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Re: Is She A Wife Material? by nextstep(m): 7:59pm On Sep 27
You know I wrote a bunch of philosophical stuff, then decided it was all rubbish.

Everybody should be free to look for the qualities they want in a wife.

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Re: Is She A Wife Material? by MrDoGood: 7:59pm On Sep 27
personal59:





Oga y would u copy this post without reference


fear God o fear man!!!

E no shock you?

Op self �

Re: Is She A Wife Material? by Florblu(f): 7:59pm On Sep 27
dfrost:


Babe you ever gave you sense. Go back, kneel down and say “thank you” to the person.


Guy,I do that every day to God

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Re: Is She A Wife Material? by bayocanny: 8:01pm On Sep 27
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Re: Is She A Wife Material? by delishpot: 8:01pm On Sep 27
To know if he is a good provider, test him too. When he makes you sleep in the kitchen, you make him sleep in the toilet or store.

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Re: Is She A Wife Material? by whatmoreng: 8:02pm On Sep 27
I concur
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by mikeycharles(m): 8:02pm On Sep 27
Adaumunocha:
Thank God for Vacuum cleaner, poundo yam, washing machine, dish washer.... Person cannot comman go an die
grin grin
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by GeneralOjukwu: 8:04pm On Sep 27
Call me a misogynist...thank you.

But as the misogynists are plenty here, so will ladies without home training troop here.

Laundry - drycleaner

Cooking- caterer

Housekeeping- housegal

Why not outsource sex to concubines?

Later you would say you are a supportive wife.

Doing what precisely?

Yes I can make things easy by helping out, but I am the SOLE breadwinner, why would you tell me you can't do house chores?

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Re: Is She A Wife Material? by Oyindidi(f): 8:04pm On Sep 27
Adaumunocha:
Thank God for Vacuum cleaner, poundo yam, washing machine, dish washer.... Person cannot comman go an die
I like this your memegrin
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by Dearlord(m): 8:11pm On Sep 27
Kudos to you OP.
Nice ✒ penning of fact.
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by RRWraith(m): 8:13pm On Sep 27
So much ado about nothing
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by Daeylar(f): 8:18pm On Sep 27
Adaumunocha:
Thank God for Vacuum cleaner, poundo yam, washing machine, dish washer.... Person cannot comman go an die

Tell them jor, the person that invented all this to make life easier are they saying that the person doesn't have sense? grin grin grin
Nonsense people

Chaii, according to most Nigerians, if you have not suffered unnecessary, you are not worth their time, your level of suffering is the way to know if you will be respected, it's the way to know if you are humble.
That's why they love and are always deceived by useless sob stories,
That's why their leaders when they want to win elections they will start roasting corn and frying akara and eating garri, so that people will feel that they are suffering and are humble then give then pity votes

Nonsense, I pray most Nigerians will soon have sense

cc oluebubeneo

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Re: Is She A Wife Material? by tivta(m): 8:21pm On Sep 27
All a man wants is for a woman to be humble...

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Re: Is She A Wife Material? by tivta(m): 8:23pm On Sep 27
GeneralOjukwu:
Call me a misogynist...thank you.

But as the misogynists are plenty here, so will ladies without home training troop here.

Laundry - drycleaner

Cooking- caterer

Housekeeping- housegal

Why not outsource sex to concubines?

Later you would say you are a supportive wife.

Doing what precisely?

Yes I can make things easy by helping out, but I am the SOLE breadwinner, why would you tell me you can't do house chores?

My brother, mostnNigerian women are illogical, they want to be spoilt by men while only contributing sex. God I miss the good old days...

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Re: Is She A Wife Material? by Alariwo2: 8:24pm On Sep 27
A time will come when women will be the ones proposing and begging guys for marriage.

Attimes I see reason why some fanatics dislike girl child education. When they have it all, they think less of men, unlike the olden days when they were under men.

Now they are standing side by side, measuring shoulders with men. Some would call their yeye selves feminisits but they still suck dic.k and pleasure one in their bedroom grin
They make all sort of funny sounds under serious pounding but will be quick to discourage other women from adoring men.

women deceiving themselves

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Re: Is She A Wife Material? by GuyInNeed: 8:30pm On Sep 27
oluebubeneo:



