Nayah:

looooooool samy no oh just my nigerian friend just propose me and told me if I agree he wants to see my arents I just laugh becasue I was surprised

this doesnt sound quite right.

Nigerian men do date and marry non-Nigerians in huge numbers.

and just today I read an article about an Australian lady married to a Nigerian who is considered one of the foremost authorities on eastern Nigerian history. The woman, that is, not her Nigerian husband.
Many more like her, too.

and on NL alone, there are countless threads praising non-Nigerian women. So I'm not too sure what this thread is about, actually.

mby247:

Basically I think I have to agree with Uju arguement all thru. I live in diaspora and I date a non-nigerian but I don't see myself getting married to her due to so many factors. Experience they say is a teacher and "wetin u no know pass U". I can't renounce my country n citizenship just because of a girl and vice versa and moreover, if u marry n give birth abroad, someday U would come back home for real and your wife might not wanna come with you because of the hardship n economic situation back home and your children would be a citizen of another country cos they where born. Wat is the joy of a mother or a father to see it children/grandchild around? Wat is your aim investing back home when you know your children wont come 2 nigeria to manage wen you are no more? Though some country encourage dual citizenship while some don't but I bet, your children can't and won't wanna stay in Nigeria after seeing all goods of life in an advance country. There are so many issues to look at wen marry a non-nigeria as it doesn't end in relationship but future ahead. Culture, tradition, distance as to do with it. I see interracial marriage as something that separate family cos I won't leave in your country forever and like her and my children would prefer living in a develop society so wat are you to do in this case?. If any1 is ready to sacrifice and renounce is country for love, think over it cos 1 day U would wanna go back to the same slum you where born or the same silverspoon you once eat with and that alone break marriage.

Ujujoan:



What are you talking about? Anybody can read History! Besides why do you think it made the news

Part of our problem is that we get sentimental about issues and decide to rationalize out way out of it! A select minority 'praising' Non-Nigerians doesnt mean the Nigerains aer open to interracial marriage!

More and more Nigerians are marrying whites, but trust me, it has nothing to do with love!

If you think I'm lying, let's get details of the poster's relationship with her BF!

Well, as a white woman often attracted to black men (and some hot Nigerian ones) I am beginning to understand why it's hard to get close to them

marabout:

My sister,  like many have already mentioned, one cannot generalise. What is sure is that it takes some effort to live with someone from a different culture in addition to the efforts that a relationship/marriage requires irrespective of who you marry.  You have to ask yourself if you want to make such extra effort. If you do, wonderful.

It is a bit like a Nigerian going to study in China. You have to first learn Chinese before you can start the studies proper. I have dated ladies of various nationalities. Prejudice and racism in most of their families was horrendous. 

There was one funny case where I took a caucasion ex-girlfriend on holiday to several European countries. We returned to London and she phoned her mother in "Middle England" telling her how much she enjoyed Europe and how wonderfully I showed her round several European cities. She was very careful not to reveal to her mother that I am black person for fear that she might have a heart attack! All that on the eve of the millenium.  When the relationship ended, that was it. No more foreigners.

Believe me, despite our modern individualism, we still do need the support of our friends and families in marriage, especially when sometimes the couple have difficulties.

When I was younger, I was rather idealistic and naive, preaching that race, culture and skin colour don't matter. In an ideal world, it shouldn't matter. But the world is not ideal.

It becomes more difficult with time when the man wants to go back home for good and become an elder. If he's from an aristocratic family, chances are he will have to return home when his father dies especially if he's the senior son. The foreign lady may decide that she doesn't want to go.

This is not to discourage anyone but just speaking from my own experience. It works for some, it doesn't work for some. My parents were never against marrying a foreigner but I decided against it after my experience. Going by the experience of those around me over the years, the success rate is quite low. Well experience is the teacher. No venture, no success. Bonne Chance!

What are you talking about? Anybody can read History! Besides why do you think it made the news  

Part of our problem is that we get sentimental about issues and decide to rationalize out way out of it! A select minority 'praising' Non-Nigerians doesnt mean the Nigerains aer open to interracial marriage!

More and more Nigerians are marrying whites, but trust me, it has nothing to do with love!

If you think I'm lying, let's get details of the poster's relationship with her BF!  

Basically I think I have to agree with Uju arguement all thru. I live in diaspora and I date a non-nigerian but I don't see myself getting married to her due to so many factors. Experience they say is a teacher and "wetin u no know pass U". I can't renounce my country n citizenship just because of a girl and vice versa and moreover, if u marry n give birth abroad, someday U would come back home for real and your wife might not wanna come with you because of the hardship n economic situation back home and your children would be a citizen of another country cos they where born. Wat is the joy of a mother or a father to see it children/grandchild around? Wat is your aim investing back home when you know your children wont come 2 nigeria to manage wen you are no more? Though some country encourage dual citizenship while some don't but I bet, your children can't and won't wanna stay in Nigeria after seeing all goods of life in an advance country. There are so many issues to look at wen marry a non-nigeria as it doesn't end in relationship but future ahead. Culture, tradition, distance as to do with it. I see interracial marriage as something that separate family cos I won't leave in your country forever and like her and my children would prefer living in a develop society so wat are you to do in this case?. If any1 is ready to sacrifice and renounce is country for love, think over it cos 1 day U would wanna go back to the same slum you where born or the same silverspoon you once eat with and that alone break marriage.

