Jzhane 27/11/2017 Uncategorized 4 Comments

My name is Angela (Not real name). I have three beautiful children. All girls. I am also happily married to Edward.

But I did something very bad and I cannot find help myself.

At a business retreat in Paris six months ago,my colleagues and I went out during one of the nights we were in Paris. We partied late into the night and most of us were actually drunk.

I am ashamed of myself because I can take alcohol but I never actually got so drunk the way I did that night.

Frank,one of the company’s representative from Cape Town was quite flirty with me. It started out innocently but both of us had had too much to drink. We actually had sex and I regretted it after.

I thought I had out that incident behind me when I traveled and returned back to Nigeria. I was on protection for two years so it didnt cross my mind that I could be unprotected when the sad incident with Frank occurred.

About seven weeks later,I fell ill. I treated malaria but it didnt subside. Eventually,my husband rushed me to the hospital after I suffered high fever one night. At the hospital,all tests came back negative. The doctor suggested a pregnancy test. I was on drip while all of these were going on. The pregnancy test came back positive.

My husband was truly overjoyed when he broke the news to me. Here I was,in total confusion as to how I got pregnant yet my husband was over the moon.

I know the pregnancy was a result of my fling in Paris. I just know. So I pretended to be happy but I was very sad.

As soon as I left the hospital,I arranged to have an abortion in another hospital. The abortion would have gone very well but I began to bleed so badly when the procedure was taking place. It became a battle to save my life. Eventually,the doctor advised against the abortion. He said my body was not taking it well.

I bleed so much I actually thought I had lost the baby.....Read More


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come clean to your husband RIGHT AWAY about the fling (he is the only one's forgiveness you need) and accept his wrath....however it may come. good luck!

silly things silly people do and blame it on drunkness...

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silly things silly people do and blame it on drunkness...

Very sad people look for stupid excuses to shift blames... Every single one of us

Brb

Misswrite come here quick


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Wow! Wtf! I could never wish this even on my worst enemy. Bleep! Ok... baby was meant to be, she tried everything possible to correct the error but this was the destiny. What do you do now? 1 of 2 tell the truth or hold your peace. This is the true test of a person's character.

#Touchwood if this was me, I hope and pray that I could do the right thing, whatever the right thing is. Shittt, I don't know what I would do

Misswrite, over to you

Personally, I know that I could never keep this kind of secret. It would eat me up everyday, watching my son grow and bond with his 'dad', knowing that (especially in my life) the truth would likely find its way out - maybe there's a medical emergency that requires compatibility tests for a transfusion or transplant.It's just too much for me, I can't even take it one day at a time. I would probably, nay most likely, come clean, and take the consequences early on. That way I would also spare the boy the uncertainty down the road.

But with this, no one can tell you what to do. if you open up to your husband, you might lose him. Or you might not. he may surprise you with his forgiveness. But if he ever found out twenty years later, and that you kept this a secret for all that time..........put yourself in his shoes.

Be strong, and trust that the truth would set you free. Don't jump the gun, though, you might want to do a prenatal paternity test to be really sure.

If I was a guy and you do this to me? I would kill you! Adultery I may forgive but spending my whole life raising and loving a son with everything I have only to find out he's not mine? you should kukuma kill the man now and be done with it!

Reason i support DNA

MissWrite:
Personally, I know that I could never keep this kind of secret. It would eat me up everyday, watching my son grow and bond with his 'dad', knowing that (especially in my life) the truth would likely find its way out - maybe there's a medical emergency that requires compatibility tests for a transfusion or transplant.It's just too much for me, I can't even take it one day at a time. I would probably, nay most likely, come clean, and take the consequences early on. That way I would also spare the boy the uncertainty down the road.

But with this, no one can tell you what to do. if you open up to your husband, you might lose him. Or you might not. he may surprise you with his forgiveness. But if he ever found out twenty years later, and that you kept this a secret for all that time..........put yourself in his shoes.

Be strong, and trust that the truth would set you free. Don't jump the gun, though, you might want to do a prenatal paternity test to be really sure.

What if she lost everything thou? Husband takes their kids, house and money? Do you really think the child would thank her down the line...

Sometimes, your clean conscious can take the back seat, while you do right by others. For the sake of the children sometimes to shut up and learn from your mistakes might be your only choice.
Also, don't forget she's not offering the child a father, because she doesn't even know if the other guy would want the child... It's such a complex situation to be in. I guess it's one of those "you have to be there to know what to do".

You're such a softy though

See me lie to die (santa look the other way)

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What if she lost everything thou? Husband takes their kids, house and money? Do you really think the child would thank her down the line...

Sometimes, your clean conscious can take the back seat, while you do right by others. For the sake of the children sometimes to shut up and learn from your mistakes might be your only choice.
Also, don't forget she's not offering the child a father, because she doesn't even know if the other guy would want the child... It's such a complex situation to be in. I guess it's one of those "you have to be there to know what to do".

You're such a softy though

See me lie to die (santa look the other way)

@softie. Really, though...

Yes. I guess it might seem (or be) selfish to clear my conscience at the risk of breaking up the family. What they don't know won't hurt them, right? I understand your position. Her position. And I know that it probably requires the greater sacrifice. I just wish it could be that simple. But in my life, I've been prone to always being found out. I do not trust buried bodies. I've tried to get away with things that should actually not be too hard to get away with, and somehow (out of the blue) someone asks a question or chooses that moment to look into a place that has been forgotten for years. I learned very early that I can't get away with things. Not me. So I actually see only two choices: 1. Tell him now. 2. Let him find out by himself, whenever that is. The former offers a slightly better chance at reconciliation. And the consequences of the latter seem more dire (in my mind. Maybe because I think I can handle separation better than the alternative), depending on how far in the future that would be. Father and son would both be devastated for living a lie. If he would have forgiven my indiscretion, he might not forgive my attempt/ decision to hide it and deceive him. It's a mess really.

Pray he grows up to be a good child and die with the secret...

Lol. God smite me with seven plagues if I don't conduct a paternity test if/when a woman of this generation births a child for me.

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Pray he grows up to be a good child and die with the secret...

The husband will find out

But where is lalasticlala sef

God forbid bad thing