NwaAmaikpe:



Nice topic.

Hypergamy can not be criticized because it is only natural for a woman to aspire to be hitched with someone higher than her financially because a woman's life revolves around what she can get from a man.

Naturally, women are receptors, nature has created and defined them to be at the receiving end of what the man doles out.
The biblical record of the female creation shows women are an attachment; an extension of the original....even their anatomy confirms this analogy.


They love to collect,
A woman wants you to give her everything and all she gives in return is sex, demands and trouble.

NwaAmaikpe:



Nice topic.

Hypergamy can not be criticized because it is only natural for a woman to aspire to be hitched with someone higher than her financially because a woman's life revolves around what she can get from a man.

Naturally, women are receptors, nature has created and defined them to be at the receiving end of what the man doles out.
The biblical record of the female creation shows women are an attachment; an extension of the original....even their anatomy confirms this analogy.

They love to collect,
A woman wants you to give her everything and all she gives in return is sex, demands and trouble.

CAPSLOCKED:



MISSCAPS, IS AN EXCEPTION.

AlexCk:
Maybe because polygamy is literally 'double wahala', and the other two are just societal status, which really shouldn't matter, as long as both parties are faithful to each other.


[s]"Men are polygamous in nature" should apply to men that lack self-control biko.[/s]

People are capable of doing 'evil things', but 'common sense' is what makes us unique.

Elder001:
Greiboy do you have anything to say?

greiboy:
it is a tricky subject that requires deep thoughts

Polygamy is about having more than one wife or husband at the same time. it requires sharing love and romantic experience with others. it affects others that might not have requested for such experience e.g. the children

Therefore, the major reason why polygamy is discouraged in western and most developed societies asides the Islamic world is because of the adverse effect on the children's welfare. I.e. the finance it will take to take care of the innocent children, the affection might not be adequate for the upbringing of the children, one only has to look at situation in northern Nigeria to understand their fears

Otherwise every other thing might be overlooked.

The religious Christians also have argument against it in the bible, They claim it is against the preaching of God by quoting a passage in the Bible to backup their claims. And religious Christians have a huge say in the constitutions of some Western countries like America

On the other hand, HYPERGAMY doesn't necessarily have impact on others, unlike polygamy. So there is very little case any activist or social crusader can present against it, besides moral suasion and hoping people (ladies) actually listen.

It affect mainly the seekers of such experience either positively or negatively. In addition, just like hypergamy it is not entirely gender specific but it is rare amongst men because of issues such the male ego etc.

Elder001:


what if the man has enough finance to take care of the children?

greiboy:
Well if the women in question are willing to be second wives in that situation, I think no one can stop them.

But the western popular culture, coupled with the more favorable financial situation of most western countries might work against men interested in polygamy.

poverty is one of the major reasons why women go into such relationships in Africa.

Yes one can be in a HYPOGAmy and polygamous relationship at the same time

Elder001:



The woman has no right to tell the man to be monogamous.. that's a man's choice.

As long as the man is comfortable with it then nobody should be against it.

Twoclans:


Hello bills

Elder001:


Good morning boo

I've been downloading videos

NwaAmaikpe:



Nice topic.

Hypergamy can not be criticized because it is only natural for a woman to aspire to be hitched with someone higher than her financially because a woman's life revolves around what she can get from a man.

Naturally, women are receptors, nature has created and defined them to be at the receiving end of what the man doles out.
The biblical record of the female creation shows women are an attachment; an extension of the original....even their anatomy confirms this analogy.

They love to collect,
A woman wants you to give her everything and all she gives in return is sex, demands and trouble.

Twoclans:


Music videos? Its seems your love good music .

How are you?

Elder001:


American videos

The tourist, Pacific rim, Pirates; stagnettis revenge, Avengers; infinity war and wonder woman.

my day was fine and yours?

Twoclans:


My day was fine,I am in bed already .
This one you came online by this time,I Gus's you had a busy dat.

Elder001:


Not really busy... I'm downloading some videos ,when I'm done I'll sleep early.
I've important things to attend to as from next week. I don't even know if I'll be online till next month.

Twoclans:


That is fine,is next month your wedding or is it work related ?

Elder001:


...Work

aren't you sleeping yet?

Twoclans:


About to,just wanted to respond to your mention .

UDUJ:
None of us are as “liberated” and “enlightened” as we might think. In unrealized sexual encounters, it’s usually the woman who says no. Women being much pickier than men is hardwired into the feminine psyche. Why? Because a sexual encounter for men can potentially be nothing more than a few minutes of pleasure.

For women—at least prior to birth control and easy abortion—a sexual encounter can potentially be very costly. It can lead to nine months of pregnancy, nursing, followed by total care for a child until at least age eighteen. And since women tend to be physically weaker than men, unprotected women tend to be easy prey for unscrupulous men.

So, women are hypergamous in ways men tend not to be. A woman’s deepest instincts tell her to look for a man who can and will not only provide for their children, but who can protect his family.

Bottom line: The world is the oyster of older men who are wealthy, powerful, and charismatic. Similarly, the world is the oyster of younger women who are attractive, attractive, and attractive.

lefulefu:
Polygamy is not frowned in Nigeria. There are men who still engage in it even till today. yea its frowned in the west but even in the same west.. A man could divorce if he gets tired of the wife and marry another. If i am right.. Donald Trump has been divorced twice and he's married to his third wife..so i don't know how we would call such a relationship. Seems to me like a polygamous marriage of sorts.

Hanseel1:



You didn't talk about the main topic .

Why are people especially women against polygamy when nobody is against hypergamy?

Men are polygamous by nature and you should also know that hypergamy isn't limited to one gender.