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Please Help, Is It Too Early To Tell Her I Want To Marry Her. by eddycolo(m): 11:39pm On Sep 21
Hi nairalanders,

I believe that I have finally found the girl I would love to spend the rest of my live with. Prayed and one night i saw a girl in my dreams. I dont know her....., that week was standing in from of my estate gate when one of the two girls walking into the estate approached me and invited me to a church program that week sunday..., I obliged as she was unrelenting in persuasion. On Saturday before the sunday I received a phone call from another lady to confirm if i ll honour the invitation which I said yes. On the sunday when i got to the church the lady that called me was the one in front door welcome people...guess what, she looks exactly like the girl I saw in my dream...., is this for real, is she the one? I keep asking myself. Cus it is too much of a coincidence. So after church, i didnt see her again, but have her number as she already called my the day before. So whatapped her to tell her i enjoyed the service and thanked her for the invitation.

So i kept in touch with her every now and then just to build familiarity and later I asked her if we can be friends. Of which she said that we are already friends that we are not enemies. When a lady uses this line you all can read between the lines right. I have tried countless times to ask her out ....she do agree but always cancels when the date is close. So I gave up asking her out ....i started thinking about a new strategy....I remembered a friend saying that the fastest way to a lady's heart is through gifts...., so i got her a very nice gown, and have to think of a very good excuse for getting her a gown....so i told her i went shopping and i happened to see the gown on a mannequin and saw that the gown would be so perfect on her, so i got it. That i would feel so bad if i walked pass. She paused for a while, never said a word, for about 15min, later she said why did I get her a gift without first letting her know..., i told her it was meant to be a surprise...she refused to accept it. Disaster.

I apologise and let it go. Kept the gift at home. So with time i engaged her in conversation and asked her if i could come visit her. She agreed, so in the evening i drove down to her place about 5min drive. I got there. We chatted for a while and i left. The next two days i asked her again if i could come, she agreed this time i got her fruit juice and priggles...she accepted ...we are finally gradually becoming good friends....the next time i was visiting i reminded her that i still have the gown, that i dont know what to do with it. Begged her to please accept...she said its ok that i can bring along...she accpeted....never happier....right now she is the one that wznts me to come visit....

So my problem now which i really need help from you guys is that i want to break it to her that I want to spend the rest of my live with her. But dont know how to go about it. A friend said i should try and get to speak to her mum, while doing that, i should do everything i can not to let her father set eyes on me....that fathers are overly protective of their girl children.

How do i get to speak to her mum, she does not live in the same town. She lives in a different state. How do i get her to let me speak to her mum...that would be very weird to her as i have not made my intentions known to her.

Should i tell her my intentions now cus i think it might be too early....so her attitude would not change as i am just getting to know her. Want to be friends or court her for like 6 months before marrying her.

Please whats the best way to go about it.

She stays with her elder sister her....have not met her yet..., as my friends told me to go through the mum....so what do you guys advise?
Re: Please Help, Is It Too Early To Tell Her I Want To Marry Her. by missbeckykisses(f): 11:56pm On Sep 21
eddycolo:
Hi nairalanders,

I believe that I have finally found the girl I would love to spend the rest of my live with. Prayed and one night i saw a girl in my dreams. I dont know her....., that week was standing in from of my estate gate when one of the two girls walking into the estate approached me and invited me to a church program that week sunday..., I obliged as she was unrelenting in persuasion. On Saturday before the sunday I received a phone from another lady to confirm if i ll honour the invitation which I said yes. On the sunday when i got to the church the lady that called me was the one in front door welcome people...guess what, she looks exactly like the girl I saw in my dream...., is this for real, is she the one? I keep asking myself. Cus it is too much of a coincidence. So after church, i didnt see her again, but have her number as she already called my the day before. So whatapped her to tell her i enjoyed the service and thanked her for the invitation.

So i kept in touch with her every now and then just to build familiarity and later I asked her if we can be friends. Of which she said that we are already friends that we are not enemies. When a lady uses this line you all can read between the lines right. I have tried countless times to ask her out ....she do agree but always cancels when the date is close. So I gave up asking her out ....i started thinking about a new strategy....I remembered a friend saying that the fastest way to a lady's heart is through gifts...., so i got her a very nice gown, and have to think of a very good excuse for getting her a gown....so i told her i went shopping and i happened to see the gown on a mannequin and saw that the gown would be so perfect on her, so i got it. That i would feel so bad if i walked pass. She paused for a while, never said a word, for about 15min, later she said why did I get her a gift without first letting her know..., i told her it was meant to be a surprise...she refused to accept it. Disaster.

