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Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by greiboy(m): 6:46pm On Jan 03
Bibi294:

Just go through the story well... They never had a stable relationship. ..
The guy asked to impregnate her already...
Yes, just before he left to impregnate another woman by mistake. it fits perfectly into the previous habitual pattern of an unstable guy. So I don't necessarily think they are playing anyone.

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Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Nobody: 6:47pm On Jan 03
That's what you get when you date ndi ofe mmanu.
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Latbod(m): 7:08pm On Jan 03
Hi Babe, em so sorry u found urself in this kinda situation buh I think u cause urself pain, obviously. U had everything going on fine till he had that one night stand. Secondly, ur bf had being very loyal to u (notably) buh u chose to make him a bit miserable. U see, men's life is filled with hiccups, sometimes the tide is strong, violent and seems unending and sometimes, we just stroll down the street with our babe hand in hand, jollificating and time slowly pass by. We ain't perfect too, we make mistakes and some are irredeemable - just like this. However, there's always a way outta trouble.

I think the said lady is just a poisonous venom in ur life and u need a strong antidote. She came around to fill that void u left open in ur relationship, I'll advice u tackle it head-on. Prayerfully equip urself and seek spiritual guidance.

As long as I don't support taking a human life, I strongly recommend ur bf work out a modality to take care of the baby after birth, besides she can only claim the baby for a few years (Baba ọmọ ló lọmọ = A child's father owns him). Then u MUST take care of him/her like urs! Since u cause that illegitimate child by ur acts of negligence to ur paramount concern - ur relationship hence, ur family.

However, if the preg is just a few weeks old, probably still in semen or clot, then press hard for its removal and be headstrong. Unfortunately, the lady is aware of ur bf's situation, she would want to exploit him esp when she knows about u. This is a tough predicament, stand ur ground though.

On a final note, don't make ur bf go through another series of hardship and unnecessary troubles. If you're still interested in him, Get Married � Soon (which I pray will be ur resolve). And if u ain't, let him go. There's no point keeping what u won't need. Ohun tí ènìyàn òbá níí jẹ, kìí fíí runmú = U shouldn't smell what you won't eat.

Babe, no one will make ur decisions for u. I see u love ur bf... And I believe u knw what u want. U have three options:
A - Accept Baby, GMS (Get Married Soon)
B - Delete Baby, GMS
C - Let go of ur bf

My advice: Accept this fate (accept the baby and take VERY GOOD CARE of him/her when s/he's with u since u caused it) and GMS.

God bless you.

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Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by pocohantas(f): 7:11pm On Jan 03
Blackhawk03:
My sister, you met with a Yoruba demon... grin cheesy grin

*In Kenny Blaq's voice*

Ki shokore my dear, man's not hottttt. tongue tongue

Na greiboy people.
Our Naija brothers be repping, home and abroad.

Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Martin0(m): 7:18pm On Jan 03
This is all I have to say @ op!
I can’t even imagine the hurt, pain and disappointment one experiences when they find out their boyfriend/husband has been unfaithful AND has fathered a child outside of the marriage. It is one thing to cheat on your partner but it is something else when a child is born as a result of infidelity. As I sit here and write, my hands shake and my head spins when I think of this level of betrayal! There is nothing worst then to find out that the man you love and committed to spend the rest of your life with has had a child with another woman while being married to you. That level of betrayal makes it difficult to forgive and to trust. Every day you awake, your mind almost immediately fixates on the other child. Granted, over the years (should you decide to stay in your marriage), waking up and thinking about the fact that your husband fathered a child outside of your marriage will eventually lessen BUT the hurt and pain would probably remain.
How do you move forward after finding out the truth? What do you say to your friends and family? This is not a secret you will be able to keep for a life time. This is not something that will go away, never to return again. When a child is born, you have the child for life (as long as God says so). This child should be in your husband’s life regardless of how you feel. Whether you agree or not, this child is a part of the family. After a ll, the child did not ask to come into this world. Disowning the child or pushing the child away won’t make the hurt and the pain go away. The only thing you accomplish when you ostracize the child is mentally hurting and possibly damaging the child.
Whether you believe in karma or not, you should treat people how you want to be treated including that child. If you should choose to leave your marriage, that doesn’t exclude your child(ren) from having a relationship with the “Love Child.”
You don’t have to take my advice. You don’t have to even hear me out. What I do know is the child is not the blame for your husband’s infidelity. I would bet there were problems in your relationship long before your husband stepped out. Consider seeking counseling to help you to work through your hurt and pain. Healing is going to take time but shouldn’t take a lifetime. My advice is to be quick to forgive so that you can start the process of healing.
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Martin0(m): 7:18pm On Jan 03
pocohantas:

Na greiboy people. Our Naija brothers be repping, home and abroad.
Na wa for u ooo! Whick kin joy be this one na!
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by greiboy(m): 7:20pm On Jan 03
pocohantas:


Na greiboy people.
Our Naija brothers be repping, home and abroad.
We are doing our best to represent, maam grin grin
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Martin0(m): 7:21pm On Jan 03
Purebeerry:
That's what you get when you date ndi ofe mmanu.


Mpamagringrin
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by majekdom2: 7:21pm On Jan 03
Someone said a Woman will stay with a broke, abusive man that F*cks her good and make her orgasm like?? But will leave the most perfect man that can't give her the deal... I think this is your problem. I ll advice you find some other guy who is better than this guy. I have few tips that will help in identifying guys who are top in this game.
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Martin0(m): 7:25pm On Jan 03
MhizzAJ:
No one would pray for you
You would pray for yourself
Don't paint yoruba women bad....You should leave that man ASAP

You really invested in that relationship...I blame you for investing so much...Were you trying to be a good girl undecided What da heck!

Ten whole years and he didn't even bother to pop the question...You paused your life and was waiting for one man...you didn't even ask him his plans towards the relationship and all he could do was to go and impregnate another girl....Open your eyes wide!!...He's a backstabber





For ur mind na u wise oogringrin

Mek una nor dey talk like this!
Forget all this kin comment and let help this woman!

I can do worse than this,we can't predict relationship!
Am not perfect but if you re sounding perfect I wish you good luck!
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Martin0(m): 7:32pm On Jan 03
Dyt:
He hehehe You are marrying your bahgagef already
Don't worry We will pray for it to last

Sharp mouth crewgrin
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by wristbangle(m): 7:37pm On Jan 03
I got irritated at a point when reading your story. How could you date this man for 10 years when it's obvious the future looks very bleak between both of you. Why would you allow a time waster played your destiny like kite? What stories have you heard that had you conclude this issue is purely tribalism? Your story is laced with sugar coated scenario hence giving me mixed feelings if truly this is what happened.

What exactly do you want Op? You know your relationship with that guy had long ended. I don't why ladies fall for bad guys. Am beginning to believe some truly got fish brain.

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Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by GoodFaith: 7:42pm On Jan 03
U desperate Young Lady

Dude with no real JOB
Dude that spend $500.00 on drink
Dude stayed with you fail to contribute , Maybe your family has money
Your boyfriend is full of poo
You need to walk
One of your big mistake will be keep hoping the fool will change
Sorry that I am coming at u 100%

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Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Rubysims: 7:42pm On Jan 03
Anyone can say anything he is not perfect but this man loves me. All these sad people saying 10 years this or that..this man will never leave me for anyone and I can confidently say that.

I was in school and I dont believe in children out of wedlock. Unlike some people writing rubbish I was raised well and won't dissapoint my parents.I was pursuing a career I'm not the woman that lives of a man. I want to help my partner too.. I admit I played a part in making him upset or nagging him.

Im sorry to dissapoint all these people name calling me, I will not birth children without a commitment. His sister's and people agree with me on this and commend me for wanting to do the right thing. His sister has begged her to remove it its just taking a pill as it has not formed yet. It takes 2 to Tango females should stop playing the victim. You take measures after a one night stand to prevent this it's not all the mans fault.