Ask them what exactly? It's funny how people are quick to mention Genevieve's name in threads like this. Let me not go into how silly that is. Here's what, when a girl states her requirements in her partner, some people are like"you go wait tire". I know that sometimes the requirements are outrageous but what of those men that set outrageous requirements for their partners like "she must sleep on the floor, she must pound yam by 3:00 am" and so on... Does that even make any sense? Bottom line is, be you and do you. If you go visiting and you don't feel like washing the pile of clothes set for you, don't go out of your way to please them. If being able to wash all the clothes of their family members and kinsmen put together is the requirement for a good wife and peaceful home then that's their cup of tea. Mind you, humility goes beyond doing house chores and all... for crying out loud women know their duties! A career woman can be very humble. It's her choice. What's not cool here is going out of your way to impress.
y e come dey pain u? If u don't like d test, Bleep off. Anoda woman go do am. Ook, but u know women requirement dey outrageous abi? No wonder, wen a man sees u re after money, they sleep with u , gv u d money in bits and dump u. Then we will see a naive, humble girl to marry without outrageous demands. I love d bank example earlier. Nonsense
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by talk2percy(m): 8:31pm On Sep 27
Too long joor...arhg, nah literature class we dey?
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by Chukazu: 8:41pm On Sep 27
the dumbest one is "if she can't cook,she is not a wife material"...undecided
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by ChiefSweetus: 8:46pm On Sep 27
Tasued:
But this is the life of baby girls,
The only stupìd part of an otherwise decent and valid post.
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by genghiskhan007(m): 8:54pm On Sep 27
Wife material ko Slay wax ni
There's nothing like wife material these days OP
All you and I see are desperate slay queens who disguise themselves to get a husband and reveal their true colours afterward
Even the ones in the village are nothing to write home about
The best advice is to pray and wait on God, shikena angry
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by dingbang(m): 8:54pm On Sep 27
Evaberry:
Here to read sexist comments by sexist misogynist men.
seems you have a problem with males while growing up
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by XKZ(m): 8:57pm On Sep 27
I wonder why someone's requirements should bother you.
If his requirements seem unreasonable to you just move on, he's obviously not your type.

If all ladies ignore him and his requirements, eventually he'll be forced to reconsider, but if he comes across someone who meets his requirements then they're probably compatible and would have a happy marriage. And we all love seeing happy marriages.

As an aside, women need to stop waiting for men or bothering about men putting them through ridiculous tests. Just work hard make your own money, then look for a young undergraduate to spoil with your money, you can then test him to see if he's humble and if he passes your test you propose. If he rejects your proposal just move on there are a lot of fishes in the water.

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Re: Is She A Wife Material? by peculiar32(f): 9:00pm On Sep 27
best post I have read on NL
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by tosyne2much(m): 9:12pm On Sep 27
genghiskhan007:

Wife material ko Slay wax ni
There's nothing like wife material these days OP
All you and I see are desperate slay queens who disguise themselves to get a husband and reveal their true colours afterward
Even the ones in the village are nothing to write home about
The best advice is to pray and wait on God, shikena angry
I agree with you.. Majority of ladies out there only disguise, only for them to frustrate your life the moment you marry dem put for house
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by MistadeRegal(m): 9:14pm On Sep 27
Tasued:
The wife material

The other day, there was no water in my hostel, so, I went outside to fetch. Now, I have very fragile bones, I can't be messing with my arms, I decided it would be safer if I put the keg of water on my head(advantage of having a big head, shey?). Well, I found someone and together, we balanced the keg on my head. Some dude saw me and sent me a message afterwards saying: Keji, you're a wife material o. If it were to be other girls, they would be forming.
Me (feigning ignorance): what did Keji do o?
Him: I saw the way you put keg of water on your head nah
Me: In your mind now, you would be thinking you're making sense o. Mtchew...
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Why does our society still justify a good wife qualities by the amount of suffering she passes through?
Ideally, with the level of civilization the world is experiencing, someone in Africa is thinking a woman is a better wife material because she can put keg of water on her head. Is suffering synonymous to being a wife?

A girl says she doesn't like grinding stone, you shame her for it, a girl says she likes using washing machine, you shame her for it. A girl says she doesn't like pounding yam, you shame her for it. You see, with my level of education and all the stress I am passing through in school right now just to be successful in life, if I cannot afford to make like easier for myself, if I cannot afford a blender, a washing machine, a pounding machine, then, I would be a disgrace to myself, to my family, and to my struggle!

I've read stories of how a man 'tested' his fiance by asking her to sleep in kitchen and she obeyed and he was convinced he could marry her... ... An argument was on on social media few weeks ago saying a woman that cannot cook soup with 500 naira is not a good wife material, so, I ask, how many of you men can build a duplex with 10,000 naira? Would you date dangote's daughter and be testing her with Poverty? You see, some ladies know what they want in life, it is not pride, it is not gold digging, it is called standard. Test a rich lady with Poverty and watch her leave you, not everyone can cope with Poverty.

I have heard a pastor say if his son brings a lady home, he will pack all his dirty clothes outside and if the lady doesn't come to wash them, his son will not marry her. In my mind, I was like, daddy, you will marry your son at last, sir. Whose daughter do you want to turn to your slave? Y'all want to be pampered and your egos massaged by ladies but you keep testing someone's daughter with Poverty and ill treatment and expect her to stay with you. You will be alright at last.

Keep judging a good wife with how well she can absorb Poverty and suffering and Poverty and suffering will keep following you, since that is what you want.

