if it is a challenge for me to expose my feelings and talk to my husband about what bothers me I cannot blame it on him to "not understand me" but on myself, things would be the same with another man ). Of course, there are some situations when a person really does marry the wrong man/woman (I'm thinking of the girls who would still marry their boyfriend after he beat them, or someone with alcohol problems etc.). But all in all, I believe marriage reveals more about ourselves than anything else, and changing partner will not change us, at some point, we have to look at ourselves and accept to change if we want to make the marriage work, not change the partner.[/color][color=#990000][/color][color=#990000] @MISS iFE, You are rite d thing about marriage is an inward search of urself and an attitude of change from both inorder to build a peaceful home. ,as for me am blessed with my wify. |
Re: Did You Marry The Wrong Person? by Akebulan: 7:16am On Mar 05, 2010 |
I am terrified of marrying the wrong person. So, I just might end up sticking with a long-term-relationship-for-life instead. Sometimes I feel priviledged being single, because at least I am certain that I still havent made that one crazy mistake yet. But of course, the idea of being with a person you love for ever, is appealing too. |
Re: Did You Marry The Wrong Person? by Thelmabee: 2:38pm On Apr 07, 2010 |
@I do not even want to dwell on the thought, |
Re: Did You Marry The Wrong Person? by na2day2(m): 4:32pm On Apr 20, 2010 |
Thelmabee: that is a flat out dumb statement! Damysa: and why's that? what made u pick him out of the lot and what is pushing u away from him now? |
Re: Did You Marry The Wrong Person? by cexplorer(m): 9:15am On Apr 23, 2010 |
Philosophically speaking one may not marry the wrong person but could marry for a wrong reason. However practical experiences from married people show that one can marry the wrong person. For instance, a lady with a blood group of AS who marries a loving and caring guy with a blood group of AS might end up raising children with SS as their blood group. This could result in either or both of them being unhappy maritally despite the fact that they truly love themselves. On the other hand, stories by pastors and marriage counsellors indicate that satan could make you marry the wrong person, a male or female child of the devil, sent from hell, to tamper with your destiny on earth! The primary mission and purpose of this person that you see as an angel in your life is to stop you from attaining the height God set for you and prevent you from reaching your goals. If you ask me, I'll tell you that this is true and real! I share the wealth of experience of the owner of www.marriagestrata.com where I draw inspiration from, to help in my marriage. So, I take side with the fact that you could marry the wrong person! |
Re: Did You Marry The Wrong Person? by mamagee3(f): 6:44pm On May 25, 2010 |
Damysa:Sorry dear but it's for better for worse. |
Re: Did You Marry The Wrong Person? by fifi09(f): 7:28pm On May 25, 2010 |
newtontoyo: Good, I'm glad we're on the same page now. |
Re: Did You Marry The Wrong Person? by dare2think: 12:29pm On Mar 27, 2012 |
Miss_Ife: Maybe they think it would be easier/better with someone else, once thay reach a few years of marriage and realize it's not all fun and butterflies, The truth is, it would be more or less the same with anybody. Some of the things that are difficult in a marriage are due to marriage itself (it is not easy to share everything with one person, and all the responsibilities of marriage) or to the person herself , and not the partner (for instance, if it is a challenge for me to expose my feelings and talk to my husband about what bothers me I cannot blame it on him to "not understand me" but on myself, things would be the same with another man ). Very insightful. Personally, I think the bold is one of the most challenging in relationships! |
Re: Did You Marry The Wrong Person? by MLS12(f): 4:48pm On Mar 27, 2012 |
Wen tins dont really go as planned,or ur spouse is not living upto to expectations.in ur quiet time,one could wish.I myself have wished I married my ex boyfriend because he was more of a fun 2me and looks good,dat thot crossed my mind wen my hubby was becoming too busy.everytin was just work and nutin more,buh after some few hours I was still glad I married my hubby,a very good friend of mine. |
Re: Did You Marry The Wrong Person? by dare2think: 5:18pm On Mar 27, 2012 |
MLS12: Wen tins dont really go as planned,or ur spouse is not living upto to expectations.in ur quiet time,one could wish.I myself have wished I married my ex boyfriend because he was more of a fun 2me and looks good,dat thot crossed my mind wen my hubby was becoming too busy.everytin was just work and nutin more,buh after some few hours I was still glad I married my hubby,a very good friend of mine. Very Honest! But chances are, had you married your 'Fun' Ex, you probably would still feel in a similar way when he too gets busy. Human nature I guess, but its always good to take a step back and realise why a person is an ex. 1 Like |
Re: Did You Marry The Wrong Person? by Nobody: 12:34pm On Apr 13, 2012 |
I think I did.......... |
Re: Did You Marry The Wrong Person? by Bisjosh(f): 9:15pm On Apr 14, 2012 |
WHAT A THREAD |
Re: Did You Marry The Wrong Person? by punta(f): 10:18pm On Apr 14, 2012 |
Did I marry the wrong person Yes!!! He was not a bad man but we were just not meant to be. I didn't seek the face of God and I was simply excited about being married since all my friends were joining the club at the time. Besides I was only 24 and in retrospect, I have no idea how we ended up married because we have different orientations and ideals. He would certainly make a good husband for some girl out there. I hope we become friends again one day. He is still bitter with me for throwing in the towel......don't blame me, I tried hard enough. |
Re: Did You Marry The Wrong Person? by Nobody: 8:09am On Apr 15, 2012 |
[quote author=punta]Did I marry the wrong person Yes!! He would certainly make a good husband for some girl out there. exactly my thots! |
Re: Did You Marry The Wrong Person? by maryini(f): 12:48pm On Apr 15, 2012 |
punta: Did I marry the wrong person Yes!!! He was not a bad man but we were just not meant to be. I didn't seek the face of God and I was simply excited about being married since all my friends were joining the club at the time. Besides I was only 24 and in retrospect, I have no idea how we ended up married because we have different orientations and ideals. He would certainly make a good husband for some girl out there. I hope we become friends again one day. He is still bitter with me for throwing in the towel......don't blame me, I tried hard enough. How do you find out a guy's orientations and ideals? It is so easy to make ur mistake. I empathise with you. |
Re: Did You Marry The Wrong Person? by alexola20(m): 9:10pm On Sep 01, 2012 |
Re: Did You Marry The Wrong Person? by rubi(f): 10:26pm On Aug 27, 2013 |
Interesting topic |
Re: Did You Marry The Wrong Person? by mgbeketoto: 10:43pm On Aug 27, 2013 |
YEEEEEEEEEESSSSSSSOOOOOOH!!!! He is a NIGERIAN MAN! How good can it get? Good father, LOUSSSSSSY HUSBAND like they were born to be!!!! But I am determined to manage him JUST LIKE THAT! I can't blame genetics! Bush FAWU must be bush FAWU even "IN ABROAD"! I can't marry a NORTHERNER, EASTERNER OR WESTERNER. . . . Not to mention to an AKATASTROPHY OR WHITE MAN!!!! I can make myself happy BY MYSELF!!!! |
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