HaneefahRN:
I don't think it's really about the gender. I have little sisters and they can be a hand full. Our last born is just 2 and the way she deals with her elder sis who is about 6 is same. She even bullies everyone sef, even if an young child comes visiting and mistakenly sits on her chair, she'll first go to my mum or me and point to the child, if he/she doesn't stand up, she'll go and beat him/her.
She probably sees the elder one has mate cos the way she bullies her ehn, that one will start crying cos she doesn't want to beat her, sometimes we have to beat her small hand to correct her... The elder one was probably being paid back cos she did same or even worse to her immediate elder sis too, LOL.


I have noticed with time they get over it, just show it to them, this is your elder bro or sis, you don't beat them anyhow or forcefully take their things. They blend in as they grow older.

soonest:


Lol. They are all like that. I have 4 boys and this is what happens in my house. Make the 1st stand up to the younger and discipline the younger never to fight his senior thats not acceptable. Infact, the older should be incharge of some of the toys and the younger should ask him when he wants to use them. Threaten to report him to his teacher too. It will get better with time

elRamani:
we are 3 boys in my family and are 5yrs older than each other

but my immediate younger brother and our last born are always quarrelling because the older is slimmer, the youngest would never agree wit his position and mom doesn't want them to fight until one fateful day

they were fighting and mom wasn't around, i simply signalled the elder to beat the living daylight out of him until he put 'Brother' in front of his name, i sat back and made sure they didn't break anything, it was tough and lasted for close to 30mins, when d younger found out there was no other way out than to concede, he started begging me to intervene and i said No unless he did what he was told

Naso my guy started shouting 'brother ilias, e jhor, u're my elder truely'

saintade01:


Triplet? Wow, just prepare for Triple Wahala

Relax, I believe one or two advices from this thread will be of help too

saintade01:
I have a situation right now where the younger bullies his older brother.

He is 2 and the older is 4, but because he's almost the same height with the older one and a bit fatter, he uses every opportunity to ride his brother. Though the older is calm and homely, very gentle and highly intelligent, he even takes care of this younger one as a big brother but this boy will forcefully collect foods, drinks, toys and even his bigger bicycle from him.

I sometimes tell the big brother to beat him and stand up to him whenever he comes with his bullying but that most times results into fights and I don't like seeing them in wrestlemania.

Please parents with similar issues how do you tame them?

saintade01:


Hmmmm. It is well sister, the Lord will surely intervene. I pray he gets his healing fast and learnt his lesson.

I believe parents should learn from this as well. Because all these just started like the story up here and so many parents commenting here are having similar issues. Before it all degenerated into this.

victorian:










Amen! That's my fervent prayer too.
I want him whole and back to his senses again.

Exactly! That's how it always starts. And Parents do overlook it. He was even the most pampered from childhood to University level.

Hmmm, May God help us all. Amen.


You are welcome.

saintade01:


Eeyaa, despite all he has done to you and the family.

Amen. God help us all.
Reach me on the number in my signature, I have an expert you might want to talk to about him.

saintade01:


OH I forgot to mention it. Most times he's been beaten and scolded for his actions but he keeps doing it coz he knows the older is too calm.

chineduemmao:
i have a 2 year old and am just imagining having a word with her...lol

saintade01:
I have a situation right now where the younger bullies his older brother.

He is 2 and the older is 4, but because he's almost the same height with the older one and a bit fatter, he uses every opportunity to ride his brother. Though the older is calm and homely, very gentle and highly intelligent, he even takes care of this younger one as a big brother but this boy will forcefully collect foods, drinks, toys and even his bigger bicycle from him.

I sometimes tell the big brother to beat him and stand up to him whenever he comes with his bullying but that most times results into fights and I don't like seeing them in wrestlemania.

Please parents with similar issues how do you tame them?

Ishilove:

Let them fight, they are boys. That is the only way the elder will establish his seniority. When the younger gets his little butt whupped, he will learn to fear and most importantly respect his older brother.

victorian:










Amen! That's my fervent prayer too.
I want him whole and back to his senses again.

Exactly! That's how it always starts. And Parents do overlook it. He was even the most pampered from childhood to University level.

Hmmm, May God help us all. Amen.


You are welcome.

saintade01:


Thanks for this great response. But don't you think waiting till when they're 6 and 8 before correcting this notions is rather late as kids of these days learn so fast. (imagine that 2 year old playing Temple Run)

MrMakaveli20:

2 year old playing Temple Run? wow. such smart kids you got

bigfrancis21:


Ishilove, da advice specialist!

You should consider opening up your own advice blog...Sisi Ishi Column.

saintade01:





The problem is the older can hardly fight. He even cries first in the fight.

bigfrancis21:


Ishilove, da advice specialist!

You should consider opening up your own advice blog...Sisi Ishi Column.

Probz:


Mazi of Enugu Ukwu. Nice to see you posting elsewhere than that bloody Visa thread for a change. No offence.

How far?