i started dating my boyfriend when i was at the end of my divorce he to was going through a divorve. we no live together, because he is a pastor i put all of my trust and faith into what he was saying. he would tell me the lawyer didnt show up or his paper work got lost. his divorce is suposed to be final in a matter of days. i have children in which he knows my children very well they love him to like a father. he has children but i have yet to meet them. i hear all kinds of excuses as to why he hasnt brot them around. he has put me through so much drama concerning that issue that it has litrally consumed all of my thots.i feel like its so unfair that he has been around my kids for years and he has never brot his around me. i really belive that he is trying to make himself look like the perfect guy in his families eyes because he is a pastor and soon will be opining up a church, he doesnt want to be judge on the fact that we are living in sin. im upset because he knows my hole family and i only know 2 people in his. i feel like he has totally taking advantage of me with this whole situation. he led me to believe for years that he was getting a divorce but he really wasnt up until recent. he says he loves me but how can you love sombody and treat them so bad. he sees the hurt in my eyes but yet he continues to hurt me. i know i was wrong for starting a relationship with this man however my love for him allows me to be patient and wait on the day he gets himself together. he makes me feel bad we have our good times but at the same time ive never felt so much pain. im hurting so deep inside and i dont know how to let this go. i have lost my self esteem and even worse i have lost my faith. pastors are supposed to encourage people not discourage them. when we met i was really down he picked my spirits up and made me feel good again. we were friends first and that alone was so important to me. i considered him my best friend something i never had in a relationship. i am deeply hurt by this i wana let go but my love for him wont allow me to. any advice would ge greatly appreciated.

Rule number one, never date someone who will not acknowledge you in public. Even pastors like illicit se x on the side. Why let yourself be used this way?

we go places and do things were out all of the time. he juswt wont let his kids come around me and my kids. then when the subject is brot up he calls me nag and says im harrasing him.

Fake love. RUN.

[size=13pt]Wat sorta pastor shaggs outside matrimony. . .and he is not straight with you on his divorce proceedings,
if i were u i'd do some real soul-searching and wake up to wat is real[/size]

Girl this man used the oldest trick in the cheating manual. He is definitely not getting a divorce. I say get out while your best years are still ahead.

real pastors dont divorce, true pastors dont keep relationships outside marriage. even if he does, 1 day he'll divorce u too. think

pappy4real:

real pastors dont divorce, true pastors dont keep relationships outside marriage. even if he does, 1 day he'll divorce u too. think

voila

This man is certainly fake. From all the information you have given about him; he has nothing to offer you. You may begin to pick your pieces and start a new.

He is not processing any divorce and he is not willing to do so in the near future or ever. Please wakeup to reality.

Why don't some women get this?

A man ain't gonna leave the 80% his wife has to offer for the 20% your offering him?


Only 1 out of 10 men do that. . .and that's the extremely foolish ones!


You'll be really silly to think he's gonna leave his wife for you! Your gullible and he's gonna keep feasting on that!


Pick up yourself and move on to better things!

Besides the poster being a willing party in the pastor's adulterous living,I can't see exactly what the girl is mad at him for?
@ the poster see my thread on how to know the naija man is not ready for marriage

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-399352.0.html#msg5526029

Gosh still women just dont get it. Come on now poster this is the oldest trick in the book!! Pick up your pieces, stop confusing yourself and the kids and move on!