Hi guys i need advice to pass on to a friend , this lady is about 2 and half months pregnant with their third child, and during pregnancy she is usually

really sick, and since they live in the uk there is no family member that can come to help at this difficult time so she ask her partner to help with some

house work, but any time she does this the man gets angry saying the woman is disrespecting him by sending him on errand, he even find it difficult to make her a cup of tea.

Although he does do some work when he feels like it, but gets really angry when the woman actually ask him for the help herself.

I tell u there's something wrong with the relationship if she needs to ask before the husband realizes to help, o men of little understanding!

prixxy:

Hi guys i need advice to pass on to a friend , this lady is about 2 and half months pregnant with their third child, and during pregnancy she is usually
really sick, and since they live in the uk there is no family member that can come to help at this difficult time so she ask her partner to help with some
house work, but any time she does this the man gets angry saying the woman is disrespecting him by sending him on errand, he even find it difficult to make her a cup of tea.
Although he does do some work when he feels like it, but gets really angry when the woman actually ask him for the help herself.

since you said dis is for a friend, my only advice would be to leave the matter to the couple, if this is their 3rd child then they must have been married for a while now, we are not privy to what happens in their marriage so short of making uninformed judgements one should leave the pair to talk things over, the man cannot be that inhumane to the point that he finds helping out a woman with 2.2 children insulting there is obviously two sides to every story so let's not pre-judge

^^^^^ abi o

it depend on how the lady talked to her. (are u stupid cant u do the dishes) me am not responding to that. ladies should talk sensible.

Tee_Jay:

since you said dis is for a friend, my only advice would be to leave the matter to the couple, if this is their 3rd child then they must have been married for a while now, we are not privy to what happens in their marriage so short of making uninformed judgements one should leave the pair to talk things over, the man cannot be that inhumane to the point that he finds helping out a woman with 2.2 children insulting there is obviously two sides to every story so let's not pre-judge

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To be honest am friends with the both of them and the man has told me that he feels the woman is trying to walk all over him him when she tells him

to do things like wash the plate or change the babies nappy,  he believes this is a woman work.

But like i said earlier he can do some things by himself when he feels like it, but  he hates it when she asks him to do them

hmmmmmmmmm

if I am correct he is suppose to be doing this without the woman asking him he fuc, king pregnanted her for hell sake

ayettymama:

o men of little understanding!

Everything I wanted to say is summed up in the 5 words above.

Geez!! Does she have to be sick b4 the man offers to assist her?
Well, not everyone can put up with such rubbish. E.g Me.

^^ inno

but i blame the woman cos she married him!!

she can not say he wasnt behaving like that from the on!

you can always tell the ones with this mentality!

maybe she asked him in a controlling way or something

^^ she shouldnt need to ask!

if shes sick and the dishes need washing

if shes busy and the baby did a poop

if shes tired and the baby is hungry

i dont see why she has to spell everything out

prixxy:

But like i said earlier he can do some things by himself when he feels like it, but  he hates it when she asks him to do them.

I think some ppl did nt see this aspect of the story.

^^^^^^well you are 100% right
she don't need to ask but then again some pples mentallity to things like dat are diff.
he prolly sees it has been bossy and controlling

supported, but hey ladies stop the hating

Let them be. It's none of your business.

But if you are talking on general terms, then it's no big deal. . .The man I assume can wash the dishes without even the wife asking him to do that.

Truth is, no one likes to be bossed around. Man or woman.

