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Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Rubysims: 8:19pm On Jan 03
Lol at that poster who asked if he is a yahoo boy..must everyone be 419 lol..you are funny though.

I'm aware of what he does to earn a living "and I wanted him to stop so he gets a regular job"..so we start the phone business we wanted to start. This guy met me as a girl and has watched me evolve over the years
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by ibkayee(f): 8:21pm On Jan 03
Blackhawk03:
My sister, you met with a Yoruba demon... grin cheesy grin

*In Kenny Blaq's voice*

Ki shokore my dear, man's not hottttt. tongue tongue
grin

pocohantas:


Na greiboy people.
Our Naija brothers be repping, home and abroad.
That picture grin
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by GoodFaith: 8:24pm On Jan 03
CorGier:


Well he might be garbage but he's her garbage and she's obviously no willing to trash it yet.

Why is she here telling the WWW
She will get tired of smelling the garbage, she will trash it
Breath fresh air
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Rubysims: 8:25pm On Jan 03
Im not insulting anyone.just the posters who are calling me names and telling me i should have got pregnant or I was giving free sex for 10 years. This man told me he wanted me to know what he did before I agree to marry him or the trad so I can go into it knowing what is going on. He said he could have taken care of it and hidden it from me..But he wants me to marry him from my heart
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Nobody: 8:25pm On Jan 03
ibkayee:
grin

That picture grin
cry cry
You don't actually think I am like that, do you?
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by ibkayee(f): 8:27pm On Jan 03
greiboy:
cry cry

You don't actually think I am like that, do you?
Lol it's always the 'nice' ones that end up being the demons

Just kidding cheesy kiss
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by GoodFaith: 8:28pm On Jan 03
Rubysims:
Lol at that poster who asked if he is a yahoo boy..must everyone be 419 lol..you are funny though.

I'm aware of what he does to earn a living "and I wanted him to stop so he gets a regular job"..so we start the phone business we wanted to start. This guy met me as a girl and has watched me evolve over the years
Let him go
don't wast the best part of your young on a lazy man
drinking $500.00
fail to contribute to bills , Oh you are his sugar mama
U have work hard need to be happy
There is nobody that is perfect
but this dude is 10 over 100
try for 70 over 100
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Nobody: 8:30pm On Jan 03
Rubysims:
Im not insulting anyone.just the posters who are calling me names and telling me i should have got pregnant or I was giving free sex for 10 years. This man told me he wanted me to know what he did before I agree to marry him or the trad so I can go into it knowing what is going on. He said he could have taken care of it and hidden it from me..But he wants me to marry him from my heart
This is precisely the reason I didn't want to judge anyone before I hear all the versions of the story.

Tell me something, Does the man stand to gain anything from marrying you? Maybe financial incentive or any material gain?
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by GoodFaith: 8:32pm On Jan 03
greiboy:
This is precisely the reason I didn't want to judge the anyone before I hear all the version of the story.

Tell me something, Does the man stand to gain anything from marrying you? Maybe financial incentive or any material gain?
dude has no really JOB
Dude stayed with her for FREE
dude get pussy when he want to , oh and other pussy out there

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Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Nobody: 8:32pm On Jan 03
ibkayee:

Lol it's always the 'nice' ones that end up being the demons

Just kidding cheesy kiss
I know you will trust me. grin

At least, for the sake of ibadan that we both came from

oh sorry, I forgot you are British tongue

I will get you another time, let us not derail any further

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Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by kelizosuy(f): 8:33pm On Jan 03
Op I'm sorry for what you are going through but I want to make a point... Not every lady that gets pregnant wants to trap the man...
What if she's truly keeping the baby for herself?
You have to be in her position to know if she's keeping it to trap him or not.
Rubysims:
Anyone can say anything he is not perfect but this man loves me. All these sad people saying 10 years this or that..this man will never leave me for anyone and I can confidently say that.

