Ishilove:

You are thinking from your anus, that's why you can use your diseased fingers to type _shit and insults at total strangers. You are obviously one of those rotten children who's parents should have used wire to reset their brain so that they won't come to the internet to display their lack of home training. Mannerless thing.

Because your parents raised u like a prisoner serving a jail term by constantly bruising u doesn't make corporal punishnment a prudent way to raise kids. See the way your upbringing is reflecting on your comments....
Upon all the beatings you got from your parents, see how senseless u are at this age...
Thank your lucky stars this is an online forum, i for give u the beating of your life...So u will know the true definition of beating....Senseless animal

this is also why i hate whatsapp groups. you have so many daft jokers who can share anything without thinking.
for those with android, there is an app called app lock that will password apps etal

johnson232:

Because your parents raised u like a prisoner serving a jail term by constantly bruising u doesn't make corporal punishnment a prudent way to raise kids. See the way your upbringing is reflecting on your comments....
Upon all the beatings you got from your parents, see how senseless u are at this age...
Thank your lucky stars this is an online forum, i for give u the beating of your life...So u will know the true definition of beating....Senseless animal

See this demented half wit o. Who was the first to throw insults? Was I not on my own when you quoted me to write the same rubbish you excrete from your dirty anus? And you have the effontery to talk about upbringing reflecting in comments? Your parents should have abandoned you in your village's evil forest.

So you want to give me beating? Barbarian, you want to show power with a woman. Oya come now, let me organise guys like you to beat sense into your empty barrel head. You can flex muscle with them.

_Imbecile. You are truly lucky that this is social media which is giving an agama lizard like you the liver to act like a crocodile.

Ishilove:

See this demented half wit o. Who was the first to throw insults? Was I not on my own when you quoted me to write the same rubbish you excrete from your dirty anus? And you have the effontery to talk about upbringing reflecting in comments? Your parents should have abandoned you in your village's evil forest.

So you want to give me beating? Barbarian, you want to show power with a woman. Oya come now, let me organise guys like you to beat sense into your empty barrel head. You can flex muscle with them.

_Imbecile. You are truly lucky that this is social media which is giving an agama lizard like you the liver to act like a crocodile.

You have time taking various shots of your baby's hairstyle @profile pic, but u want the op to kill her child for sth he ignorantly watched...5yrs old don get sense?
If that your baby watch all those porn u keep on your phone, will u even scold her let alone beating? Animal....

PaperLace:


Please calm down, children like phone _these modern ones only like big phones, give them nokia-torch, they won't collect .

Talk your husband. The positive side is, he isn't like some husbands that lock their phones and even the network connection. The negative side is, bobo saw what he shouldn't. Calm down with the positive and tell him what happened, he loves his kids as much as you do _it was most likely an oversight. He should activate his auto-lock.

You guys should call the lil boy and engage him, no overreaction, no beating. If a good job has been done regulating what he watches and who he associates with, he won't understand the basics of sex just yet.

Simply tell him there are some videos we shouldn't be watching, they are not good for our health. Your concerns are normal, but the greater problem lies in your reaction and how you handle it, don't make it sound like he did the unthinkable. Since he likes pressing phone, get him his own tablet, download kiddies content for him, he should press as he likes.


Have you had those little sex-education talk with him? Don't be like those parents that wait till they see you playing mummy & daddy, before they have that talk.

Sex education for a five-year old boy? Are you nuts?

TrumporIdie:
that's not her child, she is an old lady without a husband or child just like analice107.

Hey, I am not responsible for the frustrations in your short life. You jump here to quote me to type trash and you still tag the mods to ban me. Immature troll.

If my being here, on this forum, gives you sleepless nights then get ready to NEVER sleep. E never start to pepper you. This is just the beginning

Hitting the ignore mode on your pained ass.

