nosiebaba:

2) it doesn't sound well not to accomodate your wife's brother if truly you have nothing to hide and your living alone.

joa2013:

I held this opinion too but Sam told me the guy was not posted to Abuja originally, he said the redeployment was done so as to help monitor him and he wanted to cut himself off from her mother in law as much as possible.
To me, Sam seems to be doing everything to protest the actions of his mother in law, including an attempt to even divorce his wife which I see as not tidy.

prestigiouslady:
The lady should be the one to choose, if her husband is trying enough or she wants to be a baby and cry every time he can't take up her family responsibility....that's synonymous to emotional blackmail to the husband.

She should look for a job that pays the bill for her family....let's see if she won't get tired in a year....let her get a job or the husband should set her up in a business under strict warning that the business isn't for charity.
No one should be under compulsion to cater for every of his in-laws financial needs....he can only assist.
If he meets all his own family requests too, meet that of the in-laws family and still settles his own nuclear home, it won't be easy on him.

The wife is already losing her husband the moment the husband had to get a transfer and she wasn't moved by it.
The husband is the one wearing the shoes, and he knows it hurts...his primary responsibility is his wife and child which he is settling well.

joa2013:
Thanks so much for this comment. Samuel actually fell for this emotional blackmail till 2016 when he started reacting, may be as a result of the present harsh economic realities.
Samuel is an engineer with one of the departments under the federal ministry of petroleum resources. He's a bit well paid and think this is the reason why his wife is not too eager to be engaged in what she termed "unreasonable" job offer according to Sam. He told me that Dorcas once turned down a 70k per month Ikeja job, they live at Akowonjo which I consider as not too far.

lovelygurl:
How old is the wife or is she just blessed with an unhealthy amount of stupidity?

lovelygurl:
How old is the wife or is she just blessed with an unhealthy amount of stupidity?Loooooooolllll

newyorks:
yu don't want me to believe that he can't summon the mother in-law to talk some sense into her.

to me let him minimize the allocation he gives her simple,

this is a case because yu ain't rich,if not there's nothing they will demand that will ever shake yu. pray for more money bro dn't complain.

Papiikush:
This is what happens when you get married to a broke girl from a broke family.

You will forever be a source of income to her and her family

dankol:
firstly, I commend his patience for two years of emotional blackmail. I can't withstand two months old sef. for me, he has a long fight to fight and stand his ground. marriage is over hyped. yes.. look around you.. you will see it glaring at you that.. having a working marriage now is as good as saying... everton will win premier league... lol... I agree with his decisions 100% so far. but I feel he has been too doctile for the MIL.. I would have faced her myself and give her a piece of my mind..

dankol:
firstly, I commend his patience for two years of emotional blackmail. I can't withstand two months old sef. for me, he has a long fight to fight and stand his ground. marriage is over hyped. yes.. look around you.. you will see it glaring at you that.. having a working marriage now is as good as saying... everton will win premier league... lol... I agree with his decisions 100% so far. but I feel he has been too doctile for the MIL.. I would have faced her myself and give her a piece of my mind..

futurism:
One of the hardest lessons I ever learned in life is please people and displease myself. I will never trade my peace of mind for anything.

Mutuwa:


Sorry it was hard for you to learn..but anyways congrats it's now a thing of the past.I can only please;
1.My Creator
2.My parents
Anyone not captured here is a mere subject of consideration.

futurism:
you miss the point... I don't please anyone who are a discomfort to my peace of mind, be it mother or brother. I no send

Mutuwa:


O boy...your own pass Wetin I de think..Mother..? Nooo this must be seriously serious.
Brother to hell with that one abeg..but mama..nooo bros think am again..

She is one person that would have left you dead if desired while you were nothing.The only female with genuine and true love for you.Only person that forgets herself when praying for you..
Look am well o...

Adaumunocha:
Dorcas mumsy is wicked... After enjoying her own marriage, she wants to deprive her daughter of a happy home?

Some parents should allow their children enjoy marital bliss without causing unnecessary friction.

futurism:


I love my mother and she knows it. I had a mother many people wished they had. But if my mother should act as the case of the story shared here, then by all means, I will let her know there is a limit to everything.

I leant not to be emotional over critical issues. I even told my own brother few weeks ago that my money will not touch his child's hand again since he is abusing the privilege and I stuck to my words ever since. Do I hate the child? No. Do I hate my brother? No. But when it comes to issues like this, I choose logic and pragmatism over emotions.

ednut1:
am 90% certian Dorcas papa is late. Dem go don use wahala kill d man