2007 I had gut instinct husband distracted, away at conferences, had to work nights at weekend, couldn't get on mobile switched off etc - in all the years together never did this before. Then in September last year he forgot his mobile at home (normally a closely guarded item). I the wife had my number under "other" and in the A-Z was "Pen" and all the texts about "it was a wondeful day when we met, are you sure are ready for all this, with love", "managed to sleep ok but will be fine" etc and so on.   When confronted excuse was "just a flirtation, meant nothing, everyone does this".  OK anyway five months on last weekend he decided to answer any question I had about her.  At last the truth (I thought), Iask him about her every few weeks when I think about it and get upset. Lasw time I asked he said she had a boyfriend.

We sat down and he didn't explain anything other than she was a Taiwanese waitress, who chatted to him and colleagues trying to improve her English, he got involved helping her with getting a laptop, installing Ipod, checking her essays, didn't explain the text that said "I came to your house to look for you because I care so much",  anyway he made it all sound possible that innocent, and looked relieved when I said ok and end to this now and we move on.  He spoilt it by being smug and adding "and she's a lesbian".  Men unbelievable that he can insult my intelligence.  I will forgive but I don't think I can forget - why can't he just own up!  Perhaps he is afraid of losing me?  Interested for some serious views on this please, he has behaved as if he is guilty because he has been over the top nice and kind to me since I saw all these texts and went to a lawyer.


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Why didn't you give him a real beating of his life
Anyway, there's absolutely nothing nairaland can do for you.

I guess I did give him a beating by constantly asking him about this, if it was innocent, why wait five months before explaining to me. I have been through hell with worry, and lost weight, crying and feeling so betrayed. I am so stupid I know but he has let me down, I thought he was my soulmate.

Understand how u feel. Truth is i've been through everything. The lies, pathetic excuse e.t.c. The major problem wit women is we trust,love and sacrifice too much. My advice to u is this- shake urself from d dustSget ur act 2gether and go conquer d world!

That guy is a comedian .
These are indeed pathetic excuses