If my memory of Catholic doctrine serves me right, I know that even the Catholic Church pins down the 'age of reasoning' to 8 years old. It is taken as given by the Catholic Church that anything a child does before his eighth-year birthday is not conscientious and so cannot be called a sin. It is your husband who has erred. He is guilty of the sin of omission

But let's shunt the religious mumbo-jumbo aside. Even in the secular sense, do you think an innocent child of five can make sense of a video of a man and woman having sex? I don't think any child is that precocious especially if that happens to be the first time he or she is exposed to such visual material. It is not the child's fault and you should not beat him. Beating him would only attach emotional significance to the episode and reinforce it in his memory. However, if you don't beat him then you can rely on the passage of time to efface the memory of the event from his mind. It's a simple memory trick that wise parents have used to re-programme memories of children who have seen what they ought not to have seen.

But just as someone suggested, err on the side of caution by keeping a close watch on him (even though I do not think it is quite necessary). I'm sure your son would watch the new Power Rangers movie and forget all about it in no time.

DarkRebel69:


Sex education for a five-year old boy? Are you nuts?

LITTLE sex education talk _emphasis on little. The talk given to toddlers is a whole lot different and it's advisable. I'm sure you read all the cases of child molestation, these people take advantage of a child's naivety.

It shouldn't be graphic, sometimes they set the pace with their questions, they ask about their body parts. They ask how mummy got pregnant. If you have ever taken care of kids _you would be familiar with their inquisitive nature. They deserve age-appropriate answers.

Other times, the parent would have to take it up themselves. Teach them proper names of their body parts, teach them not to touch another person's own (mummy and daddy play _you should at least be familiar with this one). Teach them no one is allowed to touch their private parts, neither are they allowed to go about stroking their genitals (I've seen little boys do this severally).

Lots of kids get molested before the age of 10 she plans teaching them these little things. As a child begins to talk, it's very pertinent. That way, they can always report back to you if anything goes against what you taught them.

This is what you should have asked, not if I am nuts. Learn how to talk _life isn't that serious.

Do married people even watch porn? I thought mostly unmarried idle people who can't get a shag.

PaperLace:


LITTLE sex education talk _emphasis on little. The talk given to toddlers is a whole lot different and it's advisable. I'm sure you read all the cases of child molestation, these people take advantage of a child's naivety.

It shouldn't be graphic, sometimes they set the pace with their questions, they ask about their body parts. They ask how mummy got pregnant. If you have ever taken care of kids _you would be familiar with their inquisitive nature. They deserve age-appropriate answers.

Other times, the parent would have to take it up themselves. Teach them proper names of their body parts, teach them not to touch another person's own (mummy and daddy play _you should at least be familiar with this one). Teach them no one is allowed to touch their private parts.

Lots of kids get molested before the age of 10 she plans teaching them these little things. As a child begins to talk, it's very pertinent. That way, they can always report back to you if anything goes against what you taught them.

This is what you should have asked, not if I am nuts. Learn how to talk _life isn't that serious.

I didn't know women gave birth vaginally until I was in JSS 3. I was traumatised for hours that fateful afternoon, after learning this shocking bit of information. Prior to then, I thought we gave birth through the navel

Omoluabi16:
Do married people even watch porn? I thought mostly unmarried idle people who can't get a shag.

I guess it's to get their freak on? Who knows

Ishilove:

I guess it's to get their freak on? Who knows

I tire oh. freak on ke? As a woman, I would be terrible to realise my husband watches porn. wetin dose actor get wey she no get? It's a no no.

DarkRebel69:


Sex education for a five-year old boy? Are you nuts?

very possible bro. sex education can be given to toddlers. of course, in a simplified manner.

Ishilove:

I didn't know women gave birth vaginally until I was in JSS 3. I was traumatised for hours that fateful afternoon, after learning this shocking bit of information. Prior to then, I thought we gave birth through the navel

Honestly my parents never taught me these things. My mum kept on threatening me with pregnancy. How I will drop out of secondary school and learn hair-dressing if I get pregnant .

It was in the boarding house I started learning these things. Prior to then, I was an indoor kid. The moment what I was learning started showing in my associations/actions _they withdrew me from the school, hahahahahaha.

Ishilove:

I didn't know women gave birth vaginally until I was in JSS 3. I was traumatised for hours that fateful afternoon, after learning this shocking bit of information. Prior to then, I thought we gave birth through the navel

I thought women got pregnant by kissing. I only knew what sex was when I was passing by a video store and I began to see things..

