How do I let go!

I easily forgive, but hardly forgets and it is now affecting my relationship.

My Fiancee loves me like mad! Even though she denies it, but I don't need an oracle to tell she deeply loves me.

She's a good lady but she takes pleasure in getting me very angry, almost all the time, all in the name that she is playing with me. She plays & jokes with things I don't play or joke with and she never apologizes but will be the first to call me or visit me and pretend as if she did not just hurt my feelings.

One of the constant quarrels we always have is that she acts as if we are competitors rather than partners. Many times I tried to correct that impression, but still the same, she competes with me in everything, which I do not like. It kills the joy of the relationship, but to her she thinks it will ignite the sparks in the relationship. Which man wants to compete with his wife-to-be at all times.

She is the Me Me type. It must always be her way or she will sulk for some time. She always say she is The WOMAN so it is one of my responsibilities to make her happy at all times, irrespective of my own feelings and emotions at that particular moment. Which I have refused to oblige!

She is very accommodating, forgiving & giving as well!

She thinks I don't love her enough or I am not proud of her, because we don't act like those couples in Zee World & Telemundo movies.

She has tried by all means to force me to tell her how much I love her; but I keep telling her there are things you just can't force people to tell you if you want them to be honest with you. Their actions prove to you how much they love you and at the right time they will be the ones to willingly call you and tell you how much you mean to them. By forcing them to tell you, they might tell you what you want to always hear, but their hearts are far from the truth. But Madam no wan hear word!

Meanwhile she has never told me how much she loves me! Because it is not lady like according to her.

I stutter a little bit and she always make fun of it, which I least expected her to! I have communicated that to her but she still does all in the name that she is playing with me. None of my girlfriends ever did that! None even in anger! None did so! She is the first! And she would be wife! [b]And it still shocks me whenever she does that![/b]And it hurts badly! And I don't want to react in anger!

Now we are having issue, instead of planning our wedding we are at cold war. Though she tries all the time to reach out in love, but I constantly find it very hard to pretend that all is well!

I need to let go! Like her at all times, but it is very very difficult for me. How do I let Go?
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Its because you allowed it, whatever you don't want in a relationship or courtship start to curb it now. Cos when marriage gets in the picture its gonna be a different ball game and you won't be able to reverse the hand of time or better still you be frustrated more than what you are saying now.

femolacqua:
Its because you allowed it, whatever you don't want in a relationship or courtship start to curb it now. Cos when marriage gets in the picture its gonna be a different ball game and you won't be able to reverse the hand of time or better still you be frustrated more than what you are saying now.

Thanks Bros! That's what I am doing right now! God Bless