She is holding on to hopes she will have him. He told me that even if I dont stay he will never be with her. He has made it very clear to the lady but she wont get it through her head. Im sure now she is keeping it to get as much as she can. Women see expensive clothes, cars, watches. You dont know that another woman has made him that way. People like finished product sha.

Im sorry i'm not trying to cause division by saying yoruba . I have just heard stuff about women and men alike. I know everyone is not the same. I dont want to generalize. I just heard these girls use jazz a lot and trap men.they think pregnancy will make him stay and change his mind.

I can confidently say even if I dont end up with this man. Theres nothing he wont do for me even if he goes on to marry someone else. This is how tight our bond is. We are friends first and partners after.

It makes me sad seeing him sad and talking about how he has to deal with a baby he doesn't even want. He is also still in denial and says stuff like im working for my family which is you not for any woman or kid like that.

All these olodos insulting me on here. I told you my father is a millionaire I don't need any man. I'm good. I just wanted someone to help me reason as sometimes loves over powers common sense.

He is sure it will never happen again and he seems sincere about it. Most people just run from relationships with problems you will date someone new or marry it will be the same thing.

My heart is heavy and the trad is this year..im fighting within myself whether I should go ahead but I dont want to live without my bestfriend.

I dont even know if my family will accept this. He is scared to tell them about it....I know they will want me to walk.. Ive stayed with him even through the stigma of dating a nigerian..which is not really accepted back home.he doesn't even know how to tell his parents. I pray it's not his..he wants to wait until paternity is done before anything..but I think shes a smart girl she got pregnant and played her cards right

..i love nigerians guys im not trying to divide my best friend is an igbo lady and she wants me to walk and says I deserve and can do better.Maybe its her putting the anti yoruba thing in me

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Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by CorGier: 7:44pm On Jan 03
Hey, y'all bad belles should please back the f*ck up now. Why una wan pour sand for una fellow man garri?
One mistake shouldn't change the fact that that guy has sacrificed and invested in that relationship just as much as her. If anything, this setback should strengthen their bond.

Rubyslims, stick with your man. Them girls on here asking you to dump his ass, ask them the last time any one of them held down a relationship for over a year, let alone 10...10 effin' years.
You seem smart, go girl, show that b!tch who's Boss.
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by GoodFaith: 7:44pm On Jan 03
Rubysims:
Anyone can say anything he is not perfect but this man loves me. All these sad people saying 10 years this or that..this man will never leave me for anyone and I can confidently say that.

I was in school and I dont believe in children out of wedlock. Unlike some people writing rubbish I was raised well and won't dissapoint my parents.I was pursuing a career I'm not the woman that lives of a man. I want to help my partner too.. I admit I played a part in making him upset or nagging him.

Im sorry to dissapoint all these people name calling me, I will not birth children without a commitment. His sister's and people agree with me on this and commend me for wanting to do the right thing. His sister has begged her to remove it its just taking a pill as it has not formed yet. It takes 2 to Tango females should stop playing the victim. You take measures after a one night stand to prevent this it's not all the mans fault.

She is holding on to hopes she will have him. He told me that even if I dont stay he will never be with her. He has made it very clear to the lady but she wont get it through her head. Im sure now she is keeping it to get as much as she can. Women see expensive clothes, cars, watches. You dont know that another woman has made him that way. People like finished product sha.

Im sorry i'm not trying to cause division by saying yoruba . I have just heard stuff about women and men alike. I know everyone is not the same. I dont want to generalize. I just heard these girls use jazz a lot and trap men.they think pregnancy will make him stay and change his mind.

I can confidently say even if I dont end up with this man. Theres nothing he wont do for me even if he goes on to marry someone else. This is how tight our bond is. We are friends first and partners after.

It makes me sad seeing him sad and talking about how he has to deal with a baby he doesn't even want. He is also still in denial and says stuff like im working for my family which is you not for any woman or kid like that.

