Nice is boring, familiar and not challenging, this is why people already have an answer to a simple 'hello' without thinking about how to response.


Being too nice means you're trying hard to impress her and that give the impression that you're weaker with lesser value and you need to be too nice to raise your value in her eyes.


A man should be his own mental point of origin, this means his happiness and satisfaction comes from inside, he doesn’t need a girl vibes to motivate him to achieve the goal he set out for himself.


He should not ask the woman for direction or what and how to do things but ask her what she thinks and want.

The man is her security, protection and her leadership, so don't make her scared by not knowing what you're suppose to do.


If you don't know, fake it, when you fail, own it, try again or do something else rather than making her insecure or scared by not knowing what to do.


Owning your failure makes you man, it's masculinity. I noted this in What Make Man, A Man? (http://www.themencode.com.ng/2017/10/25/masculinity-makes-man-man/). When you succeed, own it because you made it happen.


What She NEED not WANT



When it comes to buying her gift especially on Valentine's day, you get her what she need not want, she may have insinuated what she will like to have or you may have notice her reaction when she see some items when you're out together.



If she like to workout, get her a work out mat, if you notice she's gotten not a enough bra, get her a bra. Fuc*k buying chocolate, ice cream or flowers, you're not buying sex. You're buying her what she really need.



Gift shouldn't be too expensive, what is important is the intention of the giver and who the gift is coming from. If your girl don't appreciate the gift you offer, she don't deserve you.



The fact no matter how small a gift, if it's something your woman really NEED, she will thank you for it. The problem with many guys is they offer gift their girlfriend want and has no need for.


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