I was in school and I dont believe in children out of wedlock. Unlike some people writing rubbish I was raised well and won't dissapoint my parents.I was pursuing a career I'm not the woman that lives of a man. I want to help my partner too.. I admit I played a part in making him upset or nagging him.

Im sorry to dissapoint all these people name calling me, I will not birth children without a commitment. His sister's and people agree with me on this and commend me for wanting to do the right thing. His sister has begged her to remove it its just taking a pill as it has not formed yet. It takes 2 to Tango females should stop playing the victim. You take measures after a one night stand to prevent this it's not all the mans fault.

She is holding on to hopes she will have him. He told me that even if I dont stay he will never be with her. He has made it very clear to the lady but she wont get it through her head. Im sure now she is keeping it to get as much as she can. Women see expensive clothes, cars, watches. You dont know that another woman has made him that way. People like finished product sha.

Im sorry i'm not trying to cause division by saying yoruba . I have just heard stuff about women and men alike. I know everyone is not the same. I dont want to generalize. I just heard these girls use jazz a lot and trap men.they think pregnancy will make him stay and change his mind.

I can confidently say even if I dont end up with this man. Theres nothing he wont do for me even if he goes on to marry someone else. This is how tight our bond is. We are friends first and partners after.

It makes me sad seeing him sad and talking about how he has to deal with a baby he doesn't even want. He is also still in denial and says stuff like im working for my family which is you not for any woman or kid like that.

All these olodos insulting me on here. I told you my father is a millionaire I don't need any man. I'm good. I just wanted someone to help me reason as sometimes loves over powers common sense.

He is sure it will never happen again and he seems sincere about it. Most people just run from relationships with problems you will date someone new or marry it will be the same thing.

My heart is heavy and the trad is this year..im fighting within myself whether I should go ahead but I dont want to live without my bestfriend.

I dont even know if my family will accept this. He is scared to tell them about it....I know they will want me to walk.. Ive stayed with him even through the stigma of dating a nigerian..which is not really accepted back home.he doesn't even know how to tell his parents. I pray it's not his..he wants to wait until paternity is done before anything..but I think shes a smart girl she got pregnant and played her cards right

..i love nigerians guys im not trying to divide my best friend is an igbo lady and she wants me to walk and says I deserve and can do better.Maybe its her putting the anti yoruba thing in me
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by CorGier: 8:33pm On Jan 03
Rubysims:

I was in school and I dont believe in children out of wedlock. Unlike some people writing rubbish I was raised well and won't dissapoint my parents.I was pursuing a career I'm not the woman that lives of a man. I want to help my partner too..I admit I played a part in making him upset or nagging him.

Im sorry to dissapoint all these people name calling me, I will not birth children without a commitment. His sister's and people agree with me on this and commend me for wanting to do the right thing. His sister has begged her to remove it its just taking a pill as it has not formed yet. It takes 2 to Tango females should stop playing the victim. You take measures after a one night stand to prevent this it's not all the mans fault.


A real woman, I respect you my sister.
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Rubysims: 8:35pm On Jan 03
greiboy:
This is precisely the reason I didn't want to judge the anyone before I hear all the versions of the story.

Tell me something, Does the man stand to gain anything from marrying you? Maybe financial incentive or any material gain?

No he is not with me for financial gain. I told him about my background after we had dated for I think 5 years.
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Rubysims: 8:39pm On Jan 03
GoodFaith:

dude has no really JOB
Dude stayed with her for FREE
dude get pussy when he want to , oh and other pussy out there

I believe he is going to be great. He has potential and that is what I look for in a man he really tries to work hard. Although I dont agree with how he lavishes money sometimes. Im all about saving and he is all about mostly buying loubotin, gucci then save.