All these olodos insulting me on here. I told you my father is a millionaire I don't need any man. I'm good. I just wanted someone to help me reason as sometimes loves over powers common sense.

He is sure it will never happen again and he seems sincere about it. Most people just run from relationships with problems you will date someone new or marry it will be the same thing.

My heart is heavy and the trad is this year..im fighting within myself whether I should go ahead but I dont want to live without my bestfriend.

I dont even know if my family will accept this. He is scared to tell them about it....I know they will want me to walk.. Ive stayed with him even through the stigma of dating a nigerian..which is not really accepted back home.he doesn't even know how to tell his parents. I pray it's not his..he wants to wait until paternity is done before anything..but I think shes a smart girl she got pregnant and played her cards right

..i love nigerians guys im not trying to divide my best friend is an igbo lady and she wants me to walk and says I deserve and can do better.Maybe its her putting the anti yoruba thing in me
Tell her to run

Dude is a fucker
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by funmisticqueen(f): 7:47pm On Jan 03
Latbod:
Hi Babe, em so sorry u found urself in this kinda situation buh I think u cause urself pain, obviously. U had everything going on fine till he had that one night stand. Secondly, ur bf had being very loyal to u (notably) buh u chose to make him a bit miserable. U see, men's life is filled with hiccups, sometimes the tide is strong, violent and seems unending and sometimes, we just stroll down the street with our babe hand in hand, jollificating and time slowly pass by. We ain't perfect too, we make mistakes and some are irredeemable - just like this. However, there's always a way outta trouble.

I think the said lady is just a poisonous venom in ur life and u need a strong antidote. She came around to fill that void u left open in ur relationship, I'll advice u tackle it head-on. Prayerfully equip urself and seek spiritual guidance.

As long as I don't support taking a human life, I strongly recommend ur bf work out a modality to take care of the baby after birth, besides she can only claim the baby for a few years (Baba ọmọ ló lọmọ = A child's father owns him). Then u MUST take care of him/her like urs! Since u cause that illegitimate child by ur acts of negligence to ur paramount concern - ur relationship hence, ur family.

However, if the preg is just a few weeks old, probably still in semen or clot, then press hard for its removal and be headstrong. Unfortunately, the lady is aware of ur bf's situation, she would want to exploit him esp when she knows about u. This is a tough predicament, stand ur ground though.

On a final note, don't make ur bf go through another series of hardship and unnecessary troubles. If you're still interested in him, Get Married � Soon (which I pray will be ur resolve). And if u ain't, let him go. There's no point keeping what u won't need. Ohun tí ènìyàn òbá níí jẹ, kìí fíí runmú = U shouldn't smell what you won't eat.

Babe, no one will make ur decisions for u. I see u love ur bf... And I believe u knw what u want. U have three options:
A - Accept Baby, GMS (Get Married Soon)
B - Delete Baby, GMS
C - Let go of ur bf

My advice: Accept this fate (accept the baby and take VERY GOOD CARE of him/her when s/he's with u since u caused it) and GMS.

God bless you.
you are very stupid, how is it her fault that the man got another girl pregnant. Even buhari has more sense than you

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Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Blackhawk03(f): 7:47pm On Jan 03
pocohantas:


Na greiboy people.
Our Naija brothers be repping, home and abroad.

Hahahaha cheesy grin

This meme made my day, babez!

No mind grei na, na their way.
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by GoodFaith: 7:48pm On Jan 03
CorGier:
Hey, y'all bad belles should please back the f*ck up now. Why una wan pour sand for una fellow man garri?
One mistake shouldn't change the fact that that guy has sacrificed and invested in that relationship just as much as her. If anything, this setback should strengthen their bond.

Rubyslims, stick with your man. Them girls on here asking you to dump his ass, ask them the last time any one of them held down a relationship for over a year, let alone 10...10 effin' years.
You seem smart, go girl, show that b!tch who's Boss.

