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Re: Is It Right For A Wife And Mother To Work? by cococandy(f): 4:08pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
Let's see how that works out for you when you're married. Acidosis: |
Re: Is It Right For A Wife And Mother To Work? by Acidosis(m): 5:08pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
cococandy: hmnnn |
Re: Is It Right For A Wife And Mother To Work? by Nobody: 5:16pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
cococandy: I sent you a pm cococandy |
Re: Is It Right For A Wife And Mother To Work? by ImaIma1(f): 5:54pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
Acidosis: You should realize that a woman is also a human being with dreams and aspirations. Her aim in life might not be to just get married and have children. She will want more from life than that. And no man has a right to limit her or cripple her dreams. 3 Likes |
Re: Is It Right For A Wife And Mother To Work? by Nobody: 6:08pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
Acidosis: i Pirry ur wife. she is basically going to be a mindless docile submissive slave at your mercy 5 Likes |
Re: Is It Right For A Wife And Mother To Work? by Acidosis(m): 6:23pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
ImaIma1: Some dreams can be detrimental to the collective wellbeing of the home. For instance, her dream will not be to play the role of a Secretary to a randy and shameless boss. Her dreams wouldn't be to act as a video vixen to some celebrities, etc. |
Re: Is It Right For A Wife And Mother To Work? by Acidosis(m): 6:29pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
Proudgorgeousga: sharrap joor! pirry yourself 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right For A Wife And Mother To Work? by ImaIma1(f): 6:45pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
Acidosis: If he married her as a video vixen or the likes, he should not expect much. I am talking about a responsible career. Men also work for randy female bosses. That does not mean he would stop working. I can work with all kinds of people. If the man likes, let him be randy but he should be randy away from me. 5 Likes |
Re: Is It Right For A Wife And Mother To Work? by Acidosis(m): 6:48pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
ImaIma1: Do you agree that a man is the head of the home? |
Re: Is It Right For A Wife And Mother To Work? by Ishilove: 7:15pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
Acidosis:You are on a LONG tin |
Re: Is It Right For A Wife And Mother To Work? by Acidosis(m): 7:30pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
Ishilove:So you won't accept the words of the head? |
Re: Is It Right For A Wife And Mother To Work? by byvan03: 7:30pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
bukatyne: Lol @ making a career out of telling a woman out of telling a woman not to have a career. Sacrifices have to be made, the type that might narrow down your ambitions. Letting all go for family isn't good enough, just trim off some bits and continue juggling the balls you can . The so called balance no be come chop, sometimes you will be at your wits end but something must give , those comfortable with domestic servants can easily balance it. Family is good dear, how are you and yours? |
Re: Is It Right For A Wife And Mother To Work? by ImaIma1(f): 8:09pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
Acidosis: I do |
Re: Is It Right For A Wife And Mother To Work? by Acidosis(m): 8:28pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
ImaIma1: Hmn, okay.. Since you've agreed that the man is the head of the home, I think it is just normal to trust and accept his views on matters relating to your wellbeing and the overall health of the home, especially when you claim to love him. Not many husbands today will comfortably advise their wives against a paid job on the grounds that the children or the family as a whole needs her care and attention. When you find one that advises that, grab him by the waist, hold him, stay glued to him, tightly dear, and never let him go. |
Re: Is It Right For A Wife And Mother To Work? by Nobody: 8:36pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
Acidosis: He better be rich like dangote |
Re: Is It Right For A Wife And Mother To Work? by 1nigeriamyfoot: 8:59pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
fatymore:I love this piece |
Re: Is It Right For A Wife And Mother To Work? by cococandy(f): 9:23pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
loveymom:Hi. Sorry I can't access my email . What's it about? You don't have to go into details |
Re: Is It Right For A Wife And Mother To Work? by ImaIma1(f): 11:42pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
Acidosis: I understand your point. However, the man is not there to lord over her and make her forgo her ambitions because of the care of the children and house. A compromise should be reached or else he will end up with a bitter or depressed wife later. That is why a woman should be careful about who becomes her husband. Because as a head/leader, he can kill her ambitions and make her hepless and totally dependent on him. I am not a feminist but i believe women should also pursue their dreams. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right For A Wife And Mother To Work? by Nobody: 9:20am On Oct 12, 2017 |