I want to encourage him to fulfil his dream.no one is broke forever
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by GoodFaith: 8:40pm On Jan 03
Rubysims:


No he is not with me for financial gain. I told him about my background after we had dated for I think 5 years.
No for financial gain dude failed to help with bill
Dude not have a JOB
Living for FREE

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Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Nobody: 8:43pm On Jan 03
Rubysims:


No he is not with me for financial gain. I told him about my background after we had dated for I think 5 years.
kk let me be straight with you

Are you an American citizen? Are you from a wealthy background?

if the answers to the above questions is yes. then I will advise you to take your time about the marriage issue

i think you are really in love with the dude and you really don't know any other guy apart from the dude, since you started dating him in your teen years

However, I suggest you don't make an important decision like your marriage based on sentiments.

Wish you the best
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by GoodFaith: 8:43pm On Jan 03
Rubysims:


I believe he is going to be great. He has potential and that is what I look for in a man he really tries to work hard. Although I dont agree with how he lavishes money sometimes. Im all about saving and he is all about mostly buying loubotin, gucci then save.

I want to encourage him to fulfil his dream.no one is broke forever
I met a lady in college
lost my Job
The lady told me i was going to make lot of money
she believed in me and I did by working hard
Not a dude drinking $500
on the street don't want to work
U need to be happy young lady
If you have not being able to encourage him for 10 years
Keep trying
I believe in have nice things and I have few nice things
Lot of people that make my money will be driving 70 to 100k car
I went last summer to check out a 80k car
Came home I told myself to grow up that this is not the right time
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by TheSuperNerd(m): 8:50pm On Jan 03
I will be very straight and honest with you.

You are gonna get married to a man who you love more than he even loves you. Danger no.1

Your man shows big traits of irresponsibility. His addiction to alcoholism is one. You tried to tell him to try cut down on it and his reaction was to bullshiit your words and even walk out on you into another Woman's arms.

I know you are in love and are also looking at the 10 years of emotional investment on this one guy but then let me ask you lady.

Are you ready to take your life with him to the next 50-60 years considering that he will and shall surely bring in more irresponsible acts?


Marriage is not a game of tactics as seen in football. It is about making a decision that will directly affect your destiny, your personal goals and your life as a whole. You have a relationship with Jesus Christ. That is all good and fine. Now, will this man help you grow even better in that relationship with Christ?

If your marriage is going to cause you your place in eternity and your life vision then I say as hard as it may be... you should not take the leap.

I know it is difficult but think about your eternity and then your life for the next 50years with same man.

All the best in whatever decision you make. THE CHOICE IS ALWAYS YOURS. We are all a result of the choices we make each day.
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Rubysims: 8:51pm On Jan 03
GoodFaith:

I met a lady in college
lost my Job
The lady told me i was going to make lot of money
she believed in me and I did by working hard
Not a dude drinking $500
on the street don't want to work
U need to be happy young lady
If you have not being able to encourage him for 10 years
Keep trying
I believe in have nice things and I have few nice things
Lot of people that make my money will be driving 70 to 100k car
I went last summer to check out a 80k car
Came home I told myself to grow up that this is not the right time

I mean $500 a month
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by GoodFaith: 8:52pm On Jan 03
He need to go
This is the right time
Not good for you
stop thinking about the sex
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by GoodFaith: 8:54pm On Jan 03
Rubysims:


I mean $500 a month
$500.00 is a lot of money monthly
weekly is $125 wasted
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by biacan(f): 8:57pm On Jan 03
Rubysims:

I mean $500 a month
Better quit now
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by GoodFaith: 8:58pm On Jan 03
I am not your father
but that dude need to go
he can't be a good husband
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Rubysims: 9:02pm On Jan 03
TheSuperNerd:
I will be very straight and honest with you.

You are gonna get married to a man who you love more than he even loves you. Danger no.1

Your man shows big traits of irresponsibility. His addiction to alcoholism is one. You tried to tell him to try cut down on it and his reaction was to bullshiit your words and even walk out on you into another Woman's arms.

I know you are in love and are also looking at the 10 years of emotional investment on this one guy but then let me ask you lady.