You telling her to stick with JOBLESS MAN
Man spend $500.00 on drinks
Man fail to contribute to help with rent, food, gas and light bill
really
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Espada10: 7:48pm On Jan 03
Next2Bezee:


You were already finished at that moment embarassed

Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by VERDA: 7:50pm On Jan 03
makydebbie:
Bae, if you can't cope, you know what to do.

From your write up, he's irresponsible. Spending money on alcohol when hustling? Putting blames on you?
I know it's painful that you've lost a decade of your life. Marriage is a long term thing oo, can you cope?

Trust has been breached already. This trend has started and because you can forgive whatever gabbage he brings to the table, he'll bring more. And then, it would be too late because you're married. Don't let your sacrifices, wasted time and emotion cloud your reasoning. It's hard tho, easier said than done.

When you get married, the lady and her child becomes a part of your life whether you like it or not.

She has lost a decade of her life?,from her write up in that decade she has done very well for herself,her degree,masters,great job,a lot of self devekooement and all....except of course you feel the value of a woman's life is measure by her being in a great relationship or being married,its just sad she is with a grown ass baby man.

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Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by wristbangle(m): 7:54pm On Jan 03
Purebeerry:
That's what you get when you date ndi ofe mmanu.

A beautiful young lady from Poland shared a sad story yesterday about her ipob husband maltreating her. Even your kins told her he had move in with another lady which of course is from his home town.

Always learn to use your brain and stop behaving like a dirty sow.

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Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by GoodFaith: 7:55pm On Jan 03
U don't have a boyfriend but a garbage
U know what people do with garbage
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Nobody: 7:56pm On Jan 03
Rubysims:
Hi Everyone,

As I write this I dont even know where to start. I am Zimbabwean and I have dated a Yoruba man for 10 years now. We have our fair share of problems but he has remained consistant over the years. I met him when I was 19. He courted me for a full year before I accepted him. I went to school for my bachelors and Masters different continents he always made an effort to follow me wherever I went, or be there whenever I needed anything he would make sure he provided where he could and its done.

I eventually moved to the USA and he eventually relocated to be with me. I have a good job and I come for a very well off family. Im not perfect but I constantly strive to grow in my relationship with Christ. I cook most of the nigerian dishes. Take care of him when he needs me and I support him when necessary too. One time this man came to live with me for a very long time. He didnt support me with rent, bills or food. I did it anyway out of love. You guys, I also stayed for years when he didnt meet any of my needs and all he would say is 'God will provide.' All I ever wanted was an equal partner..of course I submit and Im respectful but I would really also want a man who takes care of his home and family as if you dont it causes resentment.

Anyway fast forward ..4 months ago we had a big fight and it was over me encouraging him to get a job and not rely on hustling, buying and selling etc. The fights started about how I have changed, im this and that. I quickly became the enemy. I also warned him about alcohol consumption as a lot of his money atleast $500 a month is spent on booze and when he drinks he becomes very aggressive and angry. He also asked me for a lump sum of money. He wanted me to withdraw it from my savings and give it to him but I could not do so at the time. Finances make relationships akward also. Lastly he was pestering me about having a baby for him. I said I will not, I was raised well and will never have a child out of wedlock. Anyway he then moved out and went back to his old state and got a place.

Whilst there a friend he knew from school contacted him on ig. They started talking again and the girl made trips to his house. He said about 4. He hardly knows the girl and said they just attended the same school in naija.

Fast forward to my birthday he comes to visit and he started crying. I have never seen this man cry EVER.
I asked him what was wrong and he mentioned his mom and a lot was going on in his life..I Knew she wasn't too well before.I started crying too and comforted him..he left and started acting funny the next day.

After a lot of back and forth days later he broke down again and told me he got a girl pregnant and he was crying saying i wish it wasnt happening and it was you. He sent a message to the girl telling her to get rid of it and asked her why she would want to get married for a man she doesnt know after one night stand. "Girls that trap men sha..

