Dear Madam J.

I am a married 33years old our marriage is almost two uears old and God bless us with a a baby boy that ia almost one year old. Am having issues with my husband and this seem like it will crash our marriage I had always fantasizes about will be an inspiration for others young couples to quickly get into marriage.Little did I know that the devil will come after the joy of my marriage belie two years.
We dated for two years and it was a beautiful court ship, I never had reason to doubt David love for me, he was lovin, caring and always there for me, i didnt hesistate when David proposed to marry me.All my friends were happy for me saying I was really Lucky to have a nice guy like David.
David changed over seven months ago when I was pregnant for our first child Melvin. David hangs out with this friend of his who is married and stays close to where we live till 10pm, 11pm every day.
I have tried to discuss this with him but each time I try it get upset and stay till 12am the following day. The last time i tried to get him to discuss this matter he hit me. I dont know where i have gone wrong because i know am a soft spoken person.This is really tearing my marriage apart and it almost making me run mad. and I don’t know what to do.
Pls help

Shola

Ajao Estate




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PEOPLE TEND TO CHANGE AFTER MARRIAGE, MY ADVISE TO YOU IS TO BE TOLERANT, TALK TO HIM AND TELL HIM THINGS YOU DON'T LIKE CURRENTLY, JUST HAVE A HEART-TO-HEART TALK WITH HIM....IF HE CONTINUES, THEN CHANGE IT FOR HIM TOO. tit for tat

GloriaNinja:
PEOPLE TEND TO CHANGE AFTER MARRIAGE, MY ADVISE TO YOU IS TO BE TOLERANT, TALK TO HIM AND TELL HIM THINGS YOU DON'T LIKE CURRENTLY, JUST HAVE A HEART-TO-HEART TALK WITH HIM....IF HE CONTINUES, THEN CHANGE IT FOR HIM TOO. tit for tat

how can she change it for him?


Hmmm, if she cheats the shame will be epic

She should just bear, men always come back

GloriaNinja:
PEOPLE TEND TO CHANGE AFTER MARRIAGE, MY ADVISE TO YOU IS TO BE TOLERANT, TALK TO HIM AND TELL HIM THINGS YOU DON'T LIKE CURRENTLY, JUST HAVE A HEART-TO-HEART TALK WITH HIM....IF HE CONTINUES, THEN CHANGE IT FOR HIM TOO. tit for tat

girls too lyk advice what, what happened to the knife you gave her to kill the man?
just because of pufpuf you stabbed her, bring it here let bury it and have it grow into a mango tree , apple is fast becoming expensive with each passing day ....I have no issue with people who choose to torment me only in the dream, I've lost a lot of good ppl I know the just came to roast ....how about that pen you asked of ? have the started recruiting , there's no job anywhere moreover I still like candy ....my baby sister has been dragging her doll with me since morning , I wonder whats special about that cute looking doll .
let me go for a swim , the sun is too bright this night , it very unusual, oh well , the world is not as we know it b4

I once heard a similar story and according to the wife she said a church member advised her not to put much attention on the man's behavior that she should let the man be because in the real sense she can't control him.

She did just that and she also tried to be more loving and after sometime the husband stopped because he thinks she has started cheating on him.

iamJ:
how can she change it for him?


Hmmm, if she cheats the shame will be epic

She should just bear, men always come back

I DONT MEAN HER CHEATING ON HIM BUT IGNORING HIM AS WELL, WILL MAKE HIM CHANGE

sparklezeee:
I once heard a similar story and according to the wife she said a church member advised her not to put much attention on the man's behavior that she should let the man be because in the real sense she can't control him.

She did just that and she also tried to be more loving and after sometime the husband stopped because he thinks she has started cheating on him.

Great advice u gave! The worst thing she should do is, join him once in a while.

Women too like drama! Just stop d nagging already n do things to make him look forward to coming home.

Best reaction av read abt, was d lady who went to join her husband n his mistress at d joint, made her order, ate it, bought takeaway for those at home, dumped d baby with him n went home! Badass!

Sorry o, but hw can u b lonely. Last I checked, u hv a companion with u 4 d next 9 months.

Bloggers at wrk

GloriaNinja:
I DONT MEAN HER CHEATING ON HIM BUT IGNORING HIM AS WELL, WILL MAKE HIM CHANGE

ignoring ok but that is if he notices her sha


She shld relax, him go tire

ashjay001:


Great advice u gave! The worst thing she should do is, join him once in a while.

Women too like drama! Just stop d nagging already n do things to make him look forward to coming home.

Best reaction av read abt, was d lady who went to join her husband n his mistress at d joint, made her order, ate it, bought takeaway for those at home, dumped d baby with him n went home! Badass!

her husband would be like wat da fvck!!

Maybe u are boring.
try to be playful when u are with him.

crackhouse:
Maybe u are boring.
try to be playful when u are with him.

Like, seriously I need a punch button for this very callous post
Where is your humanity?
She is supposed to entertain her husband while pregnant, hormonal, lonely and possibly depressed?
SMH
Sometimes it is better to post nothing...

Ehyaa... I usually feel pity for women who suffer this kind of fate.

I really do wonder if its a "man thing" to always put up this attitude after few years of marriage. Its seriously bothering me till date

I just keep praying I don't make my future wife suffer similar fate.

This is very sad and it is the dilemma of most Nigerian married woman whose men suddenly have a change of behaviour after marriage, I would advise you to be extremely careful with him so that he do not send you to an early grave. Leave him to do what he likes, do not be bothered, have a safe delivery, consolidate on your career or business, talk to your pastor or a counsellor, if there is no change of behaviour, file for a divorce from him, be strong, not everyone would find love in their lifetime but you might be lucky again to find the one who is meant for you.

rozay12345:
This is very sad and it is the dilemma of most Nigerian married woman whose men suddenly have a change of behaviour after marriage, I would advise you to be extremely careful with him so that he do not send you to an early grave. Leave him to do what he likes, do not be bothered, have a safe delivery, consolidate on your career or business, talk to your pastor or a counsellor, if there is no change of behaviour, file for a divorce from him, be strong, not everyone would find love in their lifetime but you might be lucky again to find the one who is meant for you.

Women of this generation have really lost it can u imagine 'file for divorce' & what happens to the innocent child they both brought to this world,may God have mercy on ur soul.

1234onyekwe:
Women of this generation have really lost it can u imagine 'file for divorce' & what happens to the innocent child they both brought to this world,may God have mercy on ur soul.

Did you not read that the man was hitting her? is it until he sends her to the grave that you come back and say women of this generation, Love and marriage is snot meant for everyone...don't encourage domestic violence

sparklezeee:

her husband would be like wat da fvck!!

U suppose add d eye popping out emoji

Iyalaya mistress

Lies from a blogger..

Diamond c hw u doing.

GloriaNinja:
PEOPLE TEND TO CHANGE AFTER MARRIAGE, MY ADVISE TO YOU IS TO BE TOLERANT, TALK TO HIM AND TELL HIM THINGS YOU DON'T LIKE CURRENTLY, JUST HAVE A HEART-TO-HEART TALK WITH HIM....IF HE CONTINUES, THEN CHANGE IT FOR HIM TOO. tit for tat

I think you should quit giving people advice before you break people marriage