I met this girl on campus early this year when she came 2 enquire abt a course. We exchange nos and we became very intimate within a very short time. I fell in love with her  and we started a solid relationship. Recently she told me dat she is a virgin and wants me 2 despoil her 'cos she can no longer hold her self and dat she used to get arouse whenever we are talking at night on phone. I love this girl 'cos she is a wife material and she is a dream come true of every seriously minded guy. Also when it comes 2 d issue of Bleep i am not a saint but i am just thinking of giving her time because i truly love her. Kindly advice me on this, I love her and I dont want to loose her.

Anyhow you feel is ok, but just be cool with her.

Can you wait? Maybe you should not despoil her until she is married. I believe that a chaste woman make good wives. Just wait and if you truly love her, then you should be able to wait.

^^^ shocking!

FL Gators:

^^^ shocking!

I am not all that bad my dear.

He should cherish her chastity. I respect women who are chaste. Even though it is painful for us men when a woman we like is chaste and would love to have her, but we respect them more.

i am not in haste 2 hav intimacy wt her but she wants 2 have it wt me.

THE AMAKA:

what do you mean by despoil her? why would any woman want you to despoil her? you mean deflower her or something?
that sounds a whole lot better cause the title threw me off

Lol

DESPOIL ACCORDING TO NL IS R@PE. How would any sane girl want that?

follow ur mind

My dear do you know the meaning of "despoil" on nairaland?

THE AMAKA:

what do you mean by despoil her? why would any woman want you to despoil her? you mean deflower her or something?
that sounds a whole lot better cause the title threw me off

Ebonyeyes:

DESPOIL ACCORDING TO NL IS R@PE. How would any sane girl want that?

my thoughts exactly, why will a girl want to get despoiled, i dont get it , or maybe this another NL censoring, just wonder what the word is

EzeUche:

I am not all that bad my dear. 

He should cherish her chastity. I respect women who are chaste. Even though it is painful for us men when a woman we like is chaste and would love to have her, but we respect them more.

I already know that b4 you told me. You just try to play bad

rotfl @ painful lol

Despoil?

what will change if you do it? how will you hitting that make things change you did say you loved her and she is wifey material so what will change?
oh yeah if you dont do it someone else will now that she cant wait anymore.

As a matter of fact i will do it

guys dont usually post this kind of thread, let a chick tell me she cant wait and i'll nail her to the wall

The problem here is not from the poster but from the girl, you guys know how some girls are especially when they want to go bad. It's almost impossible to stop them when they reach this stage. So OP, it's a tough decision.

my candid advice is that u give her want she want else someother person may do it and u will loss the girl forever.

Let me telll from experience, I think she is tired of been a virgin and want 2 explore her sexuality just like her friends.

So if u are willing to take the risk of losing her very soon, then just keep buying time , and the 1st sign that she has done with someother person will be 2 avoid u.


a word is a enough for the wise,

i,. tink u shld talk dis over wit d gal, find out if its really wat she wants or if she is under pressure 4rm frends,but be careful wit ur choices,dis step is very crucial in ur relationship and de stability of ur relationship, man, is hangin on a delicate thread


goodluck man,

I just corrected d subject. Kindl give ur own opinion.

@POSTER, i have been there before,my candid advice for you is to give her what she wants,because if you don't and she gets it else where you will become less man to her.I believe she is under pressure from somewhere,you can still check out her friends,talk to her but be careful and be wise,so you don't get Heart Broken.One love bro.

Just getting clue 2 what 2 do

@poster

what level are you in the first place??

i guess maybe lower levels

The game is always like that when it begins from experience.

so my friend give her what she want and stop blah blah over nothing.

if she will be yours fine let it be. nothing changes, you just ended up becoming the one and

only Dude in her life and if it last all thru her life time then your mission is accomplished lol!!

But if you refuse someone else will do it and she will only distance herself from you and the

r\Ship will end there while the other chap Dude keep up the good work but the baboon go come dey regret.

My frend na small word be this o

keep looking

cheers!!

The fact is, if you do not it, she would end up doing it with another guy, because she has made up her mind to do it anyway.

if the skool is unilag n the n girl is big then i know her, she has said that to my friend too

interesting tales

@ poster do it fast and let that stop bordering you.
you have better things to do with your time that thinking of what you want to do with a woman?

It is elementary that nice guys, more often than not, finish last. You are playing Mr. nice guy, which will make her leave you soon, and then you will come back five months later crying to us about how women don't appreciate men who are nice and don't want to rush into bed with them. That being said, if you don't deflower her with immediate effect, she will find another man to do it, and there is a possibility that if that man has a big thang and does it well, your girl will leave you for him. A word is enough for the wise, my brother.

My dear like som pips said, follow ur hrt. i fink she's in lust but who are u to withold her desires rite? cos if u dont do it, som1 else will and its better u are her first love cos from der u guys can work it out but dont alws pressure her for it afterwards.
Am not supposed to be giving dis advice but tats wat i got man, SHALOM.

Guy plz don't since she is still a saint

i dey always tell my men, love matta na long thing! other gurls are like no! i wanna stay a vee until marriage(liars! they eventually get bursted b4 their wedding o!) and your girl's here begging u to "enter the place!" well, its a good thing that you love her this much as not wanting to burst her, but girls are funny o, i acted the same way to one chick once and she went and gave herself to one guy wey no send. of cos the guy "entered the place" and she came back and told me what she had done. not that i stopped loving her, its just funny i laugh whenever i remember it. in your case, she might not come back cos u are not me. whether you like it or not she'll find someone to do it. so the 2questions are "are u gonna be THE ONE?" "can she wait for you?