We break up with him, take him back, and then break up with him again. For some of us, this might even happen over and over for years.

The cycle is never-ending. But why do we keep going back to that one guy? Even when we know he’s wrong for us.

He’s the one man we cannot let go. No matter how many times he makes a mistake, he apologizes and says he’ll never do it again. He asks for you to take him back, and, you let him back in. You say you’re not going to. You say that this might not be good for you. You say that maybe it’s keeping you from fully living your life. And in the back of your mind, you know all theses rationalizations are true. But at the end of the day, you love him, and it all doesn’t matter.



Thankfully, you’re not alone sis. An estimated 44 percent of people ages 17 to 24 have reconciled and started over with an ex, according to a recent study by Bowling Green State University and the University of Wisconsin at Milwaukee.

We all know that we do it, but the question is: Why? Racquel Jones, Clinical Social Worker and Therapist of Transforming Lives Counseling Services, says that there are several reasons women keep going back to the wrong guy or keep choosing the wrong guy. “The first one is that you fear being alone,” she says. “Sometimes women would rather be with the wrong person than being by themselves. Instead you need to learn to love your own company and realize that being alone is okay.”

“Number two: You think you can change him. Let go of the idea that you can save or change him. You can’t love away his problems. Remember that change comes from within.”

“You don’t think you deserve better,” she continues.” This is the third factor. “Many times the type of man you date is directly related to the value you place on yourself. If you think badly of yourself, you tend to chose the wrong partner. You need to change your thinking and realize that you deserve better.”

“And lastly, you haven’t figured out what you truly want in your life outside of relationships. It’s important to work on your own issues to break your old patterns. If you don’t work on it, you’ll continually do the same things over and over again. You’re not going back because you love him. You’re going back because you’re bored. Or lonely. Or because you can’t stand the thought of spending another night laying in your bed, knowing that no one is thinking about you.”

The next time he comes back, and you’re struggling with the decision – the solution is simple, sis. It’s time to let him go.



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Chaii, see how I rushed in thinking it's one girl tori. Didn't know it's a LECTURE. Lemme come and be going jare...

Meanwhile fvckboys be like

Yeah, true. But it's hard. It's like a gangrene infested foot. You know it would corrupt the rest of you if you don't amputate, but it's your foot! You don't want to lose something that's a part of you, and what are you going to do without it?


#firstyousurvivethenyoulive

“Many times the type of man you date is directly related to the value you place on yourself. If you think badly of yourself, you tend to chose the wrong partner. You need to change your thinking and realize that you deserve better.”

30 bottles of champange and 1 Gucci product for the lady above me

women are masochist in nature.

And they hardly ever turn off their feelings for a particular guy once they have turned it on..

But don't flatter yourselves, the same goes for guys too.

i did that once but never will I try it again

It’s this psychopathic personality trait that makes
for their irresistible charm, and complete and utter
lack of empathy or remorse after a failed
relationship and it’s this machiavellianism that makes them such damn good manipulators and that's what draws us back to them.

MissWrite:
Yeah, true. But it's hard. It's like a gangrene infested foot. You know it would corrupt the rest of you if you don't amputate, but it's your foot! You don't want to lose something that's a part of you, and what are you going to do without it?


#firstyousurvivethenyoulive

#Accurate

They are desperate. They believe he would change when in actual fact he would never change.To turn the tide in your favor, you believe the man will return if you change for him. If he didn’t change for you, changing for him is not superior.
This is showing desperation and insecurity, and he will take advantage. Additionally, he won’t appreciate the effort.

They are desperate. They believe he would change when in actual fact he would never change.To turn the tide in your favor, you believe the man will return if you change for him. If he didn’t change for you, changing for him is not superior.
This is showing desperation and insecurity, and he will take advantage. Additionally, he won’t appreciate the effort.

Michellla:
We want to be "that girl"
Every woman wants to be "that woman" who
changes the bad boy. If you haven't already
figured it out, here's a hint: The bad boy never
changes, the women he dates just get more stupid.
His wife, "the one who changed him" isn't living with a converted saint, but a man who is most likely going to do it behind her back.
There's no prize in being "that girl," but most likely a few consolation prizes that include a stab in the back.

May the good God bless you, I so much hate the sentence "he'll change for me". Na Buhari made your V?

it is all 4 dz reason dat; luv is testing, luv is refining. we keep testing our relationship with d special person, we feel is sire bond to us and to see if d relationship will evolve or stand d test of trying time. And we keep refining our hearts to assayer d person's personality bcuz we are pulled by some unknown driven instincts to believe there can be only one of d very person in the whole wide world - we are interwoven with. perhaps, that is why it is difficult to make room for another, even when in our hearts we 're still empty and disgruntled.

Still applies

Because women love bad guys

Bad guys rocks