Bryan12:
The worst thing that can happen to any man is engaging his resources,energy and time raising another man's kid irrespective of where or who they come from.The main essence of any man alive is to send his genetic sample into the future via having his own children,training them etc.

Any man who fails to do this has ultimately failed in life.Take it or leave it that's the harsh truth.

onyekabe:
she claims that her ex is violent and a womanizer

chemberlin:
Be careful, evil women everywhere..for her to leave the husband because he womanizes tells she is not tolorant because it in the gene of every man to cheat and it takes a good woman to forgive if not even for anything it should be for the sake of those kids..Am not saying what the husband did was right, your brother will not make a difference..your brother will only find out after some years that he has supported her in training her children and the same way she left the husband that how she will leave your brother

onyekabe:
There is this my brother, he has never been married. But now he said he has seen a woman he wants to marry.

But the problem is that his family members are not in support of the marriage because the woman is a divorcee with 3 kids under the age of 10. The kids live with the woman.

The question is, is it wise for this man to marry this woman and take responsibility of the kids because the woman says her kids must be with her.

TonyeBarcanista:

have you seen any divorcée that says good about her ex husband? They tell same lines

onyekabe:
There is this my brother, he has never been married. But now he said he has seen a woman he wants to marry.

But the problem is that his family members are not in support of the marriage because the woman is a divorcee with 3 kids under the age of 10. The kids live with the woman.

The question is, is it wise for this man to marry this woman and take responsibility of the kids because the woman says her kids must be with her.

Tobycharles:


Obviously coming from a feminist, can you advise your brother to marry her?

Skyloloprince:
If your sister was a subject of a violent marriage u won’t be asking this, does it mean a divorcee isn’t capable of loving or being loved? She may be better than the single girls who think life is abt Fun..... I see nothing wrong

chemberlin:
Be careful, evil women everywhere..for her to leave the husband because he womanizes tells she is not tolorant because it in the gene of every man to cheat and it takes a good woman to forgive if not even for anything it should be for the sake of those kids..Am not saying what the husband did was right, your brother will not make a difference..your brother will only find out after some years that he has supported her in training her children and the same way she left the husband that how she will leave your brother

onyekabe:
There is this my brother, he has never been married. But now he said he has seen a woman he wants to marry.

But the problem is that his family members are not in support of the marriage because the woman is a divorcee with 3 kids under the age of 10. The kids live with the woman.

The question is, is it wise for this man to marry this woman and take responsibility of the kids because the woman says her kids must be with her.

cococandy:
Nothing stops him from also having his own kids

SirLakes:
Haha
Your brother will go bald before age 45 with wahala

Egbon yen MA palori

cococandy:
That’s a lot of responsibility for him to assume. Let him not get carried away by new love and get committed into responsibilities that will weigh heavily on him later.

That’s being said , if he has thoroughly searched his heart and he believes he’s doing this for the right reason (not infatuation) and that he can actually do it when it starts getting tough, then I can point out a few positives that I already see in the woman.

1)She’s brave to walk away from an abusive marriage with three kids. If she lives in Nigeria, she’s a really strong mama. That’s the kind of strong woman you want as an ally. On your side not against you.

2) she’s not desperate to hook up. some women because of societal pressures and mockery often latch onto the next guy that proposes marriage even if it means giving up their kids maybe to grand parents or relatives. This woman wants her kids with her or no marriage. Give her one bottle jimmy choo .

Bryan12:


If reverse was the case,would you do same?

TonyeBarcanista:

have you seen any divorcée that says good about her ex husband? They tell same lines

Bryan12:


If reverse was the case,would you do same?

Swint:
so cos she has three kids you automatically see her as not good enough for marriage. The ex is obviously irresponsible for leaving the kids and she’s a very strong lady especially for having the mind to insist her kids must stay with her women with lesser strength will dump the kids and follow the man. Everyone deserves a second chance at happiness

milemimi93:


women always playin the victim card since 15BC.

And for the ex to leave the kids with her shows those kids do not belong to her ex.

Bros this your conclusion na waec oooo

milemimi93:


women always playin the victim card since 15BC.

And for the ex to leave the kids with her shows those kids do not belong to her ex.

cococandy:


Personally I wouldn’t marry a man with 3 kids. If that’s what’s you’re asking. I’m not capable of that type of responsibility. However if someone else feels they can handle it, why not?

The thing I’m against is discrimination against single parents as if there’s something wrong with them personally