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Re: My Husband Puts His Family’s Interest Over Mine by NewMe135: 6:09am On Mar 25, 2018 |
twosquare: Thank you |
Re: My Husband Puts His Family’s Interest Over Mine by Nobody: 6:15pm On Mar 25, 2018 |
[quote author=NewMe135 post=66124923][/quote]By their fruit ye shall no them and by their utterance the mind is revealed. |
Re: My Husband Puts His Family’s Interest Over Mine by mikolo80: 8:31pm On Mar 25, 2018 |
NewMe135:define healthy distance so? so now you own him cos you gave all your income you think you've done anything special and did all she could to make him and his family happy,you try to make everyone happy you make no one happy only to be seen as a weak person who they can use like she fell from the sky.you are weak Maybe if she also tells you that her husband bought a property in Nigeria with their sweat, but she has never set her eyes on the documents, not even a picture of it.so? buy your own na you want your kids to grow up indisciplined abi cos you de yankee first mistake I gathered everything inside of me. What happens to an elastic when it is stretched beyond its limits? IT WILL CUT!!!de fool ursef it will break Do you know that our physical well-being is controlled by our inner peace? Maybe you go do some research.you knew all this yet posted on public forum you're not very bright If you face a quarter of what I faced, you will not live to tell the stories.ppl have faced worse and don't beach and moan like you hey dumdum you were not married out you chose to marry a guy whose priority you are not and tell him and his family to treat her she fell from the sky.[quote] |
Re: My Husband Puts His Family’s Interest Over Mine by mikolo80: 8:35pm On Mar 25, 2018 |
cococandy:which vow are you talking about can you read and comprehend or you just makin sht up she is the one looking for ring by any means necessary.guys don't need you,you need us to be complete |
Re: My Husband Puts His Family’s Interest Over Mine by mikolo80: 8:40pm On Mar 25, 2018 |
ImaIma1:we're talking bare survival you are talking home interference
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Re: My Husband Puts His Family’s Interest Over Mine by mikolo80: 8:41pm On Mar 25, 2018 |
[quote author=Kinggnicole post=66101994][/quote]they are not making life difficult for her she did that all by herself when she married him knowing how he fet about his family |
Re: My Husband Puts His Family’s Interest Over Mine by mikolo80: 8:42pm On Mar 25, 2018 |
Kinggnicole:good woman shud not marry ppl that will treat her like slave |
Re: My Husband Puts His Family’s Interest Over Mine by mikolo80: 8:42pm On Mar 25, 2018 |
cococandy:why shud we. you comparing yoursef to man i pity you |
Re: My Husband Puts His Family’s Interest Over Mine by mikolo80: 8:45pm On Mar 25, 2018 |
not everywoman will be as naive as you are NewMe135:no man will stand for such nonesense next time look bfor you leap |
Re: My Husband Puts His Family’s Interest Over Mine by mikolo80: 8:46pm On Mar 25, 2018 |
NewMe135:she will go back to her fathers house that day |
Re: My Husband Puts His Family’s Interest Over Mine by mikolo80: 8:48pm On Mar 25, 2018 |
NewMe135:now ur real colour showing relationship from long distance is not relationship yes you do I could even contribute.you think caring is all about money. But he should keep a healthy distance. Ask google the meaning of healthy distance. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Puts His Family’s Interest Over Mine by mikolo80: 8:49pm On Mar 25, 2018 |
NewMe135:can he afford the short visits |
Re: My Husband Puts His Family’s Interest Over Mine by mikolo80: 8:52pm On Mar 25, 2018 |
NoToPile:oyinbo chudren don't love strict grandparents how are they hurting her she has so much money why doesn't she get a bigger house or housemaids to help instead of trying to kick his family out. how wud she like it if her husband said her family shud live in hotel |
Re: My Husband Puts His Family’s Interest Over Mine by mikolo80: 8:57pm On Mar 25, 2018 |
NewMe135:did bible know that buhari and pdp will turn economy upsidedown hahahahaha plenty women can be hired to take care of men till their death it only takes a will to enforce their loyalty its funny how you insult strangers and don't realise it is why the family don't like youu again your family did not marry you off,you chose to marry that him and his family will will use them like they fell from the sky.who no like awoof
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Re: My Husband Puts His Family’s Interest Over Mine by mikolo80: 9:02pm On Mar 25, 2018 |
