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Re: Sharing Responsibilities In A Marriage. by Nobody: 7:50pm On Nov 01, 2017 |
pcguru1:OK brother, even when am sure u wash some places with your tongue.. I didn't say anything o |
Re: Sharing Responsibilities In A Marriage. by Nobody: 7:51pm On Nov 01, 2017 |
needful:God bless ur generation.. |
Re: Sharing Responsibilities In A Marriage. by Nobody: 8:00pm On Nov 01, 2017 |
mctowel01:how many men can afford doz, even some who can still wants their women to go d old way in d name of good wife material |
Re: Sharing Responsibilities In A Marriage. by Nobody: 8:24pm On Nov 01, 2017 |
enkayhope: I can neither confirm nor deny that statement. |
Re: Sharing Responsibilities In A Marriage. by Xmen149(m): 8:35pm On Nov 01, 2017 |
Lawlahdey: and if he loose his job when you still have your will turn him to toilet brush |
Re: Sharing Responsibilities In A Marriage. by Xmen149(m): 8:39pm On Nov 01, 2017 |
Lawlahdey: you said to support,.atomatically the love is gone,.God will not send me that kind of woman,..even if na house wife bad woman will still be bad |
Re: Sharing Responsibilities In A Marriage. by Xmen149(m): 9:08pm On Nov 01, 2017 |
Forget money,.if your wife cnt support then she should be ready to cut down flat to accomodate financially on what you make before marriage you use to visit,then who does my: laundry cooking cleaning Then: take you out for treat buy you stuffs,.me so you see,coming into my life is to aid my life,not to be additional problem and if God bless you with a work and you suddenly realized its your personal thing or u will put my head in the toilet before you aid then he will do something about it. marriage does not mean that my sweet me you used to know will fade out cos it wasnt faked,..i will still make my family a special dish anytime am chanced,take time over the weekend to rearrange my house and know how the kidos are doing with school and stuff,read them bed time stories after i give them bath and feed them if i come back early enough to meet them awake or soak the dirty laundry in the washing machine over night spin it early morning preparing to work and spread.supporting or not this are things i will do for my self even when am alone so its no work..........but never for her to start beign commanding what i must do bc she is supporting,.simply means she is tired. sex part,.me i wont even entertain anyone disturbing my night sleep after work cos she won chukuchuku,early morning is ok.........if she thinks that one is a job too then she is calling sata to come all the same Date your spouse and know what will work out for you two not some layed down shit by others..maka ndu gi |
Re: Sharing Responsibilities In A Marriage. by horlahsunbo225(m): 7:59am On Nov 02, 2017 |
enkayhope:you made the best point ma'am 1 Like |
Re: Sharing Responsibilities In A Marriage. by Nobody: 10:28am On Nov 02, 2017 |
pcguru1:Yes ofcos, after all we r saying samething |
Re: Sharing Responsibilities In A Marriage. by Nobody: 1:25am On Jun 26, 2018 |
Lawlahdey: You were making sense until you made this comment.. In this 21st century if you don't have anything to bring to the table you surely won't get married because even the so called traditional men or alpha males don't want liabilities as wives. With this your ridiculous and primitive mentality I wonder who'll marry you. And who told you men don't do chores these days? |
Re: Sharing Responsibilities In A Marriage. by Nobody: 1:34am On Jun 26, 2018 |
ImaIma1: Your all emphasis was just on the chores. Refuse the man from paying bride price and all these noise about cooking and house chores will stop. Majority of married men in Nigeria believe that their wives are their properties because they paid bride price.. Cooking and cleaning isn't their responsibilities. And as for your post.. I think any woman who doesn't share bills with her husband doesn't deserve to be helped in house chores by the husband even if she's nursing kids. |
Re: Sharing Responsibilities In A Marriage. by Nobody: 1:37am On Jun 26, 2018 |
walexsho: Such a primitive and uncivilized individual. Seems like you forgot this is the 21st century. |
Re: Sharing Responsibilities In A Marriage. by Perspicacious: 4:34am On Jun 26, 2018 |
It should be common sense that a wife and husband share responsibilities in marriage. But because many people are indoctrinated by patriarchial beliefs about gender roles, many men enter marriages thinking that being the "head" of their wives means being the "man-in-charge" while doing less work than their wives. There is some research out there which shows that after marriage, a husband's load tends to be lighter (because he has a woman in his life to shift his burdens onto) while a wife's load tends to be heavier (because she is carrying most of the weight of household chores, child-rearing, and the emotional labor of maintaining the marriage). Study after study indicates that men (on average) benefit more from marriage than women do. After a woman marries, her workload increases dramatically, while the husband's workload decreases. Married men live longer on average, while married women live shorter lifespans than single women who live by themselves. I am by no means saying that people should not get married. But rather, I hope to draw attention to the fact that responsibilities are often imbalanced in many marriages, and both spouses are often not sharing responsibilities equally. Research also shows that even in marriages where both spouses work outside of the home and split the bills 50/50, the woman still ends up carrying most of the weight in the marriage. So the idea of a man calling himself "the head" or the "leader" of the home, and also claiming that he "loves his wife as Christ loves the Church" while doing less work than his wife, is entirely ridiculous. You aren't the head or the leader of anything if your wife is carrying more weight than you, and you definitely aren't treating her as "the weaker vessel" or "loving her as Christ loves the Church" by loading her down with heavy burdens like a mule or a workhorse. Last time I checked, Jesus doesn't do less work than the Church and weigh the Church down with heavy burdens while calling Himself the "Head" and expecting submission from the Church. Yet a lot of these religious men do the exact opposite of Jesus' example by putting forth as little effort as possible in marriage and expecting their wives to do more work than they do AND PAY HALF THE BILLS, and then call this one-sided relationship a "Biblical marriage." No sir. I don't think so. Responsibilities should be shared in a healthy, loving marriage. But sadly, this is often not the case because of patriarchal nonsense. |
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