Acidosis: I don't know why but I find this reason highly one sided, if the wife wants to explorer a career driven life and raise a family then its up to the couples to decide how's it's done, you make it seem like its solely the wife's done to take care of the kids all the time, Nigeria is tough as it is, one source of income is barely enough which is why couples work hard to make ends meet, I support cococandys view this is Nigeria not America, and I see nothing wrong with a woman working to also get things that she wants, also I saw another comment that the best job for a woman is a teacher , its beginning to feel like as a woman when you marry your career doesn't matter anymore what matters is the family. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is It Right For A Wife And Mother To Work? by Nobody: 9:29am On Oct 12, 2017 |
ImaIma1: Exactly this bold part , I was of the opinion husband's would be proud to have a wife that is pursuing her ambitions and excelling I guess my family is different , what if the husband dies what happens to the woman and the kids ? Really a woman has to be careful of the type of husband she marries. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right For A Wife And Mother To Work? by Nobody: 4:26pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
cococandy: It has been sorted out, I wanted to get information on relocating to the USA. |
Re: Is It Right For A Wife And Mother To Work? by cococandy(f): 8:49pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
loveymom:Okay dear |
Re: Is It Right For A Wife And Mother To Work? by IreneJ: 8:55pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
If the husband is rich, its normal for the wife to stay at home, take care of the kids till they are grown then she can pursue her career. The truth is, if my husband is rich, I wouldn't want to work till I finish birthing my kids. I will want to give them all my attention till they are grown then I can have a career. A career woman cannot have a successful home! It is the job of a wife to take care of her home full time. Its a sacrifice you have to make for your children, because when they go astray trust me, your money won't bring them back to normal! I am talking from experience i had always wish my parent were always around. However in a situation where the man is not rich, the woman should do business. When she is into business she will have time for her family. |
Re: Is It Right For A Wife And Mother To Work? by Joy1706(f): 3:21pm On Oct 13, 2017 |
fatymore:Women like you are breaking grounds in different professions - medicine, law, engineering, politics. You're here limiting yourself to teaching (not looking down on teachers o). Can every woman in the world be a teacher? 3 Likes |
Re: Is It Right For A Wife And Mother To Work? by Joy1706(f): 3:27pm On Oct 13, 2017 |
Acidosis:So a woman becomes a mindless robotic mumu that can't think or.decide for herself again just cos she's married. Good luck with that. Just marry an ambitionless mumu and everything would be just peachy 4 Likes |
Re: Is It Right For A Wife And Mother To Work? by Joy1706(f): 3:28pm On Oct 13, 2017 |
ImaIma1:Why did you feel the need to state that you're not a feminist? 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Right For A Wife And Mother To Work? by Joy1706(f): 3:32pm On Oct 13, 2017 |
IreneJ:A career woman cannot have a successful home? Big lie from the pit of hell. My mum did it and all 4 of her children turned out great. Just marry a man who supports you all round. 3 Likes |
Re: Is It Right For A Wife And Mother To Work? by ImaIma1(f): 7:10pm On Oct 13, 2017 |
Joy1706: Because i am not |
Re: Is It Right For A Wife And Mother To Work? by Nobody: 8:46pm On Oct 13, 2017 |
double post. |
Re: Is It Right For A Wife And Mother To Work? by Nobody: 8:46pm On Oct 13, 2017 |
ImaIma1: But why the need to emphasize you are not one to reply his comment.? I'm curious 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right For A Wife And Mother To Work? by ImaIma1(f): 6:00am On Oct 14, 2017 |
Proudgorgeousga: It was not a need. I was making a point. If i were a feminist, i would have said "i am a feminist and i think women should pursue their dreams" Why does this matter to you? |
Re: Is It Right For A Wife And Mother To Work? by fatymore(f): 8:32am On Oct 14, 2017 |
Joy1706:dont you get...I don't know why people don't comprehend before replying.. Mind you I am not in the teaching field.. I only said teaching job is good for a woman who wishes to take care and have time for her kids..Choose whatever profession you wish to and have all the money you can but if your kids ain't getting your attention..you have greater things to brood on than been successful |
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