I just have a few questions,

How can I get a naijaboy to love me more? Is it important to show:
- good housekeeper?
- good in bed?
- economically stability?

Or something more, ?

also, what does this mean:

"Nkem, odi'ka ichoziri i isukarim na igbo. Nsowo adia kedi ife i'na eme ugboa. Muwa emechana efe nneme ugboa ozo ano echegi ugboa."


Greetings from a nigerian-loving german

Just show that you are a good wife, for example cooking (No fast food), general house maintenance and be submissive to him.

skfa1:

Is that your pix?

Yes it is my picture, why do you ask?


Well, to be submissive is not a good thing, Or is it?

Maga won pay shout halleluyah

c-zer:

Why are you dey lie that is not your pix you are black i know you dont deceive people kpako

This is funny, why should I lie??

I am not black, Dont know where this is coming from, "kpako"

@ German1234,

It's a pity that only the jokers have taken interest in your topic. I think it's cool you want to understand your partner better, it shows you care and are sincere. Just be yourself, don't force it. There's no textbook way to get to a "Naija" man's heart. Some care about home cooking, some don't. Some care about you being submissive, but most just want you to be a strong woman. One major thing though is RESPECT. That's one fast way to keep a (good) Naija man.

maedan:
@ German1234,

It's a pity that only the jokers have taken interest in your topic. I think it's cool you want to understand your partner better, it shows you care and are sincere. Just be yourself, don't force it. There's no textbook way to get to a "Naija" man's heart. Some care about home cooking, some don't. Some care about you being submissive, but most just want you to be a strong woman. One major thing though is RESPECT. That's one fast way to keep a (good) Naija man.

Thank you for your reply! Yes it is most certainly a pity,  But what can you expect from an internet forum? 

When you say "respect", what do you mean. There are many ways of giving respect I think,  One is giving him the respect to be a man that wants to do what he wants to do. Another way is to respect his ways as a Nigerian - which I think is the best kind of respect you can give,

I see. Well, i wish you all the best in your search.

German1234:


also, what does this mean:

"Nkem, odi'ka ichoziri i isukarim na igbo. Nsowo adia kedi ife i'na eme ugboa. Muwa emechana efe nneme ugboa ozo ano echegi ugboa."


Greetings from a nigerian-loving german

This is what it means;

"My dear, it seems that u intend to speak igbo more than i do. No problem. What's going on now?
I'm already through with my job but another is waiting for u now."

Hope i got it to ur satisfaction.

odiaero:

am not telling ya am taking a train to germany, am taking a train to the nearest airport, and plz there is no MAGA here, if u fake ursel finish, u will just find out that u spent all your money buying tickets in cyber cafe, so u are the looser

Okay, and what is it exactly I am trying to scam here? Good advise? haha, Yes, that will put me to jail for sure, I think that you are the 419 here!

guys, i dont think there's a reason to crucify the poster. she s in need of some quality advise, i think she deserves our candid opinion. i am wondering my self what she ll gain by faking her identity. even if she 's fake, it ll take another equally GREEDY chap to fall for her cheap blackmail. so pls hear her out.

Just be a nice girl/lady, show him you can make a good wife and always keep your words.

Gosh!! Nairaland! You all never take anything serious. When it's a genuine person, you still doubt him/her. Yet you fall hard for the smooth-talking fakers.

@ German1234,
By "respect" I meant don't be rude, talk to him with courtesy no matter his financial/educational status etc. Western women are known to be very opinionated, but treating him with due respect would win any man's love.

lets start from d basics.
were is ur man from, how long have u guyz been together.
is he mixed, niger proper or a lost son.

dat wud help for a start

Poster,

Yeah. . . To be with a Nigerian guy, you need to be submissive. . .

You need to be a clean and neat girl. . . At least thats what I see in most Niegrian men need's. They get taste 

And u must know how to cook. . . And try to learn to cook their native dish! Thats like 10 points!

But most of all, if their friends come by, your hosting skills is needed, They love it plus please whatever you do, dont serve them too much or any sugary items.    and when u serving drinks, dont serve any if you dont have alcohol. Just let them source your fridge for drinks. LOL! 

And speaking about physical appearances, well, different men has different taste. Some like the lepa shandi some like lepa some like orobo and some likes puff puff

hmm i would have thought that we nigerian guys are the same as all other guys. there might be one or two cultural differences but u will have to find about from him directly and be ready to reach certain compromises. there is no rocket science to it you really just have to be yourself.

I am also in some foreign sites and they have never been so skeptical as you guys are.

