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Re: My Wife Betrayed My Trust On Her. Help!!!! by oshorstan(m): 6:42am On Nov 15, 2017 |
akpunda86: I have read all you said, Sir What is the problem with your wife telling her family ur secrets? haven't u dated b4? U need orientation about women n how to manage them.. I see u have feelings for ur BAby Mama.. I put it to u, else u won't thrraten threaten your wife that u would bring her back. As 4 d miscarriages, u need to be there for her, cos its not her fault, she wants to impress u n u r messing up big time . pls go n settle with her. I put it to u DAT it is d stress u putting her that's making her miscarry her baby. My advise: Stop hurting her n ur self with confrontation , words. U can discuss with her to let ur daughter visit u once a month. pls pray for ur wife n make peace else your prayers , all of it will be hindered . Omigie Oshor 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Betrayed My Trust On Her. Help!!!! by francizy(m): 6:52am On Nov 15, 2017 |
KreativGenius: Nigerians and their archaic beliefs sha.. Spirit husband kor, Demon husband ni! 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Betrayed My Trust On Her. Help!!!! by Chukabiz1961(m): 6:52am On Nov 15, 2017 |
With what i am reading right now, if truly it is real, you are a sadist. You can't stay with your former girl friend either. Marriage is not about fault finding. It is about agape love. No one is perfect including you. 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Betrayed My Trust On Her. Help!!!! by anonimi: 7:09am On Nov 15, 2017 |
francizy: Don't mind us o jare. Many of us are living in the 21st century with modern gadgets, smartphones, internet etc but our minds still belong to the Dark Ages! www.nairaland.com/attachments/4160987_image_jpeg_jpeg6f95b5e7a24ad4fc0808d6698fd37362 www.nairaland.com/attachments/4138528_fbimg1471362711749_jpeg32428b294a57b4debde63e3fd7301227 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Betrayed My Trust On Her. Help!!!! by drnoel: 7:23am On Nov 15, 2017 |
Billyonaire: Very well said 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Betrayed My Trust On Her. Help!!!! by pstnicodemus(m): 7:24am On Nov 15, 2017 |
akpunda86:You did the right thing seeking advice, that's obviously cos you want to do the right thing and you still feel something for you wife, no matter how little. Miscarriages are caused by certain factors, could be physical, psychological, or even spiritual. No marriage in the world is free from challenges, i can tell from my personal experience but it's better having other marital issues than having issues with your wife cos no matter the issue, you and wifey can overcome if you are united. I think that's the part you need to work on, improve on the friendship with your wife and communication is extremely important. Prayer is the key, but you both have work to do. Have a heart to heart talk with her, if she's ready to continue, you both can pull through. The trauma of loosing a child is bad for a man, but trust me it's worse for the woman. Finally, love isn't enough to sustain marriage when it matters the most. Little things like playing together, making her laugh at least ten times daily, helping her out with chores, praying together, sure it will change. And may God himself strengthen you both. Cheers. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Betrayed My Trust On Her. Help!!!! by cooltola(m): 7:24am On Nov 15, 2017 |
For starters, anything personal between you and your wife should not be on social media, social media is the wrongest place to dish your personal information. Everyone will give a different answers that will suit or may not suit you and that is when confusion starts. Why not take your situation to reasonable ,respected married couples/elders/ mentors that you know and they can give you a reasonable advice. Do not make decision in a rash, if you do , you may look back and have regrets and be prayerful if you are a Christian. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Betrayed My Trust On Her. Help!!!! by Nobody: 7:30am On Nov 15, 2017 |