It was a mistake he was drunk and just wanted to bust a nut. They used protection by the way and she was acting like she does not know how it happened. I asked him if he disposed of the condom, no she did. I asked him if he was a learner? Women trap men all the time with sperm.

He went over to her place I was on the other end of the phone listening in. She said she wouldn't do it and was acting possesesd. She said a whole speech about how she can do it alone and his name wont be on birth certificate etc and how she doesn't want a man who does not want her child. She also said 'if your parents did that to you would you be here driving this very expensive car' clap hands for the gold digger everyone. Just as I had suspected.other women see a good thing and want a finished product, they dont know its someone elses work. He told her, he can never ever be with her even if she kept it. He left her house.

30 minutes later his door bell rings and we were still on the phone. She says a whole speech and says she will remove it. When she left we celebrated and we were so happy. God forgive us. I said to myself now I only have to work on trusting him again. Next day she calls and says she changes her mind.. goodness..my boyfriend doesnt want her or her child and she's forcing it on him. Is it by force yoruba gehs sha lol..

I also really need prayers guys I think she does jazz. She told my bf that her pastor in nigeria told her he has someone in his life. What kin pastor b dat.bf is scared to display my pics and I cant see her face because he thinks she might want to harm me. A pastor of God we talked to wanted to talk to her but she says she fears what the girl might do to her.

Omg please pray for me. My boyfriend and i really didnt want a broken home.whats the point of keeping a baby the man doesn't want. I asked him to ask her how much she wants and we will give her the money. She blocked him and got her brother to call him.

He was so desperate he was willing to do anything for her to get rid of it but she wont budge, she has even blocked him.I am praying its not his, she's not pregnant or she just lets us be abeg. Please give me guidance and support. Should i leave this man, will I be able to live with a bastard child and constant reminder of his infidelity? I forgave him eventually after his people begged me and due to our history.

He wants to go see my people so we do the trad, engagement etc so we start on our family..he waited all these years for me to go to school and do what I needed to do and now this. I have to see that mumu woman who ruined my life forever. But believe me you although her child will be catered for she will not get a dime from me or my personal family's inheritance and the wealth acquired from me and my husband. The child will get something but not to the extant she thinks. I will do my homework and file paperwork to protect myself.

Is it common for Yoruba women to trap men. You dont even know this man and one night stand you wont let him be..nawawo.

Do I seem desperate for staying? It has been 10 years and this was not only my man but my friend. I have everything going for me, men approach me always but I turn them down. I have zero baggage.

Please help

I've got one question for you: You mentioned how he buys and sells stuff (hustles), no regular job, the booze and everything. Is he a yahoo boy?

Because if he is, then ALL BETS ARE OFF and you've probably been living a lie/ scam all these years. . . .
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by CorGier: 7:58pm On Jan 03
GoodFaith:


You telling her to stick with JOBLESS MAN
Man spend $500.00 on drinks
Man fail to contribute to help with rent, good


And regardless, she's stuck with him for the better part of a decade. He's her choice. And please, whether jobless, broke, poor or homeless, we all deserve love and the right to hold our own.
There ain't a perfect man.
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Nobody: 8:10pm On Jan 03
wristbangle:


A beautiful young lady from Poland shared a sad story yesterday about her ipob husband maltreating her. Even your kins told her he had move in with another lady which of course is from his home town.

Always learn to use your brain and stop behaving like a dirty sow.
E pain am

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Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by makydebbie(f): 8:10pm On Jan 03
VERDA:


She has lost a decade of her life?,from her write up in that decade she has done very well for herself,her degree,masters,great job,a lot of self devekooement and all....except of course you feel the value of a woman's life is measure by her being in a great relationship or being married,its just sad she is with a grown ass baby man.
Well, she has invested time, money, resource and emotion in that ten years and that's what I'm talking about. You'll feel bad you've wasted time in the wrong person all these while won't you?