Please, a good wife is someone who will love and support you not necessarily someone who can put up with Poverty and stress.
Yes, we know our mothers suffered, used grinding stones, went to the river, pounded yam and all. But this is the life of baby girls, we have the money and sense to make life comfortable for ourselves, stop shaming girls who seek comfort. Except you have the ambition to be poor, you should have no reason compulsorily searching for a lady who can cook soup with 500 naira.

What kinda soup do you want to cook with N500 today?
It must be ordinary okro mixture lacking palm oil and pepper. Because even only 1 Titus self is over N400....
Just wondering....N500 soup....
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by Mznaett(f): 9:19pm On Sep 27
Alariwo2:
A time will come when women will be the ones proposing and begging guys for marriage.

Attimes I see reason why some fanatics dislike girl child education. When they have it all, they think less of men, unlike the olden days when they were under men.


Now they are standing side by side, measuring shoulders with men. Some would call their yeye selves feminisits but they still suck dic.k and pleasure one in their bedroom grin
They make all sort of funny sounds under serious pounding but will be quick to discourage other women from adoring men.

women deceiving themselves

Imagine you undecided

Instead of you to look for something good to do with your life, you're waiting for one woman that you'll boss around. Unam ikot ke Afo de sad

I pray God should not let any of my sisters to come across someone like you...

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Re: Is She A Wife Material? by Nobody: 9:26pm On Sep 27
I never wash my cloth finish na another man cloth i go wash.

If my man cant wash his cloth, he should better stay him mama house

Marriage is not a do or die affair

I cant come and suffer in a man's house all in the name of MARRIAGE!!!

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Re: Is She A Wife Material? by efficiencie(m): 9:46pm On Sep 27
kids...and the way they think! machines are great but if you keep seeking machines to do those little things in the house...yu might just come home one day and find your husband in bed with a MACHINE!

Mrs wife, yu are a helper...if yur husband has no need that yu can address, yu are no different from his mistresses! He'll treat yu all the same way.

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Re: Is She A Wife Material? by oluebubeneo(f): 10:00pm On Sep 27
GuyInNeed:
y e come dey pain u? If u don't like d test, Bleep off. Anoda woman go do am. Ook, but u know women requirement dey outrageous abi? No wonder, wen a man sees u re after money, they sleep with u , gv u d money in bits and dump u. Then we will see a naive, humble girl to marry without outrageous demands. I love d bank example earlier. Nonsense

Which way Naija? Looking for a naive girl to get married to... well whatever rocks your boat. But I know there are women who work hard, pay bills, rule empires and still have Supportive Husbands... It takes a MAN to keep a Smart woman,an ACHIEVER as a wife, as HIS WOMAN. I respect those MEN. THEY command the respect of QUEENS, They have a high self esteem... they are not intimidated by her success, THEY ARE PROUD OF HER AND MOTIVATE HER.. and still command her respect.
But like they say, 'shoe get size '.

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Re: Is She A Wife Material? by akeensbussy(m): 10:01pm On Sep 27
majekdom2:
you seem not to understand where the guy is coming from. why you may have called fetching water and putting it on your head suffering, in the broader thought it means you are ready to be responsible for yourself how ever little. some other persons might have resorted to paying someone for that service... well yea, they taking responsibility indirectly but as a student is that necessary? some will wait for their boyfriends to come before they get water and so many scenarios. point is what you did is not too big for a human to do but many will not. Like you mentioned the society, yes, in the Nigerian society you only find a few ladies that are ready to take responsibility and charge of their lives.... responsibilities and charge includes loving and supporting a man as you mentioned. I would think that is where the guy is coming from and not necessarily suffering in poverty. dump any silly guy that gives you 1k to cook soup, dump any silly guy that gives you clothes to wash, dump any silly guy that asks you to clean up his house, dump any silly guy that says he is testing how you can cope in penury!

I bet to disagree with you on the issue of 1k to cook soup...1k can actually cook a very good and rich soap.

It depends on the environment you are someone leaving in Kano can cook soup comfortably with 1k while the one leaving in Lagos will not.

The type of Soup you want to cook..determine how much u budget. if i want to cook a soup that u will finish instantly and for just 2 or 3 people. How much will i spend...I guess u can still buy 200 naria or 300 naria meet or fish in market.
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by Alariwo2: 10:37pm On Sep 27
Mznaett:


Imagine you undecided

Instead of you to look for something good to do with your life, you're waiting for one woman that you'll boss around. Unam ikot ke Afo de sad

I pray God should not let any of my sisters to come across someone like you...

you wish your sisters evil then cos you don't know me..

Maybe you should stop being too emotional and work on your sense of humor. You'll be fine.
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by clems88(m): 10:50pm On Sep 27
personal59:


yes beautiful write

but the op steal am ni

yes beautiful write

but the op steal am ni










http://www.nairaland.com/4072818/wife-material
stealing is allowed after all its not corruption grin

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