Omoluabi16:
I thought women got pregnant by kissing. I only knew what sex was when I was passing by a video store and I began to see things..

Buhahahahahaha!

PaperLace:


Honestly my parents never taught me these things. My mum kept on threatening me with pregnancy. How I will drop out of secondary school and learn hair-dressing if I get pregnant .

It was in the boarding house I started learning these things. Prior to then, I was an indoor kid. The moment what I was learning started showing in my associations/actions _they withdrew me from the school, hahahahahaha.

Your own better. My mum told me if I talk to boys and allowed them touch me, I'd get pregnant. Of course this made me run far from them. I cried the day my class teacher paired me with a male seat partner in primary school. I was terrified I'd get pregnant, give birth through my navel and have a distended belly button for the rest of my life.

Ishilove:

See this demented half wit o. Who was the first to throw insults? Was I not on my own when you quoted me to write the same rubbish you excrete from your dirty anus? And you have the effontery to talk about upbringing reflecting in comments? Your parents should have abandoned you in your village's evil forest.

So you want to give me beating? Barbarian, you want to show power with a woman. Oya come now, let me organise guys like you to beat sense into your empty barrel head. You can flex muscle with them.

_Imbecile. You are truly lucky that this is social media which is giving an agama lizard like you the liver to act like a crocodile.

1. demented half wit
2. dirty anus
3. village's evil forest
4. empty barrel head
5. agama lizard
6. _Imbecile
7. like a crocodile

Just in only one post

with Kids Dstv is a no no for me

Fabulouscity:
I will go straight to the point, have come to seek advice on how to handle this, I have been here on NL for awhile, but I created this account for advice.
so I woke up early to prepare my children for school today, there was no electricity supply but my son (5 years) was busying with his dad's phone in the sitting room, his composure made me decide to have a glimpse of what game he was playing, I snooped behind him and guest what? He was watching porn!! the way he was clicking and pausing it showed it wasn't his first time, I took the phone from him,and decided not to make a scene that early, Now am confused... I don't knw how to handle this (haven't told his father either). Am just annoyed after all the blocking TV channels... This had to happen. pls how do I handle this?

First, If you beat a 5 year old boy for watching the videos he found on his father's phone that would make you very wrong.

He is 5, not 15. Instead, watch him real close and see If he is being affected by the videos he's been watching. Hopefully he's not addicted yet, But make sure you have him engage in physical exercises, take him to an open park where he can play with boys his age in the sand. Engage his mind with his school homework and get colorful and decent comics for him, like tintin and Archie comics.

Second, The father is totally in the wrong here. He knew he had porn on his phone and still left it for the boy to handle. He has behaved irresponsibly.

Meanwhile, you have a much bigger problem on your hands than these. Your marriage is on the verge of hitting the rocks.

I'm yet to see a marriage that survived the addiction of one of the spouses to porn.

You need to talk to your husband about this. Let him know you'll support him to break that habit.

He needs to seek professional help and both of you should also go for counselling.

Don't wait until you're done for.

All the best.

Ishilove:

Beat him shaba shaba!! Whenever he remembers the beating, he will hate porn with perfect hatred. That is the African way to train a child.

After beating your boy, use your mouth to beat Daddy for keeping rubbish in his phone and being careless about it.

African way discipline has long term side effects my friend! and that will last longer than the clip he saw on the phone. hey! use mouth beat the Daddy! hmmmm...hope you know also that might have a negative effect on the marriage... be careful how you advice people on their domestic issues...it's usually highly sensitive.
please consider it and rephrase your advice...thanks.

ElsonMorali:
First, If you beat a 5 year old boy for watching the videos he found on his father's phone that would make you very wrong.

He is 5, not 15. Instead, watch him real close and see If he is being affected by the videos he's been watching. Hopefully he's not addicted yet, But make sure you have him engage in physical exercises, take him to an open park where he can play with boys his age in the sand. Engage his mind with his school homework and get colorful and decent comics for him, like tintin and Archie comics.

Second, The father is totally in the wrong here. He knew he had porn on his phone and still left it for the boy to handle. He has behaved irresponsibly.

Meanwhile, you have a much bigger problem on your hands than these. Your marriage is on the verge of hitting the rocks.