Are you ready to take your life with him to the next 50-60 years considering that he will and shall surely bring in more irresponsible acts?


Marriage is not a game of tactics as seen in football. It is about making a decision that will directly affect your destiny, your personal goals and your life as a whole. You have a relationship with Jesus Christ. That is all good and fine. Now, will this man help you grow even better in that relationship with Christ?

If your marriage is going to cause you your place in eternity and your life vision then I say as hard as it may be... you should not take the leap.

I know it is difficult but think about your eternity and then your life for the next 50years with same man.

All the best in whatever decision you make. THE CHOICE IS ALWAYS YOURS. We are all a result of the choices we make each day.

Thank you for saying this. Our biggest problem for years is- He wants me to pray all the time when we are praying together. He never wants to pray when im there he wants to do it seperately. I yearn for a man who can pray with me.

He fasts even more than I do. Trust me..lol even in doing bad things he asks for God to bless him..

I know there's a difference between someone who believes in God and someone who follows him.

We currently fasting right now and I told him. "I'm fasting and praying for happiness and my relationship with God and not any man like that. "As people do dissapoint..this really hurt him as he wants us to pray and fast for the unity.

The other thing is he is so jealous..I cant have a male friend and no man can talk to me

I wouldn't say I love him more. He knows im not easily held down and I can walk. I have left him before and he came begging. Im the type of women who will leave even with kids if its too much to bear and he knows this.
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Rubysims: 9:04pm On Jan 03
GoodFaith:
He need to go
This is the right time
Not good for you
stop thinking about the sex

Lol you are funny.. I really appreciate everyone who is posting and making jokes thank you for making me laugh and forget the problem
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by lefulefu(m): 9:06pm On Jan 03
op story is so werey ish

Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by kelizosuy(f): 9:12pm On Jan 03
Honestly I feel you are excusing his actions
If you eventually marry him and if I was the other lady involved ,I wouldn't allow my child an inch close either of you.
There's never an excuse for cheating... NEVER
and if you are excusing his actions now be prepared to excuse many more

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Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by VERDA: 9:14pm On Jan 03
makydebbie:
Well, she has invested time, money, resource and emotion in that ten years and that's what I'm talking about. You'll feel bad you've wasted time in the wrong person all these while won't you?

And please, jeez I can't say a woman's life is measured by her being in a great relationship or being married lol that's a myopic and stupid reasoning. You misinterpreted.

Ahaa...smiley,I get your point.
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by GoodFaith: 9:16pm On Jan 03
kelizosuy:
Honestly I feel you are excusing his actions
If you eventually marry him and if I was the other lady involved ,I wouldn't allow my child an inch close either of you.
There's never an excuse for cheating... NEVER
and if you are excusing his actions now be prepared to excuse many more
Your major issue is the cheating
dude is jobless
she have issue dude doesn't help with bills
dude drink $500.00 a month
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by makydebbie(f): 9:20pm On Jan 03
VERDA:


Ahaa...smiley,I get your point.
Sure. wink
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Cladez(m): 9:26pm On Jan 03
GoodFaith:

Your major issue is the cheating
dude is jobless
she have issue dude doesn't help with bills
dude drink $500.00 a month
Is it that you can't see well or you can't read and comprehend.The guy is into business but she wants him to get a regular job.The guy has money to buy designer clothing and the rest but the problem is he doesn't save.


Please do try to read and comprehend before speaking.
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by GoodFaith: 9:29pm On Jan 03
Cladez:
Is it that you can't see well or you can't read and comprehend.The guy is into business but she wants him to get a regular job.The guy has money to buy designer clothing and the rest but the problem is he doesn't save.


Please do try to read and comprehend before speaking.
Narrow Minded
Dude has money but can't help her with the bills
Live for FREE
"The guy is into business" if the business is so good why would she want him to work?
"The guy has money to buy designer clothing " buying designer clothes doesn't mean he has money
She might be paying for it
Think please
dude is a 419

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