And please, jeez I can't say a woman's life is measured by her being in a great relationship or being married lol that's a myopic and stupid reasoning. You misinterpreted.
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by GoodFaith: 8:11pm On Jan 03
CorGier:


And regardless, she's stuck with him for the better part of a decade. He's her choice. And please, whether jobless, broke, poor or homeless, we all deserve love and the right to hold our own.
There ain't a perfect man.
We all deserve love -- I understand woman standing by her man
She is already having problem with her just paying the bill
Dude not having a real JOB
Dude spending $500.00 a month on drink
Please tell me what good this dude is bring into this relationship
Yes there are no perfect person but this dude is a garbage
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by makydebbie(f): 8:13pm On Jan 03
Rubysims:
Anyone can say anything he is not perfect but this man loves me. All these sad people saying 10 years this or that..this man will never leave me for anyone and I can confidently say that.

I was in school and I dont believe in children out of wedlock. Unlike some people writing rubbish I was raised well and won't dissapoint my parents.I was pursuing a career I'm not the woman that lives of a man. I want to help my partner too.. I admit I played a part in making him upset or nagging him.

Im sorry to dissapoint all these people name calling me, I will not birth children without a commitment. His sister's and people agree with me on this and commend me for wanting to do the right thing. His sister has begged her to remove it its just taking a pill as it has not formed yet. It takes 2 to Tango females should stop playing the victim. You take measures after a one night stand to prevent this it's not all the mans fault.

She is holding on to hopes she will have him. He told me that even if I dont stay he will never be with her. He has made it very clear to the lady but she wont get it through her head. Im sure now she is keeping it to get as much as she can. Women see expensive clothes, cars, watches. You dont know that another woman has made him that way. People like finished product sha.

Im sorry i'm not trying to cause division by saying yoruba . I have just heard stuff about women and men alike. I know everyone is not the same. I dont want to generalize. I just heard these girls use jazz a lot and trap men.they think pregnancy will make him stay and change his mind.

I can confidently say even if I dont end up with this man. Theres nothing he wont do for me even if he goes on to marry someone else. This is how tight our bond is. We are friends first and partners after.

It makes me sad seeing him sad and talking about how he has to deal with a baby he doesn't even want. He is also still in denial and says stuff like im working for my family which is you not for any woman or kid like that.

All these olodos insulting me on here. I told you my father is a millionaire I don't need any man. I'm good. I just wanted someone to help me reason as sometimes loves over powers common sense.

He is sure it will never happen again and he seems sincere about it. Most people just run from relationships with problems you will date someone new or marry it will be the same thing.

My heart is heavy and the trad is this year..im fighting within myself whether I should go ahead but I dont want to live without my bestfriend.

I dont even know if my family will accept this. He is scared to tell them about it....I know they will want me to walk.. Ive stayed with him even through the stigma of dating a nigerian..which is not really accepted back home.he doesn't even know how to tell his parents. I pray it's not his..he wants to wait until paternity is done before anything..but I think shes a smart girl she got pregnant and played her cards right

..i love nigerians guys im not trying to divide my best friend is an igbo lady and she wants me to walk and says I deserve and can do better.Maybe its her putting the anti yoruba thing in me
Babe, you're insulting people that took their time to read your epistle and decided to help you with advices? I weak oh.

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Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Latbod(m): 8:17pm On Jan 03
funmisticqueen:
you are very stupid, how is it her fault that the man got another girl pregnant. Even buhari has more sense than you

I believe my opinion is as much valid as urs. U have NO RIGHT to insult me. Pls be advised else... angry angry angry

@Rubysims, the choice is urs. Its apparent u guys are into each other but dating for that long tends to bring issues like this. Like I said earlier, I advice you to stand ur ground, be headstrong and GMS.
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by CorGier: 8:19pm On Jan 03
GoodFaith:

We all deserve love -- I understand woman standing by her man
She is already having problem with her just paying the bill
Dude not having a real JOB
Dude spending $500.00 a month on drink
Please tell me what good this dude is bring into this relationship
Yes there no no perfect person but this dude is a garbage

Well he might be garbage but he's her garbage and she's obviously no willing to trash it yet.

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