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How To Ask A Girl Out by hennyholla17(m): 10:18pm On Jan 04, 2018
Asking a girl out should stand in the top 10 list of the many cases of "easier said than done". Sometimes you may consider to ask yourself " How hard can it be? All I have to do is ask right?". WRONG! (sorry for yelling though). Asking is just the final step. It takes preparation, meditation and obviously attraction. Many guys ask girls out via text, some via social media while some decide to ask girls out in a cute way by staging a performance (which may turn out to be a disaster). If you are planning to have a relationship with her, you don't want to go about asking out a girl you have absolutely no feelings for, this will lead to total disaster in the relationship except you are an expert builder who can also build love and affection.
After asking her out, one thing you can't guarantee yourself is success because female (not only girls) can be difficult sometimes. Some of them may have mood switch in between the space of when you asked them and when you expect a reply. I have seen cases of guys who asked a girl out when she was happy then she became sad the day she was expected to give him a reply.
Let us first look at some of the few tangible reasons why guys ask girls out.

Loneliness: This is everyone's most exceedingly terrible adversary. Loneliness can prompt despondency and furthermore suicide. Many folks may require somebody to impart their contemplation to. Forlornness can end up being extremely difficult sometimes.

Fun: Some folks adore dating young ladies for entertainment purposes. They don't generally like the young lady, they simply need the kissing and the snuggling then they will dump her and move over to another young lady. This is the most exceedingly awful class of men.

Fame: This is just conceivable when you are dating a slay mama, a rich man's girl or a well known girl. Many folks utilize the young lady's acclaim to make them celebrated and turn into their fame.
Love: Yes, love does exist and it's not a myth. One of the numerous uncommon cases, the person really adores the young lady profoundly and need to be with her for quite a while, most likely for forever.
Relationship status (obviously)
Mood
Character
Interest
Appearance
Location
Confidence
Plan yourself
Prepare for the worst

Relationship status: This should be the first obvious thing you must take into consideration. Is she single? You should not make the mistake of asking her out if she's taken but it is not easy to find out if she is single or not especially if she is a stranger. Some girls love to talk about their boyfriends while others can be very discrete so it is difficult to judge other girls from other girls' actions.

If she is someone you know through a friend, then you can find out from that friend - it can't do you any harm. It is also safe to put it in mind that not every lady is interested in getting into a relationship. Make sure you read her well before taking the big leap or else you will fall deep.
Mood: Observe her mood is one important task you must perform before popping the question. Some girls get really offended by the littlest things. You might ask her out when she is tearing up then her reaction may be something like "so you are messing with me right? After all I went through today, you decided to mess with me. No problem."
So the mood is very important. It's best to ask a girl out when she is in her happy mood. Not ecstatic but happy. She can think straight and positively. Instead of finding negative thoughts of why she can not date you, she would rather find positive thoughts. Considering women speak about 20,000 words per day which is 13,000 more than the average man, before you conclude or explain your reason, she must have said all the different reasons why she can't date you. If you have a good sense of humor, this should not prove to be very difficult because most girls like guys with good sense if humor. They all want someone to make them smile even when they don't want to.

Character: Her character reflects how you shod ask her out. If she is someone who is kind hearted, being on your best behaviour is the right thing to do. The way she behaves around you may be different from how she behaves around her friends. It is your job to balance it. Her character heavily affects the reply you will get. Some hot tempered girls will shun you right away while cool tempered girls tend to give you a chance and have a thought about it. Note that most girls are over suspicious: as such, they may try to find lies in everything you say.

Interest: What does she like best? What does she want in a guy? You might need to explore these before you take any step. Try asking her friends or if possible, ask her directly over a nice friendly chat you must have had sometime ago. Make sure you meet at least 75% of her preference. Include some of her interests when you talk but never lie to her. Girls have a way of detecting lies sooner or later. All girls love a good humor and hate a bragging boy. Never brag about yourself. Always allow her to talk about herself. Trust me, his love it.
Read also: 13 signs your life is centered around a girl

Appearance: Are you well dressed? Your appearance matters a ton. Clearly, you need to look great when asking a young lady out. Your hair ought to be very much brushed, attempt to sensibly adjust your fashion sense and hers together. Try not to try too hard however. Ensure it is develop, crisp and satisfactory. This will give you a 50-50 possibility of her yes before you even ask her.
What you look like isn't simply a shallow thought. Looking awesome gives a sign of your level of sense of pride and scrupulousness, and these are imperative prompts that ladies will get on. Once more, you don't need to be dressed like the nines and resembling a male model consistently; the fact is to be crisp, perfect and transmitting sense of pride.

Location : The location where you will pop the question needs to lead to success. You don't want to pop the question in front of her parents or many friends. You also shouldn't ask a girl out when she is buying food stuffs or doing some chores. It should be private but not to private and she should be less busy.
The ideal location should be based on how well you know her and where you meet or run into her often. Make her feel respect.

Confidence: If you don';t have confidence, then you are bound to fail (no offence). You need an almost immeasurable amount of confidence before you can ask a girl out. She needs to know she is secure and will always put faith in you. How you approach her will tell a lot about your confidence.
Plan yourself: The saying "If you fail to plan, you plan to fail" is very accurate in this kind of situation. You must know the right things to say and you must also be prepared for any questions she might ask you. Girls ask a lot of questions...sometimes for fun. If you don't have the answer for at least 85% of her questions, how then do you plan on winning her.

Prepare for the worst: Yes! She might disgrace you., pull off your trousers or maybe call you all sorts of disgusting names. You must be prepared for any of these situations. There is a 50% chance that you will be embarrassed but your preparation will help reduce the embarrassment.
If you have any other tip, please feel free to drop them in the comment section below.
Happy asking out!!!


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Re: How To Ask A Girl Out by Oxster(m): 10:19pm On Jan 04, 2018
FTC
Re: How To Ask A Girl Out by greatnaija01: 10:21pm On Jan 04, 2018
never ask a lady out... IMPROVE YOURSELF and BE THE OBJECT OF HER FANTASY to a point that the lady will be expecting you to ask before you ask. That way, you will always get a YES. grin

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Re: How To Ask A Girl Out by Nedfed(m): 10:29pm On Jan 04, 2018
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Re: How To Ask A Girl Out by OJ111(m): 6:58pm On Jan 31, 2023
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