So she needs advice,give it to her.

germany1234 :-

Be submissive and learn to cook naija food.
Have interest in his local language.
Plan along with him on how he can make a better future.
Do not turn yourself to a remote control,say out your opinion when and where necessary but have it in mind that he is the man and he deserves respect.
Dont be a talkative in the midst of his friends or family,be calm as mush as possible and be a good listener.
Please do not nag unnecessarily.
Please do not smoke,if you drink alcohol,make it less than moderate.
be very good in bed anytime you are making love,but don't be a intimacy machine,say no when you don't feel like.

Pls use this for now,if i can remember something else,i will let you know.

cheerz

newmusic:

I am also in some foreign sites and they have never been so skeptical as you guys are.

So she needs advice,give it to her.

germany1234 :-

Be submissive and learn to cook naija food.
Have interest in his local language.
Plan along with him on how he can make a better future.
Do not turn yourself to a remote control,say out your opinion when and where necessary but have it in mind that he is the man and he deserves respect.
Dont be a talkative in the midst of his friends or family,be calm as mush as possible and be a good listener.
Please do not nag unnecessarily.
Please do not smoke,if you drink alcohol,make it less than moderate.
be very good in bed anytime you are making love,but don't be a intimacy machine,say no when you don't feel like.

Pls use this for now,if i can remember something else,i will let you know.

cheerz

GBAM!!! Exactly that!!!

you people have seriously deviated off this topic, if u want love from a naija bloke, d first tin na food *local delicacy*, second tin na submission, 3rd tin na care, 4th tin na straffs *naija boiz like kitten die*, etc etc, but if u do all dis tins and d guy no gree love u, na babalawo b d next step.

Gosh! Poster, Come to think of it. . . Naija men are kinda cute u know?

I know they dont like getting angry with us females but at times its so good to make them angry cause their faces look like some cute little peanut and when they raise their voice, u can really see the man in them! Not any man but the REAL MAN!!!

Oh Gosh! Its sooo good and the feeling is great!

Please love him and respect him very much, find out good things he likes and make him happy doing them okay.
I beg to differ with this submissive thing not that I am challenging men. Relationships and marriage are all about two people respecting each other, when one of the party is disagreeing and is wrong at the same time, respect here means the other party arguing in love and trying to make the wrong partner over to the right path as gently and respectfully as possible to avoid heated arguments, nagging and unhappiness. A woman does not need to agree verbatim with a man when he is wrong in the name of submitting and making him feel like the head, she can still give her opinion respectfully. Should a woman close her eyes and watch her man lead their family astray because she has to submit? I believe that relationship and marriage is so much about loving and respecting each other to the point that there's no room for Mr. submission, if you love a woman you will not want to put her through stuffs that she hates but closes her eyes to in order to submit to you neither should she close her mouth when her man is doing dirty and risky deals.
    I'm not a feminist & neither am I saying this to spite men , I know how to compliment, respect and value the people around me and make them feel real appreciated.Our men are taking this submission thing to such levels that most men will go to a great length in search of a "yes woman" as a wife, it is very important to him that he can control her. What control? She is a human being like you, not a slave, not a servant. A mature human being does not need to control the people around him or his wife, just let her be as comfortable as you are in the relationship and you will have all her love. Will you rather your wife develops the fear of you and begin to detest you and not want you around, when you are nearing home her hearts beats faster. That is the unhappy condition many women in our country are living in. A person that desires to be submitted to,wants to be controlling and set out in search of a woman to control has some form of complex & lacks confidence. I know this will draw the ire of the unmatured ones here but yes somebody has to say this, if not now maybe in years to come because some of us have it all wrong. Us women already know that we need to make our men feel like the head of the family, submission is just not the word but respect is. Can't you see that that word is even making you naija men look like villains and bullies in the eyes of the world. Think hard about that!

well, i've read a lot candid advices here,
so chose ye the part to follow

@German1234 don't you think you are wired differently, upbringing, culture, environment, mental attitude. To be able to jell you will learn to see through his coloured window panes

@German1234
Woher kommst du? es gibt ja viele Nigerianisce Maenner in DE/EU,der so eine huebsche wie du suchst?

If he offer all you asked,what do you have to offer?

benabbey:

@German1234 don't you think you are wired differently, upbringing, culture, environment, mental attitude. To be able to jell you will learn to see through his coloured window panes

Hmmmmn. Poetic .

Be a good cook.
Clean the house.
Be submissive.
Look good always, don`t let your self down because you are now together.

I will suggest you learn to cook some naija dishes.

just 'be' yourself and don't cheat on him, ok?

How did this make front page

You can pick from any of the candid advice here, just try to be yourself cos life has got no specific rules.

Good in bed?

E be like say una don chase the oyinbo poster away sef.

gregejige:

E be like say una don chase the oyinbo poster away sef.