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Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Nobody: 4:55pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Evaberry: Hmmm I sense You normally smoke Hun |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by sarahade(f): 5:06pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
SuperSuave: How old are you? Please always think before typing it's a public forum. |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Ajegun: 5:13pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
I think you can go for your master's degree programme,if you guys are really in love,get your masters degree and come back to pick her alongside with you.If you do very well during your masters programme,you can always opt for working or get fellowship for doctoral degree.After,you masters degree you should be able to stand on your own and face life squarely.I dont expect you to pursue a doctoral degree based on the recommendation of anyone,it should be what you want out of life not want someone/persons want you to do.As it comes with very challenging and demanding responsibilities. |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Nobody: 5:31pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
jonced:Great advice! All things work together for good to them that love God... |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by ApBlaze10: 5:46pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Hmmm! I really appreaciate all your ideas and contributions to this issue. Its not easy. I have not been in love before though....i dont know how it feels but i know some day i will be - when God lets me see her. WHat i have to say here is that IT IS IMPORTANT FOR YOU AND I TO HAVE A CLOSE WORK AND WALK WITH GOD....THE KIND OF CLOSER WALK GOD WANTED FROM ABRAHAM WHEN HE WAS 90 YEARS OLD AND 9. The bible says [b]"I will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shall go...and i will guide thee with mine eye" (psalm 32:. You see its very important that God should be the center of your living. He has the master plan for everyone. God gave Adam Eve and I believe He Has an Eve for you and me, too and for everyone. My advise? get into a closer walk with God and He will guide you. God Bless You. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Nobody: 5:53pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
@OP just find a grenade pull the string on it and stand in the middle of the Enugu Onitsha highway. just incase the grenade didn't blow you into ashes Dangote lorries will crush you to death. Good luck! |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by bellezza: 6:08pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Hello, I usually hardly drop comments, but because I did my masters in Canada, i think I can drop my little piece of advice. First, you should be thankful you have someone you are sure of. While doing your masters you can actually bring her over as your spouse and she will get a working permit while you study and work at the same time. Or if you don't want to do that, you can finish apply for a permanent residence and bring her over. PhD - is not advisable here, because you will end up teaching except it's what you want, employers here are more concerned with what you can do than lofty degrees. I say these things because there are many guys who seriously search for ladies here, except you want to settle for a white lady, or other African nationalities, or a nigerian who hardly know. Most men and ladies still go back home to marry people they knew. Well it's up to you. And all the best and congrats 5 Likes |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by kachiz(m): 6:16pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
pweetiedee: Well said |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Akaewu: 6:46pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
OrdercityWeb: 1 Like |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by efjay: 7:16pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Never leave certainty for uncertainty. I hope u understand this |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Sleyanya1(m): 7:42pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
9japrof: Thanks bro. True talk. |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by SuperSuave(m): 7:46pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
joe4christ:hahahahah I'm highly flattered sir |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by SuperSuave(m): 7:53pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
sarahade:Hey! you forgot to bring your brain along, come back when you have it with you. ciao |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Nobody: 8:04pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Drinkwater07: Pickle of a situation you are in... Life is a proper bitch ain't it? My suggestions for you: In order to avoid "bad blood" between you and your brother (and/or family), AND still keep your lover.... 1. Have an entirely brutal honest conversation with this girl about what your going abroad entails: strain of distance, trust issues, waiting etc. 2. Once she is fully armed with information, she can then make informed decision (1) remain an item (2) remain friends (3) None of the above If I were you, I'd proceed based on if this girl is "worth" jeopardizing your brother's relationship If she is worth it and a bag of chips..... Then, proceed as such: 1. Your brother does not have to know you are still 'actively' an item. You tell him, you are cordial friends. 2. Respectfully, tell him you wish to repay his kindness at a later time while accepting the help he offers you at the time 3. Work to be independent from your brother. This means have a plan to be financially free from him-- 4. Once you can support yourself, then bring your lovely woman over here in GOOD conscience. Option B: The girl aint worth it at all.....Then fella, go for the greener pastures (but remain cordial friends if she is agreeable to). Of course, hopefully, this girl will also perform her own assessment on your worth as well before she agrees to long distance dalliance. Good luck and godspeed. Keep in mind, you can't always have it both ways. You much sacrifice one or the other. Each decision with its consequences. |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by aariwa(m): 8:19pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Its not fair to leave a woman that suffered with you as in most cases you will later realise that she is the one that God made for you.If you make money before marrying, their is a strong possibility that you will marry a beautiful, vain slay queen who is only after what she can get from you and who may end up wrecking all you achieved when the going gets tough.Do court marriage and get her pregnant before leaving.Avoid women in Canada to avoid complications and save up at least 200 dollars every month and send down for their maintainance even if it means yo starving and travel at least once a year to see them.You will be eligible to apply for Canadian permanent residence after your program as the country allows it after which you will bring your family over 1 Like |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by WomanOfRace(f): 8:31pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