akpunda86: Eyah. I think ur wife is under stress & is depressed. U never know how anyone will act under pressure. Trust me, miscarriage is a lot of pressure. And having it back to back is just brutal. Shes losing her mind. Its not easy. And maybe through all this ur support for her is waning, or you dont tell her u love her anymore. Or u are not interested in helping her get a solution to her problem. Shes now insecure. It doesnt help dt uve had a child before wt another woman and then LEFT. She thinks ull leave her. Shes now projecting all her thoughts on u and acting out what she thinks u want (send her away), even before u say it. Im telling u all u need to do is show her some affection, assure her of ur love for her & dt ull get through d challenges together & she will change. It will be like magic. Happy wife Happy life. Ps - she needs to go to a proper hospital dt deals with fertility problems. Theyll put her on aspirin and possibly do a circlage (not sure of d word) to prevent her miscarriages. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Betrayed My Trust On Her. Help!!!! by PrimadonnaO(f): 7:32am On Nov 15, 2017 |
RETIREDMUMU: Marriage isn't like that. You don't walk in and walk out because one or two things you don't like are happening in your marriage....you don't walk out because your ego got bruised. He made the choice to marry her...he's got to look for a way to fix the marriage and remain there. If he was fortunate to see all these traits during courtship, he could have opted out. But not now. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Betrayed My Trust On Her. Help!!!! by PrimadonnaO(f): 7:34am On Nov 15, 2017 |
Billyonaire: God bless you. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Betrayed My Trust On Her. Help!!!! by Psoul(m): 7:34am On Nov 15, 2017 |
akpunda86: My brother listen to me. You see, every marriage has it's own problem. There will always be this point in marriage it seems u have hit a blind point, a point u think it is the end of the marriage. This is a point God want your marriage to be stronger and that will be the point God will be willing to make you excel in that relationship. Also, this is a point devil want to destroy you cos he has seen the light God want to shine in your marriage. I am telling you this out of my own experience. I once had an issue like this with my wife and I was ready to divorce her. I went to her ppl told them i am no longer marrying. I told my ppl d same. They were all begging me and i was not ready to listen cos i belivd i was right and was only seeing the pains she caused me. For all the years we are married, we never had another party interfering wt our problems but this particular one i was just ready to let everyone come in. But as God would have it, His Spirit entered me and I mellowed down and the issue was resolved. Now, we are stronger and making wonderful achievements, babies coming at will. Imagine what devil wanted to deny us. My dear, u may be hurt, yes you are but remember your wife may be feeling hurt or a kind of pain in the other hand. Yes, to you her pain may be unjustified or irrelevant, but the fact is that she is pained by something no matter how u view what is making her angry. Every pain needs to be addressed. You are the man of the house. One expected to be more matured. Now is the time to test if you are really matured to handle family issues. Bear your pains and try to heal hers first and I bet u, she will forever respect you. Don't listen to anyone telling you dat "If say na me ehnn, I will not take it ooo." Let that person wait when it will be him/her. For the serial miscarriage, don't blame her for that. No woman will intentionally miscarry her baby. U failed in handling that issue maturely. How can u tell ur wife u are tired of hearing the stories of her miscarriage. Do you think that u feel more pains than her. U think because u have a baby out there which u can go and pick up, u think u are better off. Have u guys sort for good medical attention for the cause of her miscarriage. What if your sperm is not compatible with her egg? Guy, abeg go back to that beautiful woman and groom her to be what you want her to be. Anyone feeling that he/she will be better off wen a family problems come up is like any community thinking that they have more weapons and young men and was calling for war. Wen it starts, u will have things to lose likewise the other. Thanks. 6 Likes |
Re: My Wife Betrayed My Trust On Her. Help!!!! by 99foxxy(f): 7:38am On Nov 15, 2017 |
Serious. |
Re: My Wife Betrayed My Trust On Her. Help!!!! by curvilicious: 7:48am On Nov 15, 2017 |
