Guys, a friend of mine got married last year dec and two months later the marriage crashed.Now his pastor is advising him to divorce the woman and get married to someone else.

I for one believe that once a person is married, you remain married.You can get divorced if one paty is unfaithful, but you should remain divoreced. Though this guy argued otherwise.

Utter nonsense!Sorry if i sound insultive, but where do you guys get all these weird ideas from?When two people make a mistake of thinking themsleves compatible and then getting married, only to discover that they are not, they should then stay together by force because of what exactly?Why suffer yourselves by staying in a relationship(married or not) that does not exist just because you said "i do" in front of some priest?I just can't figure out some people's thinking.

Till divorce do us part.If the marriage does not work, then dissolve it and go your separate ways.Na by force to stay together?And this utterly insane concept of staying divorced once going through a divorce process. . . where do you guys get all these crazy ideas from,anyway?

his pastor is advising him to get a divorce?


lord have mercy.

^^What is wrong with the advice?Two incompatible people to stay together for the rest of their lives and be condemned to unhappy life for what reason exactly?

^^ maybe you, him and the pastor need to go talk to an older Indian couple for advice on married life.

since we dont seem to have much knowledge of it in Africa.

You seem to have missed the part about the wedding only lasting two months.

Something is wrong with him, his wife, the pastor and any other woman involved, imo.

You been married for just two months with no kids then what are you waiting for DIVORCE. Starting afresh will make both parties a lot wiser.

A real pastor wont say such a thing

am I the only one here who doesnt understand how a couple will discover they're incompatible in just two months?

Can someone explain. I used to think it took at least two or three years to figure out the same.

Did one of them turn to a cow, goat or mammy water while sleeping?

afiq:

A real pastor wont say such a thing

I wonder oh.

maybe the pastor has other people he wants to matchmake them with.

That pastor is a player

Divorce ought to be on a ground that someone has cheated and it is still a personal issue

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Fhemmmy:

Divorce ought to be on a ground that someone has cheated and it is still a personal issue

Ogaga4Luv:

[size=13pt]Fhemmmy dear , i have been flowing up your responds in various thread and the issue's. . .the good thing is that , you're really doing according to your signature and i like it ~ Ok! I wish some people can be like you been so honest in most case . .

Yeah-- Satisfaction is guaranteed [/size]

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Fhemmmy:

Thanks for the great comment, i am one of your online fans as well

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Fhemmmy:

^^^ Lol

^^^ I am so sure i will read one day soon that you have changed and you are sorry for all you have said about God . . . . minus one day today

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Fhemmmy:

^^^ I am so sure i will read one day soon that you have changed and you are sorry for all you have said about God . . . . minus one day today

ogaga sounds lik a chick n fhemmy a guy
anyhow if love is blind wen ur eye clear divorce abeg

jagunlabi:

Utter nonsense!Sorry if i sound insultive, but where do you guys get all these weird ideas from?When two people make a mistake of thinking themsleves compatible and then getting married, only to discover that they are not, they should then stay together by force because of what exactly?Why suffer yourselves by staying in a relationship(married or not) that does not exist just because you said "i do" in front of some priest?I just can't figure out some people's thinking.

Till divorce do us part.If the marriage does not work, then dissolve it and go your separate ways.Na by force to stay together?And this utterly insane concept of staying divorced once going through a divorce process. . . where do you guys get all these crazy ideas from,anyway?

My dear, maybe ur not a christian. No pastor will encourage divorce cuz is not biblical, God does not permit it and thats why u should pray before involving urself to someone for marriage. If u marry and later foundout that u both are not compatible, u can still solve the problem cuz is all about "FOR BETTER & FOR WORSE"

victorazy:

My dear, maybe your not a christian. No pastor will encourage divorce cuz is not biblical, God does not permit it and thats why u should pray before involving urself to someone for marriage. If u marry and later foundout that u both are not compatible, u can still solve the problem cuz is all about "FOR BETTER & FOR WORSE"

Wrong.
A man can leave his wife (or vice versa) on the grounds of infidelity.

I see nothing wrong with divorce.If for some reason they find out they are not compactible and they cant work it out,are they supposed to continue the union as enemies?

Does it matter? Ain't gonna change his or your mind. So what make you think my stand on divorce can affect yours. The shoe is only worn by the owner and so we don't know how to help you judge. Simply list all your errs and then hers and then we'll help you with a closed verdict

The pastor is advicing him to divorce his wife so he the pastor can Bleep his wife.

What is even the prove that the pastor is not already fucking his wife?

divorce is a necessary evil in this century

if it aint working out,get divorced,remarry or better still,remain single

victorazy:

My dear, maybe your not a christian. No pastor will encourage divorce cuz is not biblical, God does not permit it and thats why u should pray before involving urself to someone for marriage. If u marry and later foundout that u both are not compatible, u can still solve the problem cuz is all about "FOR BETTER & FOR WORSE"

My brother the issue of divorce is not what should be discouraged or condemned by Christians only, but for everyone that wanna make this world a better place. Tht poster should have checked up the effects of divorce to the society, b4 coming to tell us abt his mistake. Someone who got married out of infactuation and lust will turn out tml to tell you is a mistake. If we are to accept the marriage to be a mistake, what about the products of the marriage(Kids), are we to see them as a products of mistake? Marriage is beyond jst a mere relationship, it is something that got to do with life of others, not jst two selfish people that is why one got to be careful before you take that Oath. Unless we have changed the definition of tht word Oath. Is not something you can jst walk in anytime and walk out any time you feel like.

As for the Pastor, i don't know what to tell him, becoz that is the type of pastors Nigerians prefers. They wont go to where they will tell them truth, if not tell me how i would attend a church were i took an oath in the presence of a pastor and after 2months the best idea he can give me is to deny my oath.

divorce is advisable in some cases. cheating, abuse, certine crimes, even things like lifestyle differences. only the couple and perhaps the pastor truly know what the underlying cause is. you have to remeber many times people (the man or woman) will change after marriage. things will be perfect durring your courtship but once the rings are exchanged , most people who find themselves in a truly abusive (physicaly, emotionaly or psychologicaly) relationship had no warning before the marriage. again only the couple and pastor know what truely transpired in that 2 months - divorce may be justified

A lot of arguments,
ANALYSIS:
Firstly, one should not rush into marriage without being sure of compatibility in any form.
The first 2-4 months of marriage are always the most crazy.
RECOMMENDATION:
I would suggest that both parties take some time apart to see if what drew them close in the first place still exists as it will definitely draw them back together. Leave the pastor out of it all, he is first and foremost a human and not an angel.
He is entitled to his opinion. Finally both parties should reconcile individually with God.
LAST NOTES:
Marriage is actually a TRIANGLE with GOD at the Apex. The more each individual has a better relationship with God, the more he/she aligns to the other. GOD BLESS EVERY ONE.

Divorce is a serious issue and Marriage is even a bigger one too.

i think we are getting this issue of divorce wrong.the bible did not say u must divorce your wife if found unfaithful. i think what it says is that if at all u have to divorce, it must be based on unfaithfulness. Meanwhile my pastor once said that if u really love your wife, and u find a man on top of her, u will forgive her

very bad for both parties.

sayso:

very bad for both parties.

If kids are involved, they are the one to suffer