I am curious. Have you?

I pray your answer is no. No, because anyone reading this would be in their twenties, thirties or forties. At these periods in your lives, you shouldn’t have seen it all. You should still have a void, a space yet to be filled with adventure, in your heart.

Yes, sex is an adventure to me. Exploring your partner’s body and feeling them tense under your touch, hearing them whimper when you graze those sensitive spots, feeling them quiver beneath you, listening to them moan and cling to you.

That’s adventure.

However, not all sexual activities are to be regarded as such. Some are mere journeys, one you’d never want to embark upon again. The adventurous ones are those you wish they never ends.

Think of the last time you had sex. If someone had asked you to describe how it went, what would have your response been? You’d have said it was good, right?

Well, good is not enough. Good is ordinary.

Excellent is ok.

When you start using words like awesome or wow, then I’d say you are getting there.

Jennifer Lopez once described her sexual relationship with Ben Affleck as ‘knee shaking.’ Your partner should make you feel that way.

Sex should never be ordinary, why engage in it if it’s that bland?

Until you start saying things like, ‘it was destiny altering’ or ‘mind numbing’ or ‘I felt like my soul was leaving my body’, you aren’t really having sex yet. You are being cheated of the ultimate pleasure.

Good sex would mess up your head. Good sex will mess up your emotions. It will turn you into jelly in the hands of your partner.

Good sex doesn’t have anything to do with how big or attractive your partner is. It has nothing to do with how long they last or how fast they go. The actual sex doesn’t even really matter.

Good sex is psychical.

It is more of a mind thing.

The first step to achieving the ultimate pleasure is to not be selfish. Once one partner is holding back, the other one is being cheated.

You can’t be shy and you can’t be uncommunicative. Your priority should be to please your partner, as theirs is to please you. Both of you are performers at a symphony; two orchestras with one goal.

None should be lazy. None should be slow. Nothing should be rushed.

Though the ladies have a lot to do, the man has to lead. It’s a shame though that the men of my generation are all about bravado and how macho they are. It’s not uncommon to hear them say, ‘I lasted thirty minutes’ or ‘she was begging me to stop’ or something like ‘I almost kill am’.

Oga, did she have an orgasm?

Or let me ask in street parlance, ‘did she come?’

Ask some men this and you see them become uncomfortable. They don’t know what it means and don’t even care.

Annoyingly, most women only know it by name and have never experienced it.

Imagine asking a twenty five year old graduate if she’s ever had an orgasm and her response to you is, ‘ki lo n je be?’

Yes, that’s how ignorant many are.

Are you in that bracket? Stop wasting your time having shitty sex.

Unlike men, women don’t get to orgasm easily. The female orgasm is elusive but not impossible to get. It takes patience, dexterity, skills, patience and communication between both partners. I think I forgot to mention patience.

You need patience because you are trying to achieve a goal that requires focus. It’s like trying to dig for treasure with your hands, a treasure that you are certain is there. So you dig with your dexterious fingers, slooowly.

Then bring your tongue into play. I don’t think it was made for food tasting alone. I am not your sex teacher so I can’t say much.

I barely know anything myself.

Sex is an art, to those who know. So think of yourself as an artist with specialised sets of skills. Use your fingers, use your tongue and ask your partner questions.

Guy’s ask her if you are doing it right. Ladies, tell him if he’s doing it right or wrong. Tell him what he has to do.

Tell him what gets you off. Guide his fingers.

To have sex, you both have to get naked. If you can get naked in his presence and you aren’t able to communicate with him then all is not right.

You have gone past the ‘I am shy’ stage.

Be ready to experiment.

If you’ve been having sex as a lady and you haven’t experienced the big O, my condolence.

Your mother’s don’t even know what it means and they are alive so you won’t die too.

I am going to bed. Maybe I’d write a second part…



P.S: if you are reading this as a man and you want to go from the bragger to the one they’d brag about, I’d recommend these books.
MouthAction she’d never forget by Sonia Borg
The Guide to getting it on by Paul Joannides
She comes first by Ian Kenner

Read them and you’d be all right.

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What an epistle.

Bross, all this long epistle just for sex alone abi? Please fear God.

Nice one op

I date a cougar
Believe me when I tell you this



There is nothing like great sex on a Saturday morning
With breakfast served on bed