A-40:

[b]How long did it take for you to reciprocate the interest? [/b]cos sometimes its all about the timing! You might be saying yes when he simply got tired of holding his breath and is just about walking out the door. He probably may stay back to justify the time he's wasted cos men are logical by nature but things would not quite be the same

A-40:

How long did it take for you to reciprocate the interest cos sometimes its all about the timing! You might be saying yes when he simply got tired of holding his breath and is just about walking out the door. He probably may stay back to justify the time he's wasted cos men are logical by nature but things would not quite be the same

Faher:

@OP

It could be because of the "you played hard-to-get for too long" concept OR
because he wants you to like him more and so would behave uninterested
So that you'll fall madly in love with him due to his "I'm-ignoring-you" behavior which a lot of ladies seem to like.
It works sometimes, I've tried it.

cantell:

@Topic,
Accepting a guy sooner doesn't make a lady cheap, like some women would think.
Some guys hate women who play hard to get and when they see that kind of women, they either do everything to get them and then dump them later or they'll back out without trying.
Just like its difficult for women to get a man , so it is for men.
Men have a better advantage but it doesn't make things easier. Just a bit diiferent.
So if guys are leaving when you decide to go out with them, it probably means you made them wait for too long or the goods didn't worth the price.
Ciao.

Lacrissa:

I'm not really speaking for myself but in general but speaking of myself now, there was no long timing neither did I play hard to get. I just never declared any feelings, was going with the flow until he wanted to walk out due to age difference not even more than a month and I expressed my feelings.


Not always the case. I don't think so and I never played hard to get. I have always been real.

Faher:

Can you explain the words in bold? why was it not in your original post?
Seems you're misleading us, no?

MRbrownJAY:

@poster
what about if the guy realized that this gal wasnt what he had expected (wasnt all that) and that under all the pretense and make up, she had no substance. should he continue show interest for the sake of your ego?

its funny how some women think that if a man start to show interest, then he should do so for the rest of his natural life. . . . . . . . . . . . . .like it being some kind of unwritten contract. LOL!

Lacrissa:

I meant, we were dating, yes maybe he had feelings for me and I showed I did but just never told him. I took it easy until he wanted to walk away due to age difference and him not sure if I was really feeling him. I then declared my feelings to him.

Faher:

What's the age difference?
are you older than him?
When you declared your feelings, how did he react?

n-guage:

Not just men, human beings can be weird, especially in matters relating to the opposite gender. Maybe declaring your feelings for him made him more relaxed and now he's sure he has you in the bag already. Call him before stop asking us.

Lacrissa:

He's older, about 12 yrs older. When I did so he wouldn't walk away, he decided to stay.

I think we're dragging the issue too far. It's all down to you, make it work or end the show

Lacrissa:

That's not what I mean. Even before the woman starts showing the bad side, even while she's still good.
BTW MrBrownJay, pls check your email still concerning the same issue.

MRbrownJAY:

the minute we meet women, we discover stuff about y'all. the minute you open your mouth to say hello, the minute you act, we discover more about you and all these instances can be a reason to back off.
you really think that men need to be shown your bad side?! some men can see it in you before you even show it by.

remember that how you see yourself might not be how he sees you.

you got mail!

Faher:

I think we're dragging the issue too far. It's all down to you, make it work or end the show

Onchedu:

If I like a girl and want her to show interest in me I appreciate the interests she shows as long as it doesnt come off as too sudden, too good to be true or obsessive.

Men are more logical than emotional and I think I speak for most guys when I say we like to know what your interest on us is based and that we earned it.

If your interested in a guy, let him know why. unless he's only interested in getting in your pants a guy wants to know it's him U like not just the idea of "a guy" hanging around U.

tayo_ast:

u're just unlucky.
Men are not d same?

Lacrissa:

How can a guy know you like him for him and not just the idea of a guy hanging around you? What is the difference?

iice:

Desperation. . .demands. . .play too hard to get. . .shrew