Op, what makes you think your ex gf or another woman wont be worse than your wife? Moreso, telling her you'll bring in ur ex is a terrible thing to say to a woman who has carried 10pregnancies nd only succesfully bring forth 1child for only you. As regards your e matter its obvious you are a trouble maker bringing in to shame your wife. 9miscarriages can make any sane woman a nag nd an insane woman. As regards ur child outside wedlock I'm trying really hard to know why you are keeping the child a secret. Is anything wrong with the child? 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Betrayed My Trust On Her. Help!!!! by PrimadonnaO(f): 7:52am On Nov 15, 2017 |
KreativGenius: The man is freaking annoying! So she told her family about his other kid? So, what? For how long did he expect to hide it? And I'm pretty sure he pushed her to the wall. Now, he's ranting that she'll see more kids out of wedlock. What a man! 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife Betrayed My Trust On Her. Help!!!! by Nobody: 8:16am On Nov 15, 2017 |
ariklawani:crazy world we leave in |
Re: My Wife Betrayed My Trust On Her. Help!!!! by masks(m): 8:20am On Nov 15, 2017 |
Oma307:agreed |
Re: My Wife Betrayed My Trust On Her. Help!!!! by Bigsteveg(m): 8:37am On Nov 15, 2017 |
akpunda86:Why on earth will you be hiding your daughter existence. Who does that? You should be proud of your daughter and be ready to show her any day any time. What is your problem set? Be a man and be in charge of your home. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Betrayed My Trust On Her. Help!!!! by Dessydemmy: 8:46am On Nov 15, 2017 |
I find it difficlut to believe you are faithful to your wife. It won't surprise me if you are seeing your ex and you guys are still having intimacy. Good for you now, you have a child and a wife to run back to, but this lady has non aside her family and now you are complainning about her telling her family. Uncle, I think you marry this your wife because of something best known to you and now that she is having miscarriage you want to laeve her? is it her fault? only God know the cause of her miscarriage self. Leave her if you want to leave her abegi, you kunkun don waste 5years of her life. Let her go and she will marry someone that will love and and go back to your baba mama. akpunda86: 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Betrayed My Trust On Her. Help!!!! by akpunda86: 8:49am On Nov 15, 2017 |
Ladies please im sorry, yeah i bleeped up,i posted this post when i was angry ,yeah she has apologised but the nagging continues,Please i never hide from my wife that i have a kid out of wed lock please,i Told her and the mother before i proposed,im not ashamed either that i have a baby out of wedlock,but she uses it against me with the family,that is my problem,every small wahala, she don dey call the sisters,my people,interfereance is good in marriage but not in domestic affairs.what made me mad was that my little daugther called me and we were speaking on phone,she flamed and called the sister,next she said was that its not only one kid i have outside marriage. Sisters,Brothers,i have erred yes by not seeing my daughter for five years,we speak every day, i send money regularly but there is a but there,thou ill be with her this xmas. FOR THE LADIES THAT ARE OFFENDED IM SORRY,FOR THE MEN IM SORRY BUT /?? a problem between hubby and wife can be settled bw them and not by third parties,thats my prob but she now promised no more third parties.let me hope so. |
Re: My Wife Betrayed My Trust On Her. Help!!!! by nefertitiram: 8:51am On Nov 15, 2017 |
akpunda86: You are just angry. No be today. When the vex simmer down, you will grab her ass and give her another belle Its called make up sex. . Why should a kid outside wedlock be a secret? Now you want her out of your life? Both of you have anger issues. You need to settle down and talk about it. As a matured man, you need to ask her why she is so angry, let her open up and rant until she runs out of steam, hear her out, then hold her and tell her you are sorry and make her melt into ur arms, then u can tell her what is also pissing u off. She will also apologise, and you guys will screw till daybreak and come out looking like puppies. Then the whole world will be your enemies, it will be 2 of you against the world. You are a man, you should have your wife's mumu button. If you don't have it, you are a learner. I.can bet your wife doesn't nag more than I do. I'm a pro expert at nagging, but somehow my oga has my mumu remote control and all he has to do is press 'mute'. This is almost a decade of marriage speaking. Everyday, its one step at a time 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Betrayed My Trust On Her. Help!!!! by eroticboy: 8:52am On Nov 15, 2017 |