I apologise and let it go. Kept the gift at home. So with time i engaged her in conversation and asked her if i could come visit her. She agreed, so in the evening i drove down to her place about 5min drive. I got there. We chatted for a while and i left. The next two days i asked her again if i could come, she agreed this time i got her fruit juice and priggles...she accepted ...we are finally gradually becoming good friends....the next time i was visiting i reminded her that i still have the gown, that i dont know what to do with it. Begged her to please accept...she said its ok that i can bring along...she accpeted....never happier....right now she is the one that wznts me to come visit....

So my problem now which i really need help from you guys is that i want to break it to her that I want to spend the rest of my live with her. But dont know how to go about it. A friend said i should try and get to speak to her mum, while doing that, i should do everything i can not to let her father set eyes on me....that fathers are overly protective of their girl children.

How do i get to speak to her mum, she does not live in the same town. She lives in a different state. How do i get her to let me speak to her mum...that would be very weird to her as i have not made my intentions known to her.

Should i tell her my intentions now cus i think it might be too early....so her attitude would not change as i am just getting to know her. Want to be friends or court her for like 6 months before marrying her.

Please whats the best way to go about it.

She stays with her elder sister her....have not met her yet..., as my friends told me to go through the mum....so what do you guys advise?
dude, I wish I had the time to read all this, can you give me the normal version abeg, I don't need the extended Blu ray version
Re: Please Help, Is It Too Early To Tell Her I Want To Marry Her. by FortifiedCity: 12:00am On Sep 22
missbeckykisses:
dude, I wish I had the time to read all this, can you give me the normal version abeg, I don't need the extended Blu ray version
Must you quote the whole post?

...and when will you stop 'kissing' undecided

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Re: Please Help, Is It Too Early To Tell Her I Want To Marry Her. by FortifiedCity: 12:02am On Sep 22
Op don't be too pushy, just take it easy. If she is yours, she us. Being to desperate can scare the girl away

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Re: Please Help, Is It Too Early To Tell Her I Want To Marry Her. by Nobody: 12:26am On Sep 22
Somebody should please summarize this thing for me.
Re: Please Help, Is It Too Early To Tell Her I Want To Marry Her. by adajoe555: 12:27am On Sep 22
Take time and study her character, marriage is for a life time, don't rush over things

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Re: Please Help, Is It Too Early To Tell Her I Want To Marry Her. by fuckerstard: 12:38am On Sep 22
For the rest of your life? Think am well well.

Girl wey you never know well, she fit even get bf. take your time and get to know her a bit more.

Let her know how you feel make she no go friend zone your ass, don't speak to her mother about anything. Na you and the babe get talk.

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Re: Please Help, Is It Too Early To Tell Her I Want To Marry Her. by greatnaija01: 12:53am On Sep 22
hmmmmm na wa o.... I wish I can believe ya story cos its too fake o..... YOU PRAYED, GOD ANSWERED WITH A VISION and your steps were ordered to see the person or a look-alike the very next day and you continued making your moves WITHOUT PRAYER and finally you are HERE to ASK THE WORLD how to CLAIM what you claimed GOD REVEALED TO YOU abi? My brother pls tell the plain truth.

IF PRAYER BROUGHT HER only PRAYER TO GOD can give you the wisdom to keep her and maintain her..... VOICE OF THE PEOPLE IS NOT THE VOICE OF GOD o. pls have spiritual sense,

IF I BOUGHT YOU A PHONE and while am there you now go and start asking people how to use the phone... ignoring me or my help HOW DO U THINK I WOULD FEEL? The person who got you the phone is able to help understand it.



eddycolo:
Hi nairalanders,

I believe that I have finally found the girl I would love to spend the rest of my live with. Prayed and one night i saw a girl in my dreams. I dont know her....., that week was standing in from of my estate gate when one of the two girls walking into the estate approached me and invited me to a church program that week sunday..., I obliged as she was unrelenting in persuasion. On Saturday before the sunday I received a phone call from another lady to confirm if i ll honour the invitation which I said yes. On the sunday when i got to the church the lady that called me was the one in front door welcome people...guess what, she looks exactly like the girl I saw in my dream...., is this for real, is she the one? I keep asking myself. Cus it is too much of a coincidence. So after church, i didnt see her again, but have her number as she already called my the day before. So whatapped her to tell her i enjoyed the service and thanked her for the invitation.

