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|She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by hyperflex(m): 6:08pm On Jan 11|
I'm a very picky guy. I have gone 2 - 3yrs without relationship but I got girls I call if I have to have sex. I have shied away from banging lagos girls anyhow. Anyway that's not the bone of contention.
I lost my job some years back and for the next years after I was trying to get back into the work force but I only met closed doors and rejection. So I have not been able to make much money to get some things done for myself. I decided to stay with a cousin who's got an apartment. Don't even ask if I have a car lol. Sometime in 2016 I decided to start my own entertainment brand. It's been lethargic because of funds by I am not losing focus. I'm trying to get sponsors. I don't want to mention name of the brand so tomorrow when it blows up someone won't come and cast me with this post. Lol
People are always asking for my girlfriend and for me I believe in being responsible and being able to cater and make your woman shine. If you can't make her better than you met her just leave her. So I stayed away from dating as I also have a soft heart when I fall in love. Other times I am indifferent. I don't just fall for anyone like I said I'm picky but once I pick I know I am in trouble because I will be weak for her.
I met this cute girl on twitter. She was so vibrant and happy. I mean a girl so cute with such high vibes. I felt strong about her immediately. Got her number, went on WhatsApp, chat and chat, WhatsApp videos. It was the best thing that happened to me at the time (September ending last year). She has her own hustle going. So she makes money for herself. As I got to know her I realised behind the big smiles and jovial nature is a girl who hides her fears and pains. You could hurt her and she'd act like it's nothing.
While I was toasting her (still toasting) she told me how her ex whos was very generous to her turned out to be a married man with kids and she only got to know when she went visiting him. I asked her what she did. She said she turned around and left. There n then I knew she internalised a lot.
In summary, we met only once. She came to where I stayed at my cousin's. We had this brief fling that day. After she left everything went south since then. The WhatsApp calls have reduced to nothing, she doesn't talk to me in what I think is a deliberate act to ignore me. She tells me she likes me, she comes up with excuses why our dating won't work. I keep nullifying it. I want to think it's a money thing. Her exes were made men with cars n all. I love her like my life depends on her. I feel I should let her be but my heart can't take it. I have taken advise from some places but I just wanna drop it here one time. I want her so bad. I don't think I could ever hurt her. I don't even wanna camp her or anything. I just want her to show me the girl I tripped for. I call her now she cuts me off with any excuse like she's eating and all that stuff girls do when they don't want a guy. I wanna forgot her but I think I still have a shot at this. I love her so much. Maybe I just need to find someone who cares but who?
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|Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by kimbraa(f): 6:18pm On Jan 11|
On coming to your cousin's place, and getting to know you better; she realised you weren't the dude she was projecting you to be_in essence, you're not her kind of man. It's best you let her be, though it hurts, but if you make up your mind to, you'll.
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|Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by hyperflex(m): 6:25pm On Jan 11|
Lol I figured that could be but I already told her that.
My theory is that she has guys who r wanting same from her. I categorically asked her if she's dating anyone or bleeping anyone n her answers were NO. Not like I expected she'd say Yes to that tho. So much for finding a woman who loves u while your a nobody. I love her I no go lie. Mans no go dey like this pass this year. Anyways thanx for being straight.
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|Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by Ollygentle(m): 6:27pm On Jan 11|
Bro, you met her once and she realised you ain't the guy she pictured to be, you should have understood her body language better and even understand her feelings when you met her once.
Was she excited when she met you, did she talk in a lovely tone when both of you were conversing, you know you could have definitely read her mind through her actions.
Just let her go and hope for someone better than.
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|Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by kimbraa(f): 6:31pm On Jan 11|
hyperflex:No human being is indispensable. Just make up your mind to focus all that energy you're using now into something more productive for yourself. Some women don't understand days of little beginning. At least you know she's not the kind that'd stick around when the chips are down.
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|Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by hyperflex(m): 6:34pm On Jan 11|
I understand your angle Bro. Thing is after then we've had long WhatsApp chats still. Then she went to her friends place and it got worse. We still chatted this January when I quizzed her about her changing. I feel like she's got guys on her case which is what is distracting. While u guys think it was because of her coming to see me. She opined that maybe it was cuz of the sex we had. Honestly I feel it could be just an excuse to cover for another excuse. But I appreciate it tho. Thanks G
|Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by Ollygentle(m): 6:38pm On Jan 11|
Were you the 1 that made advance for sex or her and did she give in to you willingly without you pestering her for it?
|Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by pocohantas(f): 6:38pm On Jan 11|
You just experienced firsthand, one of the downsides of online dating. It comes with so many "WHAT IFs".
I wanna forgot her but I think I still have a shot at this. I love her so much.
This is how people end up as back-up boyfriend or sponsors sef. She is showing you the signs now, you're there thinking you still have a shot. Well, I can see you like her a lot, but you need to realise love is a whole lot stressful when the other party isn't reciprocating. Loving should be easy. I know it's easier to say, I will suggest you get a hold of yourself and slowly detach from her.
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|Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by RadicallyBlunt: 6:47pm On Jan 11|
Both of you need sense rebranding and awakening from slumber. Instead of you to focus on how to stop living with ur cousin and be in a sound financial position where girls of different kind can search you out and it will be your turn to pick, you're there chasing a girl who is not willing to be yours.
She on d other hand is as picky as you are. If d two of you finish seeing all ur nakednness thru dating, what will be d next point of action for a picky gf...it will be to pick another man who appears appealing to her than you.