Oyindidi:Haba did the guy offend you? This is so very rude. Are you the one to correct him? and is this how they correct people in your family? This is his family and his own home, his issues are with his wife, family and inlaws and not with you is it your problem? why are you taking it personal? Are you sure you are ok? If you dont have anything constructive or reasonable to tell him, then you should just shut up, read the thread and continue with whatever problem is disturbing you |
Re: My Wife Betrayed My Trust On Her. Help!!!! by nefertitiram: 8:53am On Nov 15, 2017 |
akpunda86: Read my recommendations above. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Betrayed My Trust On Her. Help!!!! by akpunda86: 8:53am On Nov 15, 2017 |
@dessydemmy you are funny my ex noting between us ok,have not seen her for years ,thou she calls ok , for my wife please note and dont misquote me,true we had some miscarriages,but we are blessed also with a sweet baby girl,when you type and talk,reason maturedly if what i am passing thru is nice,MAY IT BE YOUR PORTION TOO WHEN YOU SETTLE DOWN. |
Re: My Wife Betrayed My Trust On Her. Help!!!! by vic224real(f): 8:55am On Nov 15, 2017 |
akpunda86: Mr man, just listen to yourself speaking... 1. "My marriage to her was a mistake" 2. "For five years i have not seen my daughter but now, I will. If my wife wants to go, she is free to go" What the hell is wrong with some people for Christ sake? How can you leave with a woman you claimed your marriage to her was a mistake for good five years? Anyways, based on your headline and your last sentence you've made up your my mind on what to do already, so why dragging space with meaningful headlines/topics on nairaland? 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Betrayed My Trust On Her. Help!!!! by Roseey0(f): 9:11am On Nov 15, 2017 |
See op that is not looking for 3rd party But he ran to Nairaland Involving 50parties while his wife only involved 3rd party.lol Oga U are as guilty as your wife You both should sit down n handle your problem Stop being mean and using hurtful words If you are tired Separate for a while 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Betrayed My Trust On Her. Help!!!! by Oyindidi(f): 9:11am On Nov 15, 2017 |
eroticboy:Do you know what it takes to experience miscarriage and be strong? I had one and I cried and mourned for months. Here is a woman that went through it 9 times and her silly husband was bold to tell her he's done with her stories. I am speaking as a woman who knows what it takes to suffer miscarriage. To crown it all, he has a child. Those words were harsh but I said that cos he is insensitive 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Betrayed My Trust On Her. Help!!!! by omoharry(f): 9:17am On Nov 15, 2017 |
dominique:Best comment ever. well written. |
Re: My Wife Betrayed My Trust On Her. Help!!!! by Dessydemmy: 9:23am On Nov 15, 2017 |
SO FUNNY THE WAY YOU TALK. Now I know your level of thinking, wishing someone what you are passing through. CASE CLOSE ON YOUR CASE. YOU NEED HELP URGENTLY. akpunda86: 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Betrayed My Trust On Her. Help!!!! by omoharry(f): 9:33am On Nov 15, 2017 |
Marshalxv:hahahaha!oga you be lawyer? 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Betrayed My Trust On Her. Help!!!! by adriftonmemories(m): 9:35am On Nov 15, 2017 |
akpunda86: Sorry bro, NL can be like that sometimes 1 Like 1 Share
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Re: My Wife Betrayed My Trust On Her. Help!!!! by Marshalxv(m): 9:36am On Nov 15, 2017 |
omoharry: About to become . 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Betrayed My Trust On Her. Help!!!! by ozidy1: 9:54am On Nov 15, 2017 |
akpunda86: Get lost, u think u can come here and talk rubbish about me shai, stupid man that goes around sleeping with anything on skirt. Why did u not tell na iraland people that apart from ur previous child had, u had another after our marriage but all u do is to eat the child in my womb. Bring it on, I'm ready for u. U will meet me at home 2 Likes |
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