So i kept in touch with her every now and then just to build familiarity and later I asked her if we can be friends. Of which she said that we are already friends that we are not enemies. When a lady uses this line you all can read between the lines right. I have tried countless times to ask her out ....she do agree but always cancels when the date is close. So I gave up asking her out ....i started thinking about a new strategy....I remembered a friend saying that the fastest way to a lady's heart is through gifts...., so i got her a very nice gown, and have to think of a very good excuse for getting her a gown....so i told her i went shopping and i happened to see the gown on a mannequin and saw that the gown would be so perfect on her, so i got it. That i would feel so bad if i walked pass. She paused for a while, never said a word, for about 15min, later she said why did I get her a gift without first letting her know..., i told her it was meant to be a surprise...she refused to accept it. Disaster.

I apologise and let it go. Kept the gift at home. So with time i engaged her in conversation and asked her if i could come visit her. She agreed, so in the evening i drove down to her place about 5min drive. I got there. We chatted for a while and i left. The next two days i asked her again if i could come, she agreed this time i got her fruit juice and priggles...she accepted ...we are finally gradually becoming good friends....the next time i was visiting i reminded her that i still have the gown, that i dont know what to do with it. Begged her to please accept...she said its ok that i can bring along...she accpeted....never happier....right now she is the one that wznts me to come visit....

So my problem now which i really need help from you guys is that i want to break it to her that I want to spend the rest of my live with her. But dont know how to go about it. A friend said i should try and get to speak to her mum, while doing that, i should do everything i can not to let her father set eyes on me....that fathers are overly protective of their girl children.

How do i get to speak to her mum, she does not live in the same town. She lives in a different state. How do i get her to let me speak to her mum...that would be very weird to her as i have not made my intentions known to her.

Should i tell her my intentions now cus i think it might be too early....so her attitude would not change as i am just getting to know her. Want to be friends or court her for like 6 months before marrying her.

Please whats the best way to go about it.

She stays with her elder sister her....have not met her yet..., as my friends told me to go through the mum....so what do you guys advise?

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Re: Please Help, Is It Too Early To Tell Her I Want To Marry Her. by smardray(m): 1:15am On Sep 22
how did you know it was God who showed you the girl!?..
if he is. .
did he send you to be buying things upandan for her!!?!...mtcheww...oo tie serious rara
Re: Please Help, Is It Too Early To Tell Her I Want To Marry Her. by eddycolo(m): 1:18am On Sep 22
greatnaija01:
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You speak the truth....but not a fake story....on that note, guys dont worry about giving your advise. I now know what to do. But my advise to anyone facing any problem dont forget the might One sits on the throne above. All it takes is just prayers. Cheers
Re: Please Help, Is It Too Early To Tell Her I Want To Marry Her. by TINALETC3(f): 4:05am On Sep 22
Do nt go tru her mum, it's nt her mum u ar getting married 2. Dnt propose yet, 6 months is 2 small 4 courtship to avoid coming bak to create another thread and tell us she is a chameleon. It's a gud tin Dat u ar now getting close to her, b very careful, churchy gals ain't like normal gals. Her pastor is even going to hv a say b4 she wl even accept u, keep being friendly and let her introduce u to her sis, 4rm dere, u go dey enta dem small small. Stop buying her gifts, Al gals ain't same, wen guys gift me, I read sex meaning in2 it, so I personally dnt like it, she 2 mayb like dat. I think she wl prefer ur nice attitude to gifts.

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Re: Please Help, Is It Too Early To Tell Her I Want To Marry Her. by adeniyisamuel59(m): 4:39am On Sep 22
TINALETC3:
Do nt go tru her mum, it's nt her mum u ar getting married 2. Dnt propose yet, 6 months is 2 small 4 courtship to avoid coming bak to create another thread and tell us she is a chameleon. It's a gud tin Dat u ar now getting close to her, b very careful, churchy gals ain't like normal gals. Her pastor is even going to hv a say b4 she wl even accept u, keep being friendly and let her introduce u to her sis, 4rm dere, u go dey enta dem small small. Stop buying her gifts, Al gals ain't same, wen guys gift me, I read sex meaning in2 it, so I personally dnt like it, she 2 mayb like dat. I think she wl prefer ur nice attitude to gifts.
I have been reading your line of advice, they always contain substance of hard fact and ingenuity.
Lest I forget, what a beauty you got there shocked

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