NewMe135:what else are they good for But it is these same women that will bear children you will call your own for you.so?other women can do same Why don’t you impregnate one of your sisters let them have children for you.called inbreeding,talk with sense not emotion Or better still, marry them since you love your family so much. If you still have parents, ask them where their parents are now. Also ask them where their siblings are now. They are/have living/lived their lives already. Your father and mother will remain together and be there for each other till death do them path. Carry your family on ur head okay. And stupidly ignore your immediate family.is he providing roof for you food school fees how has he neglected you Let’s see how you will be treated at your old age.be fooling yourself you are easily replaced his family is not ask oyinbo ppl how that turns out for them in old age I don’t hate them, in fact, I LOVE THEM SO MUCH. But maturity is placing people and things in priority. I will place my immediate family in priority. |
Re: My Husband Puts His Family’s Interest Over Mine by mikolo80: 9:03pm On Mar 25, 2018 |
bukatyne:they know their daughters will be taking care of their husbands family.why do you think ppl always want boys |
Re: My Husband Puts His Family’s Interest Over Mine by mikolo80: 9:04pm On Mar 25, 2018 |
boys and girls not equal take it or leave it NoToPile: |
Re: My Husband Puts His Family’s Interest Over Mine by mikolo80: 9:05pm On Mar 25, 2018 |
NewMe135:and your own family abandoned you and you don't see you're the problem. |
Re: My Husband Puts His Family’s Interest Over Mine by mikolo80: 9:08pm On Mar 25, 2018 |
NewMe135:and why do you present yourself for blaming.why are you carrying them on your head.do your best and leave the rest.why not leave the house for them.only come in to sleep and find your way the next day till they leave.choose your battles wisely |
Re: My Husband Puts His Family’s Interest Over Mine by Espada10: 9:40pm On Mar 25, 2018 |
project4OO:I noticed that too..she is not that innocent as she wants us to believe..look how insultive she is..imagine living in a house with her..you can't hide your true colour, no matter what.. ..thats is why I hate one- sided talk ( especially coming from a woman). if it was her own familybthat was coming. .I bet you she will accommodate them for a year 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Puts His Family’s Interest Over Mine by ImaIma1(f): 9:41pm On Mar 25, 2018 |
mikolo80: Bare survival? The husband's house is more of her home than his familys'. When two people get married, they become ONE and other people INCLUDING FAMILY becomes third parties. Family coming once in a while can be accommodated but it should not be a norm.A lot of them make it their right and make that period tiring for you. Bare survival or home interference, families should learn to keep off as much as possible. 6 Likes |
Re: My Husband Puts His Family’s Interest Over Mine by mikolo80: 10:23pm On Mar 25, 2018 |
ImaIma1:yep says who?not him and he owns the house nothing you can do if HE tolerates nay encourages it and if they don't whatchu go'n do 'bout it who will lose more better forget what you see in the movies |
Re: My Husband Puts His Family’s Interest Over Mine by ImaIma1(f): 12:53am On Mar 26, 2018 |
mikolo80: Only a fool will base their lives on movies that are make believe. I am talking about real life. You obviously do not know what marriage is about or you have a twisted view about it. The woman is not meant to be in a disadvantaged position when she gets married. His house becomes her house. I don't know about your tribe but in mine, the house is mine as much as it is his. And he has a duty to protect me from external issues especially from his family. Inlaws cannot just come and stay like it is their house. Na me get house. 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband Puts His Family’s Interest Over Mine by mikolo80: 12:59am On Mar 26, 2018 |
ImaIma1:i have very real idea you however have romantic unrealistic view like op yes she is if she marries wrong guy which many women do and start crying wolf all after His house becomes her house.hahahaha so naive this is africa not america or europe I don't know about your tribe but in mine, the house is mine as much as it is his.ok you're not a nigerian ,i see And he has a duty to protect me from external issues especially from his family.no,he has duty to protect what he values,clearly not you yeah they can Na me get house.yet they run things in it |