Somebody told you d reason she loved her ex was because he was very generous..is dat not enough for you to wake up from ur slumber? Some girls are looking for men who are faithfully loyal, a father figure and a lover of God, she dey find generous man and you sef out of ur poverty wan meet up with d standard of generous man
Yeye dey smell!
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|Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by hyperflex(m): 6:49pm On Jan 11|
Honestly I did. She did willingly. But I sensed she was reluctant at some point and she's the shy type.
|Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by pocohantas(f): 6:53pm On Jan 11|
You're seriously making excuses for her.
Back-up boyfriend will fit you gaan.
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|Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by hyperflex(m): 6:53pm On Jan 11|
Bro u harsh o! i avoid this so hard uno. I've always been careful but this one time I just thought I'd try and see if I could be good enough for someone without being flashy. I guess not. Your harsh opinion is so on point. Money, Power then they will come. #Scarface
|Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by Doerstech(m): 6:54pm On Jan 11|
Focus on your hustle and move on...
|Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by hyperflex(m): 6:58pm On Jan 11|
If I didnt feel this way I have no proof of the love.
Anyways I don't play that back up ish. Too jealous for that. Thanks anyways. At some point it got annoying but u wan dey para for girl wey never even agree to date u?? My WhatsApp mssgs dey grow white hair b4 she answers n when she does its this long Heeyyyyyy like I'm a stranger or like so u still dey? Bleep me. My oloshos can't even get me this way.
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|Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by Blackhawk03(f): 7:00pm On Jan 11|
Ittiz love, babez.
I love seeing guys fall in love, their mumu no dey get part2...
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|Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by waywardpikin(m): 7:02pm On Jan 11|
How can you think you still have a shot at this after what I just read? Bia nwoke, don't annoy me today.
You're not what the girl thought you'd be. Simple.
Chairman I have to be honest with you, your case is critical. The last thing you need right now is a woman. Come on, what are you gonna feed her with? Trip her with? Can you comfortably take her out to the cinema or to the the beach? Do you have an apartment of your own (we can excuse the car for now but you need to get you one of those)? Do you have a steady stream of income? Unless you find a girl that is willing to love you in your present condition, then OYO is your case.
I know as guys we don't like to hear this, but a man is not a man until he has figured out and set up his financial life properly. Especially in Obodo Nigeria.
You need to fix up your life bro. You don't need this emotional higi-haga right now. I know say one day you go make us proud, so focus on what is really important in your life's journey right now. The girl did nothing wrong. Neither did you.
I believe in you!
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|Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by hyperflex(m): 7:04pm On Jan 11|
Thank you. Really prec8
|Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by Chikita66(f): 7:04pm On Jan 11|
She treats you like an option and you still love her..
Wow, so pathetic.
|Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by hyperflex(m): 7:08pm On Jan 11|
Looooool honestly all the answersu guys r giving r expected. Just wanted to bring myself to the court of public opinion for once lol.love us beautiful if it's reciprocated but this isn't so I know it's not worth it. It's fun to see u guys drag me tho
|Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by NwanyiAwkaetiti(f): 7:11pm On Jan 11|
@Hyperflex many a time we trip for online personas but after meeting one on one, that affection dies cos perhaps that person didn't really meet up to the idea you held of him. It happens. You better move on and hook up with homely ladies around you.
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|Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by tensazangetsu20(m): 7:13pm On Jan 11|
Chikita66:This are the kind of beta males we are breeding in Nigeria now.
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|Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by luminouz(m): 7:25pm On Jan 11|
Chikita66:U registered yday n ur flying upandan
Will u sit down there n be kwayet?
Pathetic ko ..athletic ni
|Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by Rayhandrinni(m): 7:26pm On Jan 11|
Bollocks mate, she likes you...but you are a broke wankerr, so "relationship can't work out"
|Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by Martin0(m): 7:33pm On Jan 11|
How about ladies?v
|Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by michlins: 7:33pm On Jan 11|
I don't know why after reading this story, this phrase keeps ringing in my head.
If you no get money, hide your face
|Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by drnoel: 7:57pm On Jan 11|
Its not everything u want badly that u get. While I was still pursing women in my younger days I realised its those girls I pursued like my life depended on it that I dont get so I had to redefine my goal. No woman is worth all that stress, let her go
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|Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by samfy2662: 9:56pm On Jan 11|
Only God knows dat i learnt alot from ur experience nd d response of people.D last coment got me laughing,@if u no get money hide ur face".Kindly move on bruv
|Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by desreek9(f): 11:30pm On Jan 11|
I always advice people to ask about the previous relationship, what led to the breakup so as to know what to work on going forward, she clearly told you her ex was generous, that was a hint but you ignored and she saw that u stay with your cousin, that was a turn-off
She obviously excites you even after having sex which is rare for most to guys to admit but you dont excite and intrigue her even after sex which is rare for ladies cos after sex we become somehow attached.
So my advice, give her space, you've showed your intentions, if she doesnt budge, forget her.
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|Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by publicenemy(m): 11:31pm On Jan 11|
..." I met this cute girl on twitter " ...
This is where I stopped reading Ur post.
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|Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by SmartyPants(m): 11:31pm On Jan 11|
aaaaaahhhh are you a learner??
The moment a small girl smells the bolded on you, you are done for.
When dealing with small girls you have to manage them carefully, and keep them chasing you till you are certain they are hooked. The only thing that will make that girl interested again is if she sees you with someone as fine or finer than she is.
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|Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by Pebcak: 11:31pm On Jan 11|
not to lowball women but they stay for some or all of these in no order
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