alexistaiwo: I'm sure he is Dangote now i? and the so called girl is still with him not demanding fading! And i didn't see anywhere he said he ever caught her cheating on him for the 4years. If i'm a man, i will give this girl room for benefit of doubt, at t she deserves it. He is with him now he is nobody, she should be with him when he becomes somebody. |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Nobody: 8:44pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
WomanOfRace: See as she equates a relationship to a business transaction. Breaking up now will save both of them a whole lot of trouble going forward |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by 2sizzlin(m): 8:49pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
The schooling is supposed to translate to better job, riches, I suppose : uncertainty if riches (1 Timothy 6:17) Trust brother and follow all his commands : Cursed is the one who trusts in man, who draws strength from mere flesh (Jer 17:5) I can't lose the girlfriend : though there's more to this but I will try and summarize at the expense of leaving out important details. You probably have been sleeping with her. U can betray her now or she can betray you later... or not. No one knows, only the Person who knows the future and the consequences of present actions on the future can direct yours steps if you .... Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths. Proverbs 3:5-6 NKJV What we do is that we default on the first 2 then we come to men for our paths to be directed , unfortunately men would mostly give you their advise based on their own understanding. Even worse, we mess up so much we start entering strange prayer houses for quick fix then enter into the main gbege. I'm sorry brother, at this point any advice I give you... You can't even entertain it. |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by 2sizzlin(m): 9:06pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
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Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by tuscani: 9:15pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Drinkwater07:Op I speak to you from experience. Most things we will regret later in life are the opurtunities we abandoned |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by concho(m): 12:28am On Sep 06, 2017 |
The same girl i did not travel to GERMANY because of is now happily married and am still broke . My sister who wanted to help me is now my rival . fear WOMEN ...........Fashi dt love and fly o. ..........LEARN FROM HISTORY SON !!! |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by abbeyafu(m): 2:02am On Sep 06, 2017 |
Drinkwater07: Seems she is a really nice lady. in her 30s, i feel for her but you have to man up. Think of this, what if she is the one with this oppprtunity? what will she do. Continue hustling with you here while she miss the wonderful oppprtunity? |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Maniche44(m): 6:43am On Sep 06, 2017 |
my brother leave that girl and go for ur future. i av exprienced it before, back then in 2014 i was processing my paper to travel to dubia my so called girl was all over me then, she calls steady to check on me, cook and bring me 4 me to have a test. meanwhile i thought it was love. unfortunately as God may want it, i was duped, i didn't travel again. immiediately she heard it, nwanne the girl kukuma draw back. she is no longer the same, i don't even know the last i saw her sef. pls bro go 4 ur future for the betterment of ur unborn children. |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Blissquare(f): 12:48pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
I understand the guys saying follow your dreams and face your hustle but as well, let time tell. Don't make any promises. A good woman is as scarce in Nigeria as it is abroad. In fact, it is easier to know a bad woman in Nigeria than abroad. If it was the woman that dumped you for greener pastures, you would say women are bad. If you are meant to be, you would be no matter the time gap or distance. You may have your master and phD but that doesn't guarantee happiness in your future any more than marrying the wrong partner. Just keep in touch with her and let nature take its course. She can remain faithful to you in your a sense, don't mind people that think it is impossible. |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by nuelyoyo(m): 1:48pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
bellezza:wow, wise advice. Pls can I contact you? I would need some tips from you. |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by kunletexs: 10:28pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
Billyonaire: Is it safe to say that I love your Comment gon ni o. Guy, your advice sums it up. 3 bosa for baba!!! |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by tonididdy(m): 11:59pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
lol my then supervisor at work shared a personal experience with me; he and his wife applied for american visas...his wife got hers but his was decided, according to him his wife insisted she must go but he was having non of that cos he wanted them on same flight. long story short....he later succumbed and his wife left for the usa. last i heard, she hardly picks Or makes a call to him cos he still battling with visa issues, she always complains on duty calls. PS: they havent got any kids @OP i think my story could be any of you in the receiving end, you dont wanna put a soul on hold...act wisely |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by tosyne2much(m): 11:06am On Sep 07, 2017 |
soberdrunk:So you go fit dey comb her shebi? |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by chukagates(m): 11:39am On Sep 07, 2017 |
ImaIma1:are u in other words saying he should leave his future for the lady?? like forget this greener pasture for a lady |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by chukagates(m): 11:39am On Sep 07, 2017 |
ImaIma1:are u in other words saying he should leave his future for the lady?? like forget this greener pasture for a lady? |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by soberdrunk(m): 11:45am On Sep 07, 2017 |
tosyne2much: Harmattan is around the corner.... |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by OGHENAOGIE(m): 10:59am On Sep 08, 2017 |
IamAirforce1:my bro it's simple if ur bro agree den u guys get married...quickly and she get pregnant for u as assurance....den move to Canada to secure ur future....later u pick her up meanwhile u ll still be remembering her oooo but if not both of u shd part ways in peace jeje oooo and move on with ur life.....a man's world is full of struggles....and without money hw many women ready to die for Dier man 1 Like |
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