Re: My Husband Puts His Family’s Interest Over Mine by ImaIma1(f): 5:41am On Mar 26, 2018 |
mikolo80: If you like you can dissect further and respond to each letter. You think these are romantic ideas because of your "African" ideas. There are African men that do not have such archaic mentality thankfully. Inlaws cannot run my home. They are visitors and they know that. No issues. However it works for you is your concern. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Puts His Family’s Interest Over Mine by Seahawk: 8:13am On Mar 26, 2018 |
mikolo80:pity yourself |
Re: My Husband Puts His Family’s Interest Over Mine by Seahawk: 8:16am On Mar 26, 2018 |
mikolo80: You sound painfully childish. Wait 15 years. Get married and then come back to tell me all about it. I’ll be here. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Puts His Family’s Interest Over Mine by Nobody: 2:09pm On Mar 26, 2018 |
bukatyne: They do and they did, but that is irrelevant here. The husband is not the one complaining about his wife's family, and I suspect that he would not mind if they came to stay. Men rarely do. It is the wife in this case who thinks she owns her husband and wants to lock his family out. When my maternal grandmother was having some health issues, and my mum asked my father to allow her to stay with us, my father did not hesitate for one minute to personally invite her and furnish a permanent room for her. She stayed with us for six years until she passed away, and I never heard my father complain once about her living with us, despite the fact that she had four living sons of her own who never seemed to care, and the fact that he alone was totally responsible for all her hospital bills and other expenses. My parents have always had an open house policy for any family member that wanted to visit for sometime, whether my father's relatives or my mother's. That is real commitment and real love, and I and my siblings learnt real family values from them, and we are the richer for having such a closely knit family. That is why it incenses me when someone complains about their in-laws incessantly. I wonder what family values the op's children are imbibing from her...the oyinbo type where elderly parents are abandoned to die alone at home in one lonely flat and smell for weeks before being discovered. But what goes around, always comes around. She should keep that in mind. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Puts His Family’s Interest Over Mine by eyinjuege: 6:05pm On Mar 26, 2018 |
Farmerforlife: I believe if more men would take direct responsibility for their parents, maybe their wives would not feel overburdened. This is not pertaining to the OPs case, but just a general observation. Its not easy to have your burdens increased in a home with inlaws, where you are expected to wash their clothes, cook 3 square meals(which you and your husband and children may not bother about usually- atimes skip breakfast, and the children have cereal, they have lunch as school dinners), clean their rooms and possibly their toilets, keep hospital appointments, etc. I would suggest that men that want their parents to live with them be more proactive in the care of their parents, don't wait for someone else's child to bear your burden. If you can't personally care for your parents, get someone you will pay to do so. Employ a proper maid that can make their meals if your wife is also busy and if it would increase her work load, get someone to clean the house every week and to wash their clothes etc. If her own parents also have to come and stay, she either makes the sacrifice for her parents who have also sacrificed for her or she coughs up the money to employ someone to make their stay pleasant. Parents should also learn to let their adult children live their lives and make their own decisions. They are grown ups, they will make mistakes and learn from it same way the parents also did. You dont go to your married son/daughter's house and expect things to be done your own way. They also have their own way which works for them 6 Likes |
Re: My Husband Puts His Family’s Interest Over Mine by armyofone(m): 9:30pm On Mar 26, 2018 |
Four family members at once in your house for six months Damn!! Get busy with your work and make sure there is Chinese food in the fridge for when they are hungry. |
Re: My Husband Puts His Family’s Interest Over Mine by mikolo80: 5:25am On Mar 27, 2018 |
painment Seahawk: |
Re: My Husband Puts His Family’s Interest Over Mine by mikolo80: 5:26am On Mar 27, 2018 |
ImaIma1:those are not ''african'' men
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