I'm yet to see a marriage that survived the addiction of one of the spouses to porn.

You need to talk to your husband about this. Let him know you'll support him to break that habit.

He needs to seek professional help and both of you should also go for counselling.

Don't wait until you're done for.

All the best.

great advice...matured!

PaperLace:


LITTLE sex education talk _emphasis on little. The talk given to toddlers is a whole lot different and it's advisable. I'm sure you read all the cases of child molestation, these people take advantage of a child's naivety.

It shouldn't be graphic, sometimes they set the pace with their questions, they ask about their body parts. They ask how mummy got pregnant. If you have ever taken care of kids _you would be familiar with their inquisitive nature. They deserve age-appropriate answers.

Other times, the parent would have to take it up themselves. Teach them proper names of their body parts, teach them not to touch another person's own (mummy and daddy play _you should at least be familiar with this one). Teach them no one is allowed to touch their private parts, neither are they allowed to go about stroking their genitals (I've seen little boys do this severally).

Lots of kids get molested before the age of 10 she plans teaching them these little things. As a child begins to talk, it's very pertinent. That way, they can always report back to you if anything goes against what you taught them.

This is what you should have asked, not if I am nuts. Learn how to talk_life isn't that serious.

You are too sensitive.

Thanks everyone, for your input,

We were all tired yesterday so I let it slide, so today very early in the morning I spoke to the father about it, he ws shocked and said he thought he had deleted it from his phone(the videos were sent to him via what'sup. .. . His randy frds).

According to him is phone has a way of storing deleted files then recovering it back unknown to him
So anyway like I was adviced here I told him to speak to his son and all. Which he agreed.

We all just got home now.... the unthinkable happened like its a nightmare... My worst fears came alive,.. .. I was in the room trying to relax, something just moved me to the parlour, the boy had pulled his pants and was trying to insert his little pee, inside another little child bombom....i was horrified.

I asked him where he saw it from and he said his dad's phone.
So without further hesitation I got out the belt n did what I should have done yesterday, I knew something had gone terribly wrong yesterday... Thats y I was so bitter.

I called the father to tell him what happened can u imagine he was still insisting I shouldnt beat him.. . Anyway we ended up quarrelling.

I don finally beat the boy blue black... I will take him to a pharmacy later.. . Yea I injured him. I am waiting for the father and am ready.. Am thinking of calling my mum incase this matter escalates. Am just tired

ElsonMorali:
First, If you beat a 5 year old boy for watching the videos he found on his father's phone that would make you very wrong.

He is 5, not 15. Instead, watch him real close and see If he is being affected by the videos he's been watching. Hopefully he's not addicted yet, But make sure you have him engage in physical exercises, take him to an open park where he can play with boys his age in the sand. Engage his mind with his school homework and get colorful and decent comics for him, like tintin and Archie comics.

Second, The father is totally in the wrong here. He knew he had porn on his phone and still left it for the boy to handle. He has behaved irresponsibly.

Meanwhile, you have a much bigger problem on your hands than these. Your marriage is on the verge of hitting the rocks.

I'm yet to see a marriage that survived the addiction of one of the spouses to porn.

You need to talk to your husband about this. Let him know you'll support him to break that habit.

He needs to seek professional help and both of you should also go for counselling.

Don't wait until you're done for.

All the best.

Yes we seriously need counselling... Cos obviously we aren't on the same page regarding child upbringing.. . He calls me a sadist.. But truly I want the best for my child the boy is extremely intelligent for his age his memory is Sthg else. And yes sometimes he shows me the porn, mayb I come in and I hear moans I'll be like what are you watching? then he shows me nothing serious like an addiction. (I hope not). Thanks for your advice.

Omoluabi16:
Do married people even watch porn? I thought mostly unmarried idle people who can't get a shag.

Most men watch porn.. those that send it to him are married men in their 40s and 50s,respectable classy men for that matter.

truthsayer009:


Asin ehen, I just kept quiet since everyone was advocating the boy should not be beating or touched. Imagine a boy of 5 year old. Mtchew !

I have done it ooo

Fabulouscity:


I have done it ooo

LOL