By the way just because the woman is 2 months pregnant the whole world should come to a standstill? The same guy goes out to hussle to feed the home has to come back and start cleaning up as well, I know women who are pregnant and still work till near their delivery date, with husbands working abroad yet they take care of the kids and the house without bleating!!! Like I said there are 2 sides to every story and nothing should be taken at face value when it comes to matrimony matters

^^ not everyone handles pregnancy the same way

some women are not as strong and able as others while pregnant

your not a woman so you cant speak for them

the husband obviously has a mentality like yours

ayettymama:

^^ not everyone handles pregnancy the same way

some women are not as strong and able as others while pregnant

your not a woman so you cant speak for them

the husband obviously has a mentality like yours

of course i cant speak for all women the same way not everything is black and white in matters as this, thats why i refrain from making any judgements until one hears the man's side of the story

well

theres nothing to do abt it sha

so the woman mite as well stop complaining and live with it

but this should serve as a lesson

to women who jump at the forst proposal

it is very important to KNOW a guy

before marrying him

little little things can still make your life hell!

ayettymama:

well

theres nothing to do abt it sha

so the woman mite as well stop complaining and live with it

but this should serve as a lesson
to women who jump at the forst proposal
it is very important to KNOW a guy
before marrying him
little little things can still make your life hell!

ok

She needs to get off her lazy bum and get on with it. . . Na she be the 1st pregnant woman wey get morning illness??

By the way just because the woman is 2 months pregnant the whole world should come to a standstill? The same guy goes out to hussle to feed the home has to come back and start cleaning up as well, I know women who are pregnant and still work till near their delivery date, with husbands working abroad yet they take care of the kids and the house without bleating!!! Like I said there are 2 sides to every story and nothing should be taken at face value when it comes to matrimony matter

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I am really surprised a human can say such a thing i am a mother and i get sick when pregnant and i know how it feels like when pregnant especially when you got two other toddlers to care for,

i have three two kids and was very sick during pregnancy, with my first child i had to stop working because i could not cope and with my second i stop working when i was 7months and i tell you those months where not easy at all i just had to work because we needed extra money

and dont forget that this lady has no extended family to pop in some times to help

please give a constructive advice to some one who wants to make her home better

whitelexi:

She needs to get off her lazy bum and get on with it. . . Na she be the 1st pregnant woman wey get morning illness??

i wonder o, soon she go start to complain sey the guy no wipe her a-s-s after shitting

whitelexi:

She needs to get off her lazy bum and get on with it. . . Na she be the 1st pregnant woman wey get morning illness??

I am very disappointed with this your comment. I always thought you were one of the most intelligent guys on here.

prixxy:

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I am really surprised a human can say such a thing i am a mother and i get sick when pregnant and i know how it feels like when pregnant especially when you got two other toddlers to care for,
i have three two kids and was very sick during pregnancy, with my first child i had to stop working because i could not cope and with my second i stop working when i was 7months and i tell you those months where not easy at all i just had to work because we needed extra money
and dont forget that this lady has no extended family to pop in some times to help
please give a constructive advice to some one who wants to make her home better  

While this is something i havent experienced personally and need i say i dont want to sound insensitive, i still maintain that the solution lies in the home and not any advice she can garner on NL, we dont know the family well enuf to make a balanced judgement, remember pregnancy affect men as well

Tee_Jay:

remember pregnancy affect men as well

i would really like to know the science of this

Tee_Jay:

i wonder o, soon she go start to complain sey the guy no wipe her a-s-s after shitting

Ehen na, what about single parents who even have to take care of kids and work when they're 7 - 8 months pregnant?

If worse comes to worst, she should hire a nanny. . .  or take the kids to a day care centre or something like that. . .  This is her third kid, i want to believe she at least spaced them 2yrs apart, shouldn't the 1st 2 be in sch??

Once they come over to jand, they start forming one rubbish lifestyle that we have not seen before.

Ask her to get off her lazy bum and get on with it, and she should stop disrespecting her husband, and she should stop involving third parties like u in her family affair. . .  Shiooorrr

well

theres nothing to do abt it sha

so the woman mite as well stop complaining and live with it

but this should serve as a lesson

to women who jump at the forst proposal

it is very important to KNOW a guy

before marrying him

little little things can still make your life hell!

i guess you are right

Nobody is perfect and so let her accept dat as her own cross.

Why will he wait for her to say it?