Damysa:



why must u bring your children home to suffer? whether oyibo or naija kids, when its time for them to be on thier own, they will leave u period. whether u have same culture, tradition etc is not a determining factor for a successful marriage.

SOPRANO:

@ NAYA,
I WASN'T AWARE OF THE FACT THAT YOUR DUDE IS AN IBO MAN . ONE THING I WILL TELL YOU IS: DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME GURL, IBO FOLKS DON'T DO THE INTER-RACIAL-TRIBAL MARRIAGE THINGY WELL, YOU ARE BETTER-OFF WITH A YORUBA MAN INSTEAD, THEY ARE MORE OPEN MINDED CONCERNING INTER-RACIAL OR INTER-TRIBAL MARRIAGE OF WHICH STATISTICS SUBSTANTIALLY SUPPORTS. THE TENDENCIES FOR THE YORUBAS TO MARRY OUT OF THEIR CULTURE EMINATES FROM THE COLONIAL ERA WHEN THEY EMIGRATED EN-MASS TO ENGLAND AND RETURNING WITH FOREIGN SPOUSES. AT FIRST, IT WAS A LITTLE UNCOMFORTABLE BUT AS TIME WENT BY, THEY GOT USED TO THE IDEA HENCE CONTINUE TILL TODAY. EVEN WITHIN NIGERIAN CULTURE, YORUBA AND HAUSA/FULANI FOLKS INTER-MARRY EACH OTHER A WHOLE LOT COMPARE TO IBO'S WITH OTHER NIGERIAN CULTURE. SO MY LIL 50 CENT OF ADVICE TO YOU IS: IF YOU R BENT ON MARRYING A NIGERIAN, YOU ARE BETTER OFF WITH YORUBA OR NIGER-DELTA MEN.

adconline:

Are u a sociologist or a statistician? Do you have any data to back up these generalisations? U are saying that if "A" happens that be "B" MUST happen. Can you bet with your life that "B" must happen? Show me facts not emotions or stereotypes. How can you speak for over 100 million folks? This is 2010 it ain't 1900.

Nayah:

The saintz that's beautiful thing magical an a good example of integration
Babsmii with all respect don't be so sure our sister in Africa can sometimes be calculators, and manipulate their hsuand, the problem is sometimes some guys need a dependant girl or woman who does what the guy wants, at least this is the impression I have when it comes to marriage I've heard sometimes" african women from diaspora hae forgotten their traditions fro western countries ones" and for me it's an amplification. I mean of course when you were born in European country you can be influenced by the environnement and it's a normal fact because you don't live alone, you need to integrate. But do not forget we have a strong african culture our parents give to us. I'm french I was born there from Cameroonian parents but I can testify I have this strong culture inside me and very proud of that, but I live with my time.

Olibyno yes this is my picture and thanks for the compliment for my contact this is not the most important please answer to the topic thanks lol

morpheus24:

This answer is too simple

Nigerians within Nigeria borders will prefer to marry someone of their ethnic back ground or closer to their area of origin because of proximity.

Nigerians who spread out across Africa will inevitably take on wives from these areas they settle in but probably look for traits that are similar to their cultural values. Some Nigerians are polygamous in culture and so do not see a big issue with taking on second wives if the opportunity arises. it depends on the individual

Nigerians outside of Africa will inevitably marry people from these regions depending on their values and customs.

Bottom line it depends on your value system and if it is compatible,though some people chuck this fact out the window. They everly regret it when they get much older.

SOPRANO:

@ Justwise
I"M NOT EVEN FROM THAT REGION, I'M ONLY CITING THE FACTUALLY OBVIOUS WHICH NEGATE ME BEING BIAS. I DID INTERNSHIP AT THE U.N AND IMF IN WASHINGTON D.C. AFTER DURING AND COLLEGE AND MY RESEARCH FIELD DEALT WITH WESTERN AFRICAN AND EASTHERN AFRICAN SOCIO-ECONOMICAL CHARACTERISTICS IN THE PRE AND POST COLONIAL ERA AS RELATES TO GLOBAL ENVIRONMENT WHICH HAPPEN TO INVOLVE MARRIAGE AND CULTURE , SO I THINK YOU CAN APPRECIATE MY NEUTRALITY HERE, DON'T KILL THE MESSENGER!!

moremi2008:

Yes, Nigerians marry citizens of other countries. One of our esteemed [size=14pt]dishonourable [/size